I used to get along with my mother in law, but now she hates me b/c i didnt call her, since i took some time off form the relationship...now i dotn kno how to fix things...or at least make them better...i called her, but she doesnt want to fix anything, and now its bringing a lot of problems between my b/f and me...what should i do??
2006-07-11 13:30:10 · 16 answers · asked by Lali 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
ok...we are gettin married in las vegas this weekend...and i used to live with him...but now, she doesnt want us to get married...b/c i didnt call her...and shes refusing to him his papers to get married...thats why im so desperate...
2006-07-11 13:39:38 · update #1
we used to live at his mom house..
2006-07-11 13:54:45 · update #2
Oh my gosh my sister and her bf is going through the same thing. U should tell ur bf that when u and him started messing around was his mommy around well if not than don't bring her around now. The relationship is not based on wether u treat his mom right or not. U should tell him to for on u and him not his mom u and him it dosen't take three to make a reationship work maybe tree to tangle but just two to make it.
and if she don't like u 4 who u r than to hell with her
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u should tell him to be a man and stick up 4 u. cause if she's goin to run yall relationship u should get out now.
2006-07-11 13:42:23 · answer #1 · answered by Brittney W 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Screw the in-laws. I had been trying to get along with mine for 2 years and every time I think things are going good they come up with some BS to get started. If you tried and she keeps snubbing you then the hell with her. You can`t make someone like you and if she can`t accept you the way you are and the b/f is giving you a hard time then I would think do you really need this in your life!!! The only thing you have to do is die and pay taxes!! F em!!!
2006-07-11 20:37:58 · answer #2 · answered by bren_jim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is still just your BF, you don't REALLY have a mother-in-law yet. It's not fair for you to have to go all the way to have a "meeting of the minds" with her. She should be happy for her son, if you are making him happy, and have both of your interests in mind. If she is too hard on you, it will take time, but being steadfast and true will eventually win her over. I wish you could show this to her - you should not have to kiss her butt! She should be glad her son is growing up and getting a life. Most mother-in-laws also want grandchildren - use that on her if you have too.
2006-07-11 20:40:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I battled my ex-outlaws for 27 years. No matter what, I was wrong, at fault or some other childish nonsense the old bat could think up. There is no winning. Just get used to it.
2006-07-11 20:43:29 · answer #4 · answered by Paleo C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend needs to have a talk with her. Also tell her that usually when a relationship ends (even temporally) that mothers usually don't even talk with the ex out of respect for their child.
2006-07-11 20:34:42 · answer #5 · answered by Desiree S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best way to handle in laws is to accept them as is.
Tell them that you've always valued and respected their sense of Trust and their sense of people and you have always been there for them no matter what. Tell her that you've never judged them only accepted them as people.
Give her a guilt complex. That will work well.
2006-07-11 20:33:21 · answer #6 · answered by snorkelman_37 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray. I have major mil problems because she feels like I am not good enough to care for my husband's child. I do not do everything the way that she thinks it needs to be done and she neglects my kids.
2006-07-11 20:32:33 · answer #7 · answered by AMY L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mother in law drives me nuts without even trying!!!hehehe! it's just mother nature i guess! heheh! just try to be patient because you can't change the fact the she's the mother of the person you'll be getting married to.And she will be forever connected to you no matter what. just stretch your patience, it will help a lot if you talk to your husband about it.He might be able to help you guyz out.He's the one who knows you both.
2006-07-11 21:32:24 · answer #8 · answered by frustrated and desperate! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to find a new mother in law!
2006-07-11 20:33:55 · answer #9 · answered by bones54 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least your M/I/L doesn't live in the same house as you do (mine does). If you love him, you have to learn to accept that "momma" will butt in if not always, then she will from time to time... but (unlike I did) make sure you always come first!
2006-07-11 20:53:29 · answer #10 · answered by Kristin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋