I recently found about a months worth of back and forth suggestive emails between my bf of 3 years and some chick I didn't know. He swears it was nothing more than a bit of flirting and that he never meant to hurt me. He also told me it had started because he felt like we had grown apart and that I had been taking him for granted (I will admit that I did take his love for granted, but I did nothing but try and please him.) I had told him that I couldn't live with what he had done and I broke up with him while I was still furious over the emails. I am regretting it now thinking I should have given him another chance....we are talking again and he is begging for me to start over with him.
I feel betrayed and have no clue how to build that trust back.....I love him with all my heart and we had even started planning on getting married, etc...
I just don't know what to do.
2006-07-11 14:27:08 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We have had several rough patches in our relationship and we have had this "growing apart" issue before while we were at seperate colleges.
This hasn't happened before and I feel like he is telling me the truth about it. I just don't know how to build the trust back.
2006-07-11 14:37:30 · update #1
Are you ready to forgive and forget? If you are not, then wait. He has to rebuilt that trust not you. "Feeling apart" will happen again, what is he going to do then? Flirt again? cheat on you?
Both of you need to work this out. He maybe over this flirting that split you. You are still hurting, doubts are an evil sign. You are not ready for marriage.
Keep talking, keep planning if you will, but don't rush into marriage just yet. Hope you can make it happen!!!
Take care
2006-07-11 14:36:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take Your Time,Check Out Some Other Folks,It Seems He Has..Whats Good For The Gander Is Great For The Goose
2006-07-11 21:48:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that this is how you found out, it sounds like he just needed attention from any female. You have to ask yourself if this is how he's going to act every time that you two "grow apart" or any time there is a rough spot in your relationship. It is pretty childish behavior, but all you can do is learn to trust him or leave him and hope he grows up.
2006-07-11 21:35:52 · answer #3 · answered by Gorgeous 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(I will admit that I did take his love for granted, but I did nothing but try and please him.) This statement is at the heart of your problem. On one hand u admit that you took his love for granted but on the other hand you said u did nothing but try and please him, this is a direct contradiction. It sounds like you were unsure about the relationship and went back and forth w/your emotions so it sounds to me like you need to move on. Classic situation of you wanting him only b/c you're not w/him, but when you're w/him you don't want him. Move on......
2006-07-11 22:19:35 · answer #4 · answered by cub6ib9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋