Took her back after I caught her. She denied it at first, but then admitted to it. She didn't blame me for it. She just said she made a mistake and she's a loser. Understood if I didn't wish to take her back, but wanted to try to work things out. I did take her back, but I don't feel she's given me all the details of her "mistake". I feel she's leaving things out so she doesn't loose me. She doesn't want to talk about any of it and gets upset if I bring it up. It's been a month now since this happened. I feel I can trust her again (not like before) but I still do feel she's not telling me everything (how long, how far..etc.) According to her there was kissing and touching involved, but no sex. I think it had been going on for a while and she did have sex with him. I realize when something like this occurs you need to just start fresh on a clean slate, which I'm willing to do, however, I still do have these doubts which aren't healthy. How find these answers without constant probing?
2006-07-11 11:59:20 · 4 answers · asked by mike! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Firstly, what makes you think she had sex??
Get her tested, or better still get yourself tested.
She looks like she does not have all the answers for all your questions and sounds like she is playing 2 at the same time.
Be Cautious and Keep yourself from hurt.
Now I realise that this is easier said than done.
Get a private Investigator if you can afford it. But then all that is only good for TV. Get your self a vacation and a nice tan and a new girl. She is SIMPLY NOT worth your time and love.
If she denied it, and then changed her story and now refuses to come clean then I think you have all the right reasons to drop her like a hot potato.
Seriously, I have been through something similar but she came through clean and has been clean ever since.
Thats the difference.
The ball is in your court. Dont wait for any earth shattering confessions or revelations. MOVE ON.
2006-07-11 12:27:06 · answer #1 · answered by stillfreezing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would sit her down and tell her of your concerns.
You could agree to have the conversation where you ask all the questions that are on your mind and she can answer them all honestly. Until you have that conversation, it will be a constant thing on your mind. And will you ever completely trust her without knowing? Probably not.
If she wants the relationship to move forward, she'll be willing to do this for you.
Just keep in mind that once you have the conversation, you also have to be willing to move past it and keep moving forward in a positive direction with her, not bringing it up over and over again.
It's worth a try!
2006-07-11 19:05:44 · answer #2 · answered by Shawn_Sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's ashamed of what she's done and finds it difficult to talk about it. Either forget it and move on or sit her down and say.....unless we sort this out and you tell me what went on I can't move forward like I want and need to. But you must prepare yourself to hear things you may not like and which may bother you more than you are troubled at the moment (if she has had sex with him). If you can't accept all the info....then don't ask the questions and MOVE ON! Good Luck!
2006-07-11 19:07:29 · answer #3 · answered by SheBiggles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude i Hate to say this but a Leopard doesn't change its spots i bet the reason why she gets all angry and cut up is because she has guilt...if she didn't have anything to hide she would be much more open o(¬_¬)o Dump her while you're ahead
2006-07-11 19:06:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋