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They will always be that way, once you get older you get over it

2006-07-11 14:42:39 · answer #1 · answered by jlimages 3 · 0 0

I am almost 29 years old and going through the exact same thing! Luckily one of my cousins just got a divorce so my mother has nothing to compare me to but the oldest cousin just had a baby and my mom compares what I did raising my daughter to how their raising their son, it is very frustrating.

I am still trying to figure out how to deal with it and put up with it but most of the time it seems to help to ask about her and her sister or something and then everything is done for about an hour, maybe!

If you find a way to make it stop please let me know, I would be more than appreciative! Good Luck!

2006-07-11 15:37:14 · answer #2 · answered by mom2abigsis 2 · 0 0

Shock her socks off! Send her flowers with a note stating how lucky you are for having her as a mother.

Clean your room.
Do the dishes.
Have dinner ready for her when she gets home.

When she gets suspicious. Just tell her you wouldn't know what to do without her.

Keep this activity up for three months (flowers once only). If she hasn't turned the tables and started bragging about you then abruptly stop.

When she asks why you stopped simply tell her that you were trying to make her happy and apparently you haven't discovered what it would take to make her love you.

I know it's a guilt trip but I have seen it work. She just doesn't realize what a wonderful person she has in you and it may take a little of this shock treatment.

Good luck

2006-07-11 14:54:34 · answer #3 · answered by BP 4 · 0 0

ahh i hate when my mom does that it annoyes me a lot most of my cousins that live in the same state are either younger then me or older than me and she compares me with them even though theyre younger! i only have one cousin in this state thats older than me by a year and hes kinda a loser no offense to my cousin but my mom always compares me with him..i mean theres nothing i can learn about him he should be the one learing form me haha.. im so much better than him and my mom still compares me with him..but i just tell my mom not to compare me because i dont like it

2006-07-11 14:44:19 · answer #4 · answered by Leo 3 · 0 0

Be honest and upfront; "Mum when you say ...." "Mum when You compare me to ...." I feel ....." she may not realize that she is doing it, if you feel she does then be say something like "I'd prefer you didn't compare me to .... because we are two different people" you could give her something to think about..." Mum I think you did a great job bringing me up and I love you the way you are, love me the way I am.
Sometimes people say and do things because they feel they are guiding the other person but it doesn't always come out that way and your mum needs to know that she's damaging your relationship with her comments. Good Luck

2006-07-11 14:47:00 · answer #5 · answered by Just Thinking 6 · 0 0

Just try your best to be better than ur cousin so that ur mother will soon have nothing to compare!

2006-07-11 14:45:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

actually, honestly, straightforwardly...u cant. if your mother's personality is like that, there is nothing u can do to change that maybe bcoz thats how she was raised up when she was young & she carried that personality till now. and theres little u can do to actually directly change that...unless u can dare to argue with her face to face about that, or talk to her peacefully about that. and even if u do that, its still gonna be her decision whether she wants to change that personality or not.

but u see, you cannot control what other people do or what they want to say...BUT you can always control your reactions towards it. no one can make u feel bad or down or even angry without ur permission. Dont allow her to ruin your day for you, or ur mood..bcoz thats totally under ur own conscious control.

i know that being compared to hurts, bcoz my mom compares me with my siblings too....and its not a very good feeling. I always thought that they dont know how to appreciate the good things that i do and just see me as i am. and u know what, my mom's still like that till now. but i just learned not to get her comments into my nerves bcoz thats not going to do me any good after all. i just continue to do my thing...and i know im doing the right thing, and who cares if she doesnt appreciate it....... God does.

2006-07-11 14:52:30 · answer #7 · answered by Jacqueline 3 · 0 0

Talk to her about it. My mom doesn't compare me to my cousins. The only one close to my age is 16 and he's my 3rd cousin.. My parents divorced so she never sees him.

2006-07-11 14:42:40 · answer #8 · answered by roxy81492 4 · 0 0

tell her that it bothers you when she does this. you and your cousins are completely separate people, which means that you have nothing in common except a little blood. if she keeps doing it, compare her to one of your friend's mom, she should get the hint.

2006-07-11 14:44:05 · answer #9 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0 0

Tell her how it makes you feel. If that doesn't work Scream at her... lol... not really though...Tell her you don't like it. That she shouldn't compare her child with someone else's. Or reverse psych. on her and start asking for things and when she asks why, tell her the person who has it's parents let them have it.

2006-07-11 14:44:28 · answer #10 · answered by ScarletFiresBurn 2 · 0 0

Compare her to your best friends mom! A LOT

2006-07-11 14:42:48 · answer #11 · answered by nurse33 3 · 0 0

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