Am I misunderstanding him? i went to visit a church last week, i'm mixed, i was the only one with color there.

Question

i know the preacher's a good man and i believe he's saved. but he was preaching about how the saved is mixing with the unsaved and becoming worldly just like them. he said when he was young the whites couldn't stand it that the blacks were allowed to start going in the same places as them. then he said, but it happened, now they got mixed marriages. then he said, now i'm not here to throw stones at it.
do you see it as him comparing mixed marriages to saved people mixing with the unsaved. do you think he's saying mixed marriages is wrong? because God has no respect of people, and if mixed marriages was so wrong, then why did God strike Moses' sister miriam with leporsy for making fun of Moses' mixed marriage (King James Version Bible The Book Of Numbers 12:1-16)
i just wonder if i took him wrong. thanx best answer will be chosen.

Answer 1

I usually do not touch subjects as this. But here is a short answer.
That is why a lot of people do not go to church anymore. Some preachers do not preach the bible but what they want to. God made everything in different colors if he only liked white then everything thing would be white. But he love many colors. That preacher he is partial, he is saying it in a subtle way. Ask him to SHOW you where in the bible it says that. Betcha he won't have a answer. Because it is something HE is saying. You should always let the bible do the talking and make sure everything you say comes from the bible, that is your proof.

Answer 2

Here is my question to you. Are you a child of God? If you are (I believe you are) Then you should be right there praising God too! If a man says that a mixed marriage is wrong and an abomination then I would say the following, "Why are you judging that marriage between two people who love God?" God has the only true power to lay down judgement and that man should show love to everyone.

Look, in the church I attend there are men and women from different races that marry and they are happy. We in the church support that marriage and we think it is awesome that a man and a woman come together as one flesh! That is so cool!!! So do not dispair - just because you are mixed does not mean a thing! Except your mom and dad loved one another and you are an expression of that love!!! Also remember God loves you and if you were the only person on this planet God would still send Jesus to die on the cross just for YOU!!!!!


I would also do the following, do some serious research on marriages and christianity. If there is a definite law by God that states mixed marriages are wrong or a sin then I would have to go with what God says. Unfortunately, I have yet to see a verse that states mixed marriages are bad or wrong!

God Bless Ya and have a great week!!!

Answer 3

I really hope that he was not preaching on a problem with mixed marriages! There is nothing wrong with that or any 2 races marrying. There is no place for bigotry in a church!
It sounds like his message just wasn't received. Remember that preachers are human, not celestial. While a Reverend/Preacher is supposed to be guided by the holy spirit they mess up too. I am thinking that in his message he was trying to make a comparison of how an interracial marriage WAS considered wrong and now it is okay SO if the unsaved marry the saved one day it will be considered okay. Not a real good comparison if you ask me and to be honest, I think that is fine as well. If you love someone enough it is just one difference and no 2 people have everything in common. Unless you are extremely devout in your faith then you may want to reconsider.
If this is a church that you are thinking about attending regularly, you may want to bring it up to hear his answer. Or read his body language when he responds.
And as you are the "only one with color there" that is unfortunately too big of a problem in churches across America. It seems that there is a natural segregation in Churches. But that is why certain Churches are dying out. Please go somewhere you are completely comfortable and know God just appreciates your interest and your desire for him!

Answer 4

I am afraid that you probably did not misunderstand this preacher. There is a "theology" ( I use this word very loosely) which teaches that blacks are from Ham, the cursed son of Noah. Whites, however, are not in that cursed lineage. They try to substantiate this by claiming that only Ham's decendants moved into the African continent. I've seen them pull verses out of context to prove this point, but, honestly, it is such an ignorant and unlearned idea which they choose to believe that I don't even try to show them their error any more. Somehow, it seems to make them feel better about themselves. I've never heard anyone teach that colored people cannot be saved, but some are very close to it.

I write this with great sadness. Over and over again, we are told in scripture that we, Christians, are to be of one mind; we all make up the Body of Christ; we are all needed and important; we are to love each other, and we are all equal. This type of teaching only splinters the church. It does not truely edify or build up anyone. Instead, it causes dissention, dischord, hautiness, pride, and arrogance. It does not show true Christian love. Instead, it puts others down.

In Ephesians, Paul stated that in Christ, there is no Jew or Gentile. Instead, people are made into new creations. They become Christian!

I am white. And, I can only appologize for the ignorance you had to endure. I'm sure this preacher had good intentions but, untruth is untruth no matter what the intent! I ask that you not be angry, but instead, pray for these people.

Answer 5

As far as saved and unsaved marriages, it would be hard for the marriage to work. But I say in rare cases it might and even the lost person would get saved. Now as far as you being mixed color and marrying a white or black there is nothing wrong with that. Jesus didnt see color when he took the word to everyone, he saw lost souls. I wished alot of people would stop seeing color and see the person. I was never raised to be bias, but it sure is all around me. I think that the pastor was trying to inform about the dangers of being unequally yoked, but I know many woman who have unsaved husbands, not sure if they married before one was saved, but their faith has only growed because they want their husbands saved so badly. I also think he touched a little on himself being bias, but I could be wrong.

Answer 6

It's better to be mixed than MIXED UP like that preacher is. His comparison was very wrong and showed what was in his heart. God has no problem with people marrying people of a different color. He has a problem with believers marrying non-believers. The preacher made a mistake, whether intentional or not. Hang on to God's Word, not man's. That way you will know the TRUTH, and the truth will make you free.

Answer 7

It's interesting to me how people of the same faith (you and that preacher you mentioned)......and who believe in the same Bible......can have such opposing points of view on the SAME subject.

Can one of you be "right" and the other "wrong?"......maybe your both "right".....MAYBE your both "wrong?"

You quoted from the Bible itself, so it's obvious you're a religious woman. But that preacher is a "saved" man of God (according to you, anyway).

And because you believe the preacher is a "saved" man of God, you begin to doubt YOUR OWN beliefs!! Don't you KNOW what the truth is regarding mixed marriages? Better yet, don't you "feel" what the right answer is regarding mixed marriages?

Your answer, right now, should be "YES!"

Of course you do!

Listen sweetheart......the Bible, and it's many verses, are obviously open to many interpretations (you and that preacher certainly has a different interpretation on the same subject), but what counts is what YOU (as the individual) takes from the Bible that which makes YOU feel good about yourself, and YOUR world.

The preacher, wether he's "saved" or not, is just a human, and as such, he's prone to make mistakes, just like the rest of us.

It doesn't help that the Bible can be interpreted differently by different folks......but at the core of YOUR beliefs should be the word of God - as YOU feel it should be interpreted pertaining to YOUR life.

Don't doubt yourself, nor your beliefs! You've let someone else briefly sway you from your beliefs. He's cast doubts on your beliefs. But why?They're YOUR BELIEFS after all! You should be unwavering in YOUR BELIEFS!

There's no "misunderstanding".......c'mon babe, no matter what you hear on the subject, you KNOW what the truth is regarding mixed marriages. The truth is that It's what YOU believe what counts!

Answer 8

glad to hear you tested the spirits because that's what the bible teaches us to do. To talk about mixed marriage to try to explain about saved and unsaved people was very wrong. When the bible speaks about the saved and unsaved, it's talking about being unequally yoked. What it's actually saying is a christian should marry a christian and not a non-christian. But if they do marry (the christian and non-christian) it say not to put them away because the non-believer is saved thru the one who is. The preacher is a racist. Don't be equally yoked with him. I'm native american and everytime I walk into a church like this I get these "what the hell is he doing here looks" HA! So, I don't go to church anymore. As soon as these people say Hi and glad to see you, After church services they go back to their old racist ways. I see them on the streets and wave and they are like "who the hell are you waving at?" Ha!ha! I walk up to them and want to have fellowship with them and they like move to the other end of the parking lot. What did I do? Does my color scare them? ha,ha,ha!. I was baptised in the name of the Father, The Son, And The holy Ghost. And they still come to me saying they want to convert me. Whne I tell them to what and explain to them that I am already a christian, they are not satisfied with that. What they are really saying is " I want to drag your butt to church and show people that they brought a heathen in so they can save me. I can go on and on with this but I think you catch my drift. I'm still saved no matter what they think or say. I hope you find the right church soon. I still listen to the preachers but only on television. This way I don't see the negative loooks in the churches and hear the negative talks afterwards. Yeah, he was doing good until he brought up the part about blacks and whites. Don't worry us natives get them too.

Answer 9

The Bible says not to be unequally yolked. Many preachers say that means races shouldn't mix, but I dont think thats what it means, it never mentioned race, as a matter of fact, race is meaningless to God. It more likley means, like your preacher was saying, that unsaed people should not mix with the unsaved, when it comes to marriage. It makes it easier for someone to lose faith, stop going to church, get more into the world, if their spouse does not support them in their faith.

Now, its possible your pastor may be a little racist, and threw that in there too. If you think he is, look for more clues, you may want to find a new church.

Answer 10

I don't think he meant it as something that is wrong, but probably more of a visual representation-type thing. Comparing the concept of becoming "yoked with an unbeliever" and the mixing racial marriages, but not the morality aspect. People can visually see the mixing of races, and can understand the "mixing" of spiritualities more visually that way. I should hope he did not mean to imply the moral implications of saved/unsaved marriages to mixed racial marriages.

I have to admit, that is a poor comparison and choice of words for him to use.

Answer 11

Since I wasn't there to hear HOW he said it I can't be sure, but the fact that he even brough it up in the first place and then tried defending what he said by saying that he wasn't there to throw stones, sounds to me like he is against it. It's too bad that people are still thinking like that. My husband and I are a mixed couple so I know what it's like to be "different". I wouldn't worry too much about it though, as long as you have a good head on your shoulders and know what's right and wrong then let it go. He's the one with the problem not you.