Please help me get quick help for my depression.?

Question

I have been callng Dr.s but they keep giving me appts for 2-3 moinths I cant wait that long because I'm starting 2 want to die. If i call a suicide hotline they'll 302 me and i can't go there because i have work, school, and my daughter.

Answer 1

the fundamental problem with severe depression, of course, is that it sucks everything out of you - hope, joy, energy. it is an excruciatingly difficult time just to be going grocery shopping, much less undertaking a life altering endeavor. so, first off, i commend you for making the effort.

now, to solutions. different methods work for different people.



medical/psychiatric/psychological: are you calling independent analysts/doctors, or are you in a health plan, e.g., an hmo? if you're in a health plan, you can expedite the process by being more vocal, and making the request(s) in writing, making certain that they understand that you are doing so as to keep a paper trail. in the interest of avoiding liability, if nothing else, they'll find themselves considerably more responsive.

once you do see a therapist, for it to work, you've got to be willing to have an open mind, and to participate. most people don't seem to have too much difficulty with this part.

if possible, have this therapist also be a psychiatrist. he/she may be able to work with you in perhaps finding an anti-depressant that, in conjunction with the therapy, may be effective in alleviating the condition. anti-depressants do work for many people, and, if they do, there's absolutely nothing wrong with utilizing them. you'll need to work with an expert to find the right one/combination, at the proper dosage(s). if conventional pharmaceuticals don't work for you, perhaps you may consider consulting a homeopath. st, john's wart, a natural herb, has also been known to be helpful for many users.

point is, whatever works, use. at this level of acuteness, the priority is immediate relief of the symptoms. once the immediate danger ebbs, you can better concentrate on total recovery.



authors: depending on your predisposition, there are several books/authors that may be of help to you. i list some here as possible sources of constructive guidance for you, not necessarily as recommendations. again, the efficacy of any modality of therapy is individual.

david burns, m.d., feeling good

julia ross, m.a., the mood cure (somewhat more “alternative”)

if you’re the type to find motivational speakers inspirational, you may find the following authors helpful:

anthony robbins (of infomercial fame, but, again, if motivational speakers work for you, this guy will probably help)

les brown (later fell into a deep funk himself, but, during “reign,” was highly lauded)

norman vincent peale (if you are religious)

of course, if you are religious, and christian, then, the bible, church, etc. may be of help to you.



as far as suicide is concerned, this is gonna sound ridiculously simplistic, but, to be blunt, as you have a daughter who is wholly dependent on you, it is simply not an option for you. like it or not, you will have to stay alive, as long as your daughter is dependent on you.

unlike most, seemingly, i don’t happen to think that “suicide is never an option.” for some people, under certain circumstances, it is an entirely viable option. under ideal circumstances, one would hope for a world devoid of the pain leading to suicides. unfortunately, there is a severe dearth of ideal circumstances in the world.

for you, however, it simply cannot be an option, the primary reason being, again, that you have a dependent daughter. so, rule that out. period.

then, as you are clearly having difficulty coping by yourself, seek help, both psychologically and physiologically, in conjunction. as with anything, not all therapists are the same -- if one doesn’t work, try another. same with drugs -- some may work, others not, perhaps all will, perhaps none. through it all, always keep an open mind - open to the possibility that the therapies will work, that you will feel better. if exercises/routines are part of the program, stick to them.



there is a logic which provides somewhat of a respite from the darkest depths, and it is this: if, in fact, life has become so painful that you have concluded that the finality of death is the only “relief,” then you are at a point - at least in the mortal world - where you simply can’t go any lower. In other words, at this point, you have literally nothing to lose. Well, if you have nothing to lose, then try everything. do everything you ever wanted to do. take all the risks that you’ve always been afraid to take (because, as you can’t possibly “lose” anything, no matter what you try, you’re not really “risking” anything).



best wishes.

Answer 2

I'm sorry you're suffering so much right now. I've been where you are.

You CAN do things right now that will help you feel better. First, you can and will feel better, so don't give up yet, OK?

I don't know how much of your depression is chemical and how much is from your behaviors, but you're probably dealing with a combination of both. So if you really want to feel better, you must address both.

A doctor can get you on antidepressants, but like you said, you're looking at a long wait. Meanwhile, try taking St. John's Wart three times a day. Stay away from sugar, and go exercise. All of these things will actually help increase the chemicals in your brain that help you feel good.

For the behavioral part, therapy may help, but if you want something fast and effective, AND YOU'RE WILLING TO WORK, then check out a weekend course called "More to Life" that is given by the Kairos Foundation. Yes, it's cliche, but this course changed my life and got me out of my depression cycle ever since I took it 8 years ago.

Good luck and remember, you will feel better!

http://www.moretolife.org/

Answer 3

Hon..that's a tuff one because the "official" help isn't as close as we need it to be. First thing to do is think about your daughter, nobody should have to deal with the aftermath of a self inflicted death no matter the method. Depression is a very serious and yet common problem these days. Most people think I am ok and reasonably happy but in truth I would cry my heart out at the drop of a hat. I am completely alone without family, children, lover, friends...and yet I drag my a ss out everyday and keep on. "Keeping on" is a lame "cure" but it can give you time to clear the cobwebs...Suicide is never the answer...my dear sweet 19 year old cousin blew his brains out with a blunderbuss a few weeks before my wedding and the last thing he said to me was that he'd make the time off work to be there with me...he wasn't, and by his actions half of my family wouldn't come out to celebrate in their grief and how could I not grieve the whole day while trying to be a beautiful bride...the repercussions of suicide are farther reaching than you could ever imagine. You have a daughter...SHE IS YOUR REASON TO LIVE.

Answer 4

Ok, what's the problem? Why do you want to die? I've found the problem is either someone had too many major problems in their lives or not nearly enough problems to know how to deal with them.

If you had too many guess what, it isn't your fault nothing you can do about it. Some people have more problems than others, unfortunately it is the way God works. Some people were adopted, some people lost a limb or their sight at age 2. I have a friend that I played soccer with that was in a car accident at age 12 and would never have another rational thought as long as he lived. Nothing you can do, just deal with it. Life is the gift, make the most of it.

If it is that you haven't had enough problems guess what, life is hard. Deal with it, I mean, why would you want to die if you have a child? How about learning to take things not always going your way? This is how most of us live.

Ok, I'll take my Dr's fee now - I accept cash, check, charge, or money order.

Answer 5

Some churches have counselors that are professionally trained. I wish I could help more. I know what it's like to be at the breaking point. There are a ton of people on here right now that sincerely wish they could help you make the problems go away. Try to take one day at a time until you can talk to a Doctor. Try not to think in extremes. It might seem counter productive but try to think in shades of grey. Think of extremes as black and white. Where you want to be is in the grey area. Lifes not great but it could be worse. This is grey shaded thinking. Just hang in there, you have people counting on you and they appreciate you when you do difficult things for them. I myself have had a very difficult day coping with anxiety and depression. The reason I'm on here right now is because I needed to find some answers for myself. Answering your question has helped me remember some things I learned in counseling a few years ago. From my experience it seems like it's always darkest just before the dawn so just hang in there. You will make it thru this. You will be in my prayers.

Answer 6

You need to relax first off. you say you have a daughter?... you need to stay strong for her. I know 2-3 months seems like a while but if that is the only time you can get in you have to push yourself until then. Don't do anything drastic. Look at your little girls face and honestly think would you ever want her to feel some sort of the emotional pain you feel now because her mother killed herself. you need to think about her and I no you feel overwhelmed because I think I would in your position, you got a lot of things going on at once, and I can't imagine how hard that is on you. You need to find a way to vent, when your pissed off remove your self from that situation and screamm and yell do what you have to do and than continue doing what you were doing. You need to let all of those feelings out that are built up inside of you all the anger, pain, sadness its gonna tear you apart. you need to try to keep a journal or something to just write everything down. keep two seperate ones. one so that you can say whatever you want and vent and the other to write all the good things down that happened that day, than for your really bad days read through it and you will see that your life is not comsumed with bad things. Take you daughter to the park the fresh air works wonders. you need to push yourself now more than ever and find that strength that is there but is pushed away. But you really need to think of your little girl at a moment like this and remember no matter how your day is going you daughter needs you and loves you more than anything in the world. If you ever want to talk or vent or just want someone to listen email me.. [e-mail], Good luck to you and you will be in my prayers

Answer 7

Wow you are stresed and overloaded. Do you have anything you can do to relieve stress quickly, like running or relaxing? you know you don't want to die, due to your daughter and all, you are just really overwhelmed right now, and i totally feel you...
I have bipolar l disorder and it it soooo hard to cope with life sometimes, I am a nursing student and work full time as a nurses aide, and have two young children and it gets to the point that i just want it to end, but it can't for you or me, don't let it get you, PLEASE! if you look for natural remidies online, maybe you can find something to add to your diet to help with the depression. Also know that alot of medication just helps, it doesnt make things go away, and alot of antidepressants make suicidal tendencies worse, believe me, i know..... God bless

Answer 8

Please see my depression page. I have suffered from depression and I know it's no fun. Hang in there until you can see a psychologist and try some natural remedies now.

Answer 9

Go to a mental health clinic in your area and tell them you need emergency care, and thinking of hurting yourself. they will get you in ASAP, possible right then and there. Please get help soon for you and your daughters sake.

Answer 10

get chuck norris to round-house kick you