I go to a church group with this friend. We are really at this point just group members who talk a little outside of group. She has said that if we are going to be friends we need to keep religion and beliefs out of it? I don't understand her perspective therefore am not finding peace. Please help.
2006-07-11 11:11:36 · 18 answers · asked by forchrist24 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You pray for her, forgive her for her ignorance and continue to pray for her. God should be in everything you do, be it friends, lovers, family relationships ...etc. Any one that want to honor 7 acknowledge God in your friendship isn't quite so "Godly".
Pray for her...
2006-07-11 11:35:27 · answer #1 · answered by lala<3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe her beliefs are different then yours and she doesn't want to talk about religious things outside of your church group because she doesn't want you to know she really doesn't want to believe.
Some times people just go to church or are involved in youth groups for the social benefits. Maybe she is there for that reason alone and doesn't want anyone to know because then they will try to get her to change her beliefs. Or maybe she is wild outside of the group and has to think that it is OK to keep the two separated.
I would ask her, or just keep it a friendship inside the church.
2006-07-11 18:19:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds hypocritical and the alarm bells are ringing with me. Don't even try to understand. By trying to understand you are actually trying to find a more pleasing answer , and, that is not in the reality of the situation. At the end of the day , what you had previously believed and hoped for were not the true reality. I am sorry for your hurt, though the best way is to embrace it, deal with it and learn something from it. You cannot live a life of peace if its prescence and power lays in the actions of others. Only you can provide your peace.
2006-07-11 18:22:25 · answer #3 · answered by Paula 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may think that she likes you, but doesn't want Religious differences hampering your relationship. Do you bring up God in your talk outside of group? She may feel this is ..... an uncomfortable situation. She may not want to talk about religion outside of group because she wants to talk about something else. While it's weird that she'd make a statement, it may be that she's had problems before with friends unable to talk about anything else or without mentioning "Jesus saves". She is in church, so she believes, she just may not believe like you or others do. She may feel this way she doesn't have to explain her different view.
2006-07-11 18:19:05 · answer #4 · answered by Ananke402 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing that stirs people up quicker than differing views on politics, finances and religion. spend any amount of time on this site and you'll see it's true.
i would tell the person that her comment doesn't sit well with you and you would just like to understand what she means and where she is coming from. it may be that she just wants to avoid getting into an argument in case your beliefs are a little different. pray about it, look what the Bible has to say about it and follow the prompting of the spirit.
2006-07-11 18:18:37 · answer #5 · answered by WVMagpie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She informed you what it would take to be friends with her. You cannot accept her terms. It doesn't work for you and it's something that doesn't make sense to you. Your definition of friendship includes being able to discuss religion and your beliefs. She doesn't want that. Consider your relationship to be that of casual classmates. You're not destined to be much closer than that. You each have different needs and are intolerant of the very thing that's important to the other.
2006-07-11 18:22:03 · answer #6 · answered by nothing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should first of all not be hurt, but what exactly are you 2 "talking" about outside of church group? You should stay away from anything/one that will make you stumble. And pray for that person.
2006-07-11 18:18:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two are obviously of different beliefs. Within all religions there are varriations that can cause disidence. A refusal to be open to anothers beliefs is concerning. IF you are trying to further your own spirituality you mus always live in the truth of your beliefs.
Tell her you love her but you will be you and not pack God in the closet.
2006-07-11 18:21:56 · answer #8 · answered by mike g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I disagree with her. Your friends are those who will support you in your walk with God. You are not finding peace because the Holy Spirit is telling you that her statement is wrong. If she cannot be supportive of your walk with God, even if she doesn't agree with you on your beliefs, then she is not your friend. Some of the best conversations I have had with my friends are conversations about religion and beliefs. We do not always agree, but it has strengthened my own understanding and faith.
God bless you.
2006-07-11 18:18:47 · answer #9 · answered by Sara B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your friend doesnt believe exactly as they are teaching and you believe. She can worship with you in church and act differently out side of church. I heard it as the "church" game.
If the person you are in church with and spend time with does not act the same as what they profess in their religion at all times then they are not who they should be and you might reconsider spending time with them.
Walk with those that believe as you do in your beliefs and you will not go wrong.
2006-07-11 18:17:00 · answer #10 · answered by Wildfirentampa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just maybe she is not as churchy as you think.If being friends means you only talk about what they want to talk about then you would have to decide if you wanted this friendship to continue or if it really was a friendship at all. Pray for her,if that makes you feel better just know your friendship qualities are more stricter than hers.
2006-07-11 18:22:25 · answer #11 · answered by peanutbulls 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋