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Question

When human beings are at deaths door, is the reality one perceives at that moment influenced by one's individual belief system or personal wants/desires. Or, perhaps, is it influenced by both?


~~I ask this because 23 years ago, I was with my grandmother when she died. Minutes before her death she, she once again became lucid (she hadn't been for at least two weeks prior) and insisted that Robert was standing with us (my grandfather, her husband). I am not a christian now and even though I technically was then I tended not to believe anything other than the fact she missed my grandfather so much she wished to see him again.

I'm curious as to what others thoughts are on the question posed. Any welcome to answer and no, I will not judge you on your own belief system.

Answer 1

I believe what people report seeing in these near death experiences (NDE) are partly real and partly a matter of what's deeply buried in their subconscious as it passes into the next stage of life.

Answer 2

My grandmother seen a man smiling at her. She said he was sitting in the chair in the corner of her hospital room. Her father, nor son, nor sister was there, dear ones to her. Her son had died 15 years earlier, her sister about 5 and her father about 10. She would have wanted to see them desperately. My mother asked if she saw her father or son, and she said no.

When she died, she literally lifted her arms and legs, as though she was being pulled. She was a Christian and did not want to die. She said so minutes before her death. Always insisting that a silly man smiling at her was sitting in the corner.

So my answer would be no, not everyone sees their desires. Though most experience and stories I've heard say people are seeing something.

A close family friend was dying, and did die for a few minutes during his heart attack. He saw horrible things around him. His daughter died about 5 years before. And we watch him drown in his grief. It was the most heart breaking thing. He wanted to die to be with his daughter. Before they were able to bring him back, he saw all kinds of creepy shadowy things along with flames. Not at all what he wanted to see.

I do not know if I answered your question or not. Though I hoped it helped. I think people have a variety of experiences. Not all of them pleasurable. It would hard to determine what reality is.

Answer 3

I believe your grandmother saw her husband waiting for her on the other side. You say she was lucid so why do you doubt what she saw? Although I plan to live my life to the fullest I am looking forward to the day I meet my LORD and Savior face-to-face, see my dad, brothers and other relatives again. I pray you return to Christianity. That you accept Christ into your life again so that you may have the assurance of seeing your grandparents again. God bless!

Answer 4

Although I am not a church going Christian I do believe there is life after death. Just not heaven and hell. When my grandmother died she was talking to her mother. Having worked in a hospital I have found that this is a commom occurance. People will see their mothers, husbands. wives etc who have perceeded tham.

Answer 5

It says that the Saints that have gone on before us will meet us at our time of crossing. I know that all of my saved loved ones are waiting to welcome me into the arms of God. It is very possible that God sent her a wonderful gift to help her cross. My friends father was not a saved man he was bed ridden with bone cancer and they sent him home to die he was completely paralyzed from the pain moments before his death he sat straight up in bed with fear screaming and pointing and yelling he didn't want to go. She said it was the most scared look she had ever seen on her father. She isn't saved and I wasn't saved at the time I know now what her father saw. I have seen saints of God pass away and even though their bodies were full of pain they all had a calm look. God will send you help because death is very scary no matter how "ready" that you are. So God brings familiar wonderful sights. My Mom kept a lady who hours before her death asked here to look in the sky at those beautiful gates and the angels and to look at how beautiful. My mom didn't see anything.

Answer 6

I believe that our loved ones are there to meet us before we die.
I was with my uncle the last week he was alive and he seemed to think family, that had already died were there with him. He even talked to them. I know that my grandmother and grandfather and uncle are all in Heaven and I believe that when we are about to die that our loved ones come to us to greet us, maybe so we aren't scared, I don't know, but I do believe it.

Answer 7

I think it's influenced by both. Don't worry- your grandmother and grandfather are together once again. She does not miss him anymore.

Answer 8

When my grandmother died she saw a little puppy playing on the floor. I love dogs so I suppose when I die I'll see the same thing.

The mind wonders to a place it finds comfort and there it stays and there we leave it.

Answer 9

I feel that it's a combination of both these things but I also think that our spirits are in closer connection with the spiritual realm at that point and that a door to that dimension opens up to us. I believe she absolutely saw your grandfather there and that he was waiting to welcome her home.

Answer 10

I feel the sincerity of your question. Whether or not it was a delusion or grandma actually saw grandpa, it gave her comfort,

But get this, on my mother's 80th birthday I sent her flowers with a note saying "Happy 80th birthday Mom. Love Dorie. I was careful to spell my name to the florist. the note card that was delivered to my mother read, "Happy 50th Birthday, Love Mom."

Was that a mistake or did my grandma who passed away in 1982 manage to send a message?