Okay give me the best true answer to your best. What should I do in this situation and should I do it with someone who doesn't care just so my boyfriend won't hurt me? Also I love him but he doesn't want to hurt me should I try to covince him that he won't hurt me as much as someone else would...And how is sex the first time>?
2006-07-11 14:06:59 · 33 answers · asked by may23uni 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
okay i am not a whore my friend doesn't care but thinking on your answers I think i'll wait and he's not gay...we do forplay and everything he just real sweet.
2006-07-11 14:22:36 · update #1
it hurts babe, but try to reassure him that although at first it will hurt that your more then willing to got hrough with it becasue oif the connestion the two of you will have afterward. and f*ck no dnt have sex with someone else. youll ALWAYS regret it, plus thats like cheating, which would make you a whore, and i dnt think you are one hun.
>K<
2006-07-11 14:10:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Baby girl, check this out. Your whole situation sounds suspect. This boyfriend of yours, might not be as experienced as you might believe, and that's why he won't do it, is he a virgin?, and if you claim you love him, why would you go and f#ck another n!gg@? I've actually had the experiences of breaking several young lady's hymen when they make appointments at the "Clinic". They all had different physical reactions, some bled, some had their first orgasm, some cry-ed, some rescheduled while some seemed to enjoy it more than me and they all made follow up appointments. You two need to talk about it and come to a resolution, don't f#ck around and get pregnant though.
2006-07-11 14:39:21 · answer #2 · answered by Snake Dr. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to answer your second question first. The first time you have sex, chances are that it's not going to be that great. Think about the first time you went roller skating, or the first time you rode a bike: neither of them were that great either, I expect. But it gets better with practice.
About breaking your hymen: I think it's admirable that your boyfriend is concerned about causing you pain. I wouldn't suggest finding some other guy to do it. I can think of at least four better options:
1) If you have an understanding gynecologist, maybe you could get your gynecologist to do it for you.
2) You could find a suitable (clean, not sharp) object and do it yourself in private
3) You could get your boyfriend hard, have him lie on his back, and you sit astride him, and you do it. That way it's happening between the two of you, but he knows you're in control of it
4) You could encourage that you really want him to do it for you in the standard way
2006-07-11 14:17:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's good he cares that you're a virgin. Having sex is not just physical but also emotional especially the first time sleeping with someone. No woman forgets her first time. He doesn't want to hurt you both ways, especially if you two break up. He don't want to be responsible if you can't handle it.
2006-07-11 14:13:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, my advice first of all is to keep your virginity, until you're married. Old fashioned, I know, but worth it.
In any event, something is rotten in Denmark...no guy is going to make that an excuse with a girl who wants to have sex with him. There's either another reason why he won't, or possibly another reason why he doesn't need to, if you catch my drift. No red-blooded American male is so sensitive that he could turn down a willing partner for that reason.
So find out what it is, ask him....if he says he is saving himself (it happens, guys, stop laughing), and you believe that he is being truthful, then kudos for that guy.
2006-07-11 14:14:20 · answer #5 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As I dont know your age all I can do is say if your under 18 you don't belong having sex. If you are under talk with your school nurse or call a free hotline. Talk with your mom or any close female relative you have you can trust. planned parenting should have people on staff for you to talk to. DO NOT BE RUSHED INTO ANYTHING. you only have one first time so use your brain! peace and good luck.
Vin
2006-07-11 14:14:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I too am a virgin and want to experoence my first time....I think as long as he takes it slow with you to begin with then you should be ok.... Just let him know you want him to be the one to take and that it's a very special gift. That you're nervous too but together the two of you can get through it.
2006-07-11 14:16:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
having sex with someone else is the stupidest thing i have heard today. based on the fact that you are even thinking about having sex with someone besides your boyfriend, screams that you are not ready to be having sex. you might be physically ready, but neither of you are emotionally ready. give yourselves some time. you have all the time in the world to complicate your relationship with sex.
2006-07-11 14:11:26 · answer #8 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this question has been asked many times before and the answer is the same now as it was then .take your time make sure you are well lubricated by indulging in foreplay before hand .do not set yourself a goal as to wether it is going to hurt or not do what comes naturally if he penetrates you slowly and you are relaxed then it should be okay .if you are on top on theother hand you can take charge and lower yourself on to him bit by bit as you get used to him.
2006-07-11 14:15:12 · answer #9 · answered by leonard24seven 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he have aids or something close to that. Because no guy who knows that your a virgin would give it up that easily. I mean i think he would be the one telling you to have sex with him after all he has nothing to loose on the other hand you have alot to loose.
2006-07-11 14:11:49 · answer #10 · answered by Dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋