I really like this guy? Only answer if ur only gonna give HELPFUL advice. U know what i dont wanna hear.?

Question

I am 14 and I like a guy who is 18. We are 4.5 yrs in difference. We live like 4 hrs apart and he is moving 17 hrs away for college. I like hime a lot, I almost think I love him. Before camp this yr (I met him at camp 3 yrs ago) I thought it was impossible to fall in love at my age, but now I've changed my theory. He understands me. I think I am fat and ugly and he is the only person I have ever met who can make me feel beautiful and I'm never self-concious around him. He flirted w/ me a lot. IM me for details before answering, PLZ? Do u think he likes me maybe? Do u think I'm in love? Am I just being stupid? I don't have the heart to do anything since we left camp. He is LITERALLY all I can think about. I have cried until no more tears would come because I miss him so much. Plz help?

Answer 1

yes your are in deep attraction and one reason is because he is the only one who makes you feel comfortable , its good , try telling him this but expect to much , because expectation create misery . maybe he will understand you .

Answer 2

It is really hard to do long distance relationships. But it might take some of the hurt away if you guys remain friends and maintain contact. He can still make you just as happy being your friend and that makes it less likely for you to end up heart broken in the end. Plus you are 14 and he is 18. That is a big age difference. I am 18 now and my mindset is way diff from that of when I was 14 you 2 will want different things and that can cause lots of relationship problems. Try being friends and see where it goes from there.

Answer 3

First, he is 18 and you are 14. That is illegal. I am not saying that it cannot work but right now at your age even that small difference does matter a great deal. To be honest (and you probably don't want to hear this) but at 18, he more than likely isn't interested in dating a 14 year old. I am sure you are a nice person but he is going to college and that is where his life will be from now on. Give it time. You will meet someone new. You have your whole life ahead of you. 14 is too young to be worrying about the love of your life. He is more than likely thinking the same thing about himself too at 18. Don't worry, it will get better. :-)

Answer 4

I think you are in love, but the important question here is,
Does he love you as much??

When girls say they are fat, chances are they are just been paranoid. Women are obsessed with their body fat. C'mon, women are programmed to do that. Just as much as a man is going to be obsessed about how tall they are and stuff.

And why do you say, you wouldnt be able to love at 14??
As long as you dont lose your virginity, you are okay to love and or feel foolish about crushes. You will certainly look back at this age 15 years from now and laugh.

From what you told me, I think he is just been polite and a little flirtive. You are obviously flattered by the extra attention he is giving you. Flirting with girls is something men are programmed to do, they do that more than women do, but are a little picky in that. They go for a girl that would give him the most thrill to chase.

So he is using a few pickup lines. But that still doesnt really mean he is head over heels in love with you.

And the 'picking up by the waist' thingie, I feel that is really to prove that he wants to graduate from the 'hey, how're you doing' to the 'I wanna hold hands with you' stage of the relationship.
But my question is, did you say 'Couple of days later' what was he doing all that while?? Hatching a plan to conquer the world???

Love should happen just like that, but i feel he is just infatuated with you.
I dont think you are stupid, because it is only when you go through all this, that you realise what love is. Love is not all those cute pickup lines and sweeping off the floor kind of tactics. Love is that feeling you get when you meet a person that you know you cannot live without. That person should complement and complete you without controlling you.

You say "I almost think I love him" You are not sure whether you really love him. Its just puppy love. The love you get by been pampered. At your age, mood swings are a fact. Can he handle that?? I dont think I was, when I fell in 'love' at 17 or even at 19.

How much do you know of him?? How much does he know of you??
Do you know what turns him on and off and what his past has been and vice versa??
Can you think of anything in him that annoys you now??
How many things in him would you find very irresistable??

It is okay for you to miss him though.
But what does he have in mind for you?? How often is he going to visit you?? I think he should make an effort to be with you for atleast a few days every alternate month since he is travelling far. Alternatively you could also plan to visit him. Makes for a Good Road Trip.

Just take care and hope I have answered to your satisfaction.

Answer 5

I am sorry you have such a low opinion of yourslef. The fact is you CAN get in shpe by jijg a gym abdn eating properly with little starches, little fats, liuttle sugar, no cake, no cookes, little pasta or breakd. Look up the Meritteranean Diet. It's wonderful.

Once you get in shape, work on your face. Learn how to properly accentuates the nice things about tiit. Also, as we mature into later teens, our features shcange. Don't despiar. I;ve seen really ugly people transform into things of wonder. Watch those makeover tv shows for ideas, like Ten Years Younger, or How Do I look.

You still have a lot of growing to0 do. However, it is nice your were allowed to feel love. I;m sure it is something, but you guys are really too far away to make it work, and he should NOT be involved with someone who police couild charge him with statutory rape.

Answer 6

I had a boyfriend that was 17 and will be 18 in December. I'm 14, and to tell you the truth my nickname in his family was JailBate. He lived in Arizona and now lives in Oregon. Anyway, we talked and we are going to start dating other people for a while. He wants to keep going out but I don't want him getting caught. So he is going to wait until I turn 17 and graduate and if we still want to get back together we will. If this guy is special enough to you, you will be able to simply keep in touch with him until you can get out of school and everything can be legal. That's all I really have to say on the subject but if you would like to email me you can, we've both been there so we can probably relate. Anyway I'm out
Hope this helped
-Amanda

Answer 7

oh hon, my heart goes out to you, i remember what it was like to have your heart racing just by looking at him, and how he always understood, when you feel like you are on cloud nine just but a simple touch, how you lie in bed and dream of marriage and stuff, but hon there really can be nothing between you two. i don't want to hurt your feelings but 1. you are alot younger than he is, 2. he's never expressed similar feelings, 2b. he shouldn't because pursuing a relationship with you could get him locked up, 3. I'll tell you this if it's meant to be it will keep. don't rush it don't push it, wait. i also think you should talk to an adult someone you trust or your parents, but hon wait, give it time cause you might feel the way you do but he might see you as a little sister. all the best

Answer 8

Like they say girl that age doesn't really matter in a relationship of love. Maybe you are in love but think twice before you act up on something. Your just about to become a young lady you have your whole life ahead of yourself. You wouldn't want to regret what you do now later on in your life when you see what you have missed out on. He is already experienced i mean he probably already dated many girls while for you this would all be new to you. He already enjoyed his teenage years and you haven't. So just make a smart decision and justify what you do. Remember it could also just be an obsession.

Answer 9

u might love him, or think you love him, and thats great. but, even though four years isn't a big difference in the grand scheme of things, it is when your just getting into high school and he is leaving it. you're at 2 different points in your lives. Your not being stupid. but i would suggest not doing anything. if it is true love, then you can wait until your 18 to get involved. i'm not being patronizing when i say your young and that a lot can change for you in the next couple of years. hope this helps.

Answer 10

wow. that is a problem. well im sorry to say but you are way too young to really understand what love means. please dont think that i am telling you you dont know your own feelings i am just saying you are so young and since he is leaving anyway maybe the time apart will help you realize that maybe you dont really love him that maybe you only think you do. I had a problem similar to this one. the boy way 2 years older than me and was leaving for college and i was so crushed because i was "in love" but the truth is i met my boyfriend and after awhile realized i never loved the other guy. it was just lust. but hey you never know maybe in your case it is love. my suggestion is once he leaves still stay in contact but try to meet other boys your own age. i promise it works. it may be hard for you to understand this now but the fact that he is leaving is a good thing for the both of you. not only because you are so young but also because he is so much older. he is going to meet girls his own age when he moves. and my feeling is you will meet boys your own age. good luck to you. and if things work out then good for the both of you.

Answer 11

I'm not really sure what the question is but if you were to date that would be illegal. if you are under 16 you can't date people that are over 16. sorry honey that's just the law.

and to try and answer your question,
yea you defiantly like him. but i would try to look for guys your age right now. besides, that is a HUGE age difference. not to make you feel bad he might only think of you as a really good friend because you are so young to him.