how do you disapline a child who doesnot listen to any thing you tell him to do help hes 3?

Answer 1

i been a nanny for over 18 yrs and i found the most effective method is taking away their favorite toy in exchange for better behavour.. get down to their level and say to them..."ok, im taking this toy and we are not going to play with it again until u can be a good boy/girl"... they understand more than we give them credit for...another method is if they aproach u and want to do an activity say to them "we will do what u want to do after u can be a good boy/girl for me"... and stand firm on ur decision, reneging and giving in only teaches them that they can get away with it all time...believe me...they will soon learn that ur way is the only way sooner or later...and remember...they can be more cunning than u think....always reward them for their good behavour too...is good tool to use when they constantly play up in public... teach them that each time they r well behaved u will give them a star sticker, or a ball in their behaviour jar (have 1 jar for bad behavour and 1 for good, have colored balls and each time they are naughty or good place ball in appropriate jar, letting child place ball in shows ur not joking) and when the good jar is full take em to maccas or buy them a new toy...but tell them WHY they r being rewarded.... : )

Answer 2

Whether or not you choose to spank or implement time out is, of course, your choice. We do both with our 2 year old, reserving spanking for the most dangerous offenses, such as running into the street.

More important than the actual punishment, I think, is the fact that you must be consistent! Our daughter has learned that she gets one warning, then a count-down from three, then time out. And the succession is quick. (I'm not neccessarily reccommending this particular strategy; its just an example) She always knows what to expect, so she knows that "No" means "No." And once we say "No," we don't back down, even if we decide half-way in that what she's doing really isn't a big deal. She has to trust that we mean what we say, so going back on what we say is a huge deal.

In addition, whichever parent (me, or my husband) gives the instruction, that is the parent who must follow through. This part has been hard, because we want to help each other out. But, if I tell her something, and then her dad is the one who enforces it, she learns that she only has to do what I tell her when her dad is around. You can see why that simply wouldn't work.

In someone else's response, the recommendation was made to ignore the bad behavior. This works, but only when the behavior is an effort to gain attention. If your son is coloring on the wall, and really couldn't care less whether or not you are watching, ignoring his behavior won't stop it. If he is knocking all the books off your shelf, all the while turned toward you to see whether or not you are cringing, then he is seeking attention. In this case, remove him and give him something else to do, without mentioning the fact that he was pulling down your books. For example, don't say "Leave me books alone. Do (this)." Instead, carry him away from the shelf and give him his own book, saying nothing about what he was doing. After a few moments of him entertaining himself appropriately, go give him the attention he is looking for. Be aware, this approach is difficult, and the behavior will increase before it decreases. And if you give in after he has pulled down 20 books (or said "please" 20 times, or screamed for 20 minutes), the next time he will quickly move to 25, 30, etc. That's because giving in teaches him that what he is doing works. If using this strategy, remember: ignore the behavior, not your child.

In summary, I guess, you have to make sure that your son understands that you mean what you say, and that he can predict the outcome if he chooses (yes, its a choice) to disobey. Make sure that you and your spouse, and other caregivers, all have the same expectations, and that you all follow the same plan of action when he won't comply.

Answer 3

spank him!

Actually, you need to find out if he does this with others too. My friend's 3 year old acts up whenever she is around but is almost an angel, in comparison, whenever she isn't around. Like, I had him last weekend and he did pretty well with me. Could be sign of a hearing problem as well. He could be testing you. Try to figure out why he is acting that way. Then, you can determine the best course of action. Maybe he wants attention? If it's an attitude, I'd spank. Do it in private, though, so none of those people who complain about that sort of thing will turn you in. That's stupid! I mean, it works! That's why are grandparents generation had fewer problems. This is why things are getting worse. Children are not being properly disciplined. This said, make sure he knows why he is being spanked and there is a difference between a spanking and a beating. A spanking is painful but not harmful. It causes a temporary sting. A beating results in bruises and that isn't necessary.

Answer 4

to start with, time out with children should only be the moment of time as there age (hes three then only for three minutes.) reason being because if you put the child any longer he will start to forget the reason why he is there and end up doing then same things over and over again. Simply talk to him at EYE LEVEL explain to him why he can or cant do what hes doing. Remember he is only 3 years old he does not yet know the difference between right and wrong. Reward him for good behavior maybe stickers, special treats, even as simple as the park. You have to teach him. That's why you mommy or daddy!! Do things that will keep him from running around the house breaking things hitting or biting. Example: allow him to play with shaving cream on a table or to teach him to blow bubbles, maybe about colors numbers. Keep in mind hes a young child all he needs is your guidance. When your calm and collective he will be to. Kids learn from home. What you teach him will be seen everywhere you go. Believe me all of this works. Just takes time and patience. Furthermore, I hope you don't take advice from someone (angel_of_urs_) who says they where a nanny for over 18 years and doesn't even know how to spell a word as simple as behavior. That's real sad!!!

Answer 5

Do you have a play pin? Put him in time out. Our 2 and 1/2 year old has horrible temper tantrums. I usually give him a warning and when he continues I place him in the play pin (with out toys) for about 2 minutes (one minute for every year so in your case 3 minutes). After that I tell him that because he was not listening and not behaving in an acceptable manor (of course I say this so that our two year old understands) that is why he was placed in time out and I tell him if he can't listen to mommy and daddy he will go back in the pin. Don't be fooled ..toddlers understand a lot more than we give them credit for. Even before he first started learning how to talk, he knew what CRIB in a really stern voice meant LOL

A word on spanking; I don't condone it but if you do you MUST NEVER bruise your child. When you leave bruises you could be reported and charged for child abuse.

Answer 6

if this is your child. no one answer works. my nephew some years back tried to act like this and refused to listen so i put him on the couch ( laying on his belly and i sat and watched tv with my legs over him so he couldnt leave ... granted that didnt work the first time but after that he soon learned when i was watching him the results would be the same each and every time ..... fast forward a few years future step son in a resturant with girlfreind and some other people step son decides he wanted to be a grouch i got up took him out side nice a calmly and with a low voice told him we will go in after he comes down ... after about the fifth trip and most of the night( i missed out on dinner) the table manners training got easier and less pain staking for me... i know your child isnt a dog but when you train a dog you use repetition and you assert dominance the dog doesnt do it so you push his butt down and tell him sit repeatedly children are the same the more the child doesnt like the out come of a presistance behavior " modification" the less the child will challenge ie.... if every time he/she touched the stove he got burned he would learn not to do it.... follow these rules the rest of your life with children be presistant be assertive be the dominant one and always demand your respect, you cam never be their friend or their buddy , what you can be is a great parent who is fun to be with talk to...... good luck ..... ps..dont make me turn this response around or else.... (daddy humor)

Answer 7

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Answer 8

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U spank him! But you don't just let lose on him. you sit him down and you tell him what he did wrong, then you tell him how many spanks he will get, set him over your knee and spank him with an object like a wooden spoon or spatula, nothing that is very heavy or has any edges. After you spank him tell him that you forgive him for what he has dont, then dont bring it up again. A quick note, Dont ever spank a child when you are angry, it must be done in a calm matter.

Answer 9

All kids have their "currency" as to what matters. Maybe time outs don't work, spanking doesn't. But there is something he loves, a favorite toy you can take away, priviledges taken away, like "no park"...Main thing CONSISTENCY, don't threaten when you are not willing to follow through. If he gets up from time out, put him back, over and over, eventually he needs to realize you are in charge, not him. Don't lose your temper or he will have won...just be consistent, remember you are the parent.

Answer 10

Three year old children do not understand situations as adults do.You have to learn to communicate with them on their level.I like the rewards system.I used both positive and negative rewards with my own children.Praise when they did well,a spanking when they did not do well.They understood the consequences of their actions and responded accordingly.I always let them know that their reward was because I loved them,(Whether it was positive or negative)

some say that spanking is abuse,but I say, that expecting a child to understand something on an adult level is too much to ask,therefore mental abuse