My boyfriend of seven years and fiance of one year has told me that he is going to break up with me when I go back to school, which is in less than two months. He wants us to carry on as we have been until then. He says that he needs to figure some things out about himself. He is a good man to me and I would sincerely like to marry him and have his children. What should I do? Should I keep acting happy knowing what is to come? Or should I leave now?
2006-07-11 15:00:09 · 11 answers · asked by Renee C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He might genuinely mean what he says about wanting to figure some stuff out. You have been together a long time for your age, so I am guessing neither of you has much dating experience apart from each other.
On the other hand, if he is about your age, it is odd that he does not know what he wants yet.
Regardless, I would definitely accelerate the ending of the relationship. If he misses you awfully, maybe he "figures things out" before you leave. If he doesn't, then you have 2 more months to recover BEFORE school starts. It ain't like you need that additional distraction as you start college.
Good luck.
2006-07-11 15:34:07 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Quark 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave this selfish loser now! He's a creep with no thoughts of anyone but himself.
It will be hard, but you should enjoy the rest of your summer and use it to find friends and possibly a romantic interest who will treat you as you deserve. Why should you have to pretend to be happy?
Why would he want to keep everything the same until you go back to school? Is it because he doesn't want to look like an a** in front of your friends and family? He wants to keep the appearance of a perfect relationship? Or is it because he wants to keep a sure thing until you go away?
Leave him now and if family, friends, or anyone else asks, keep your head high and explain to them that your fiance informed you that he was going to break up with you once you left for school, you did not appreciate being treated as a Netflix rental that gets returned whenever HE felt like it and let him end it now.
I am so sorry that this happened to you but I know there is someone fantastic out there waiting for you. Be strong, good luck and God Bless.
2006-07-11 22:12:54 · answer #2 · answered by stseukn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 8 years he doesn't know something about himself. I would suspect something is not right. Why should you put up with this knowing that he's going to leave you. Don't set yourself up for this.Talk to him and set things down on the table. It would seem that it's right thing to do. If he's really in love with you, he must see the light at the end of the tunnel. If not, then have you wasted these last years for nothing ? Good luck ... God bless.
2006-07-11 22:09:49 · answer #3 · answered by papo9112001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl girl girl...
"Chasekate19" has it right, he has already left you emotionally, he just wants to USE YOU.
why stay in that situation? You're bright and pretty so why don't you think you're worthy?
It is time for all women to Stop allowing men to use them as their own personal dump site.
Go to school FOCUS on school before you know it Mr. right will have appeared.
Leave that Using MANipulating, I just want to f-ck you til you're gone, spineless excuse of a MAN where he's at, alone... and out of his mind .
You can do Much better for your self, so check your face, fix your hair and make-up and grab your books and ...
You GO girl!
2006-07-11 22:21:24 · answer #4 · answered by Honey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what are the pros and the cons knowing that it is coming can lead you to be sad and angry now or you could wait till school starts when you need to be focused my advice would be to end it now that gives you time to heal before you need to worry about school and if you break up with him it will let you be more assertive in the relationship he will know that he is missing out good luck and it will be ok
2006-07-11 22:04:16 · answer #5 · answered by skits 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should leave because if he told you that he is going to break up with you, there is definetly a good reason that he is saying that
2006-07-11 22:03:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him what you really think and if he does not under stand then or if he does not approve In the next 2 mouths then dump him your to good for him.e-mail me at meaganr13@yahoo.com
2006-07-11 22:33:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you act "happy" if your not happy? When someone is being themself, they show all there emotions, they don't hide them..especially from someone they say, they love...be up front about what you feel and what you think....see what he says, then take it from there...
2006-07-11 22:05:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just leave now. he's already broke up with u in his mind .he wants to continue to have sex until u leave
2006-07-11 22:04:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why put off what you can do today. Dump him first.
2006-07-11 22:04:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋