and childless. It wasn't by choice yet ppl (strangers even) are ok in saying you chose it. argh? Never have the right comebacks for such ULTRA PERSONAL questions, do you?
2006-07-11 10:34:54 · 24 answers · asked by Lee 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
blink your eyes irratically, and twitch spasmodically, as you explain that you've been battling a particularly virulent, spectacularly contagious strain of the thai bird flu strain ax31 for some years now, and then top it off with a violent and sufficiently aqueous flourish of wretching.
2006-07-11 23:31:19 · answer #1 · answered by festivus_for_the_restovus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, Honey! I feel your pain! I'm in your boat too. Turn it right around and ask something just as rude, like, "How come you had so many kids?" or "Wow, you've been married 4 times?!?!?" You can also say, "I haven't met the right guy yet, but I'm not concerned about it. May I ask why you are concerned about my personal matters?" And personally, I really can't stand most children (not all of them are horrible though, I will admit) so when people ask me that I tell them that I don't believe in having children out of wedlock and I take my birth control pills every day because I don't like children. That usually shuts them up, especially if they are the kind that want to show off 80 pictures of their ugly kids and brag about every little lame thing they do. Good luck and enjoy yourself at the reunion. And don't let anyone ever make you feel bad for the way you live your life, whether you chose it or not.
2006-07-11 17:40:05 · answer #2 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Much had to do with how you "carry" yourself. Confidence and self-assuredness stops many questions.
For those that come a quick analysis will indicate whether they are put-downs or sincere questions (how can someone as incredible as you sitll be unattached). If they are put-downs, don't even dignify the questions with a response other than to give them a questioning look. Perhaps a quip like: thank you for your interest in my personal life but I have my own reasons that I don't care to discuss at this time.
If the question is from a friend or otherwise seemingly sincere person a quick response like: There has been little time for quality relationships up to this point in my life. Priorities have take my attention and it has not been right for me to attempt a relationship when I couldn't apply myself fairly.
Take and maintain the control. It is, after-all, YOUR personal life they are commenting on or asking about. It is your right to disemminate infromation as you please.
2006-07-11 17:44:38 · answer #3 · answered by RunningUte 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep! the perfect answer lies in two responses. Take your pick. "Haven't run across the right one.". Smile to yourself and nod your head in agreeance. You have to believe it yourself first. The second one is not to answer at all. You don't have to explain. The only way that you can pull the two or even one of these off is to have ultra confidence and believe it yourself. God will chose your mate for you when the time is right.
2006-07-11 17:39:56 · answer #4 · answered by Twinkles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to explain a thing. Some possible comebacks might be....
I just haven't met the love of my life yet...
I see you got married so early, how's that going for you?....
Nope, no kids at this time, I'm free to pursue other things....
Or, you can just simply say, I'm a happy woman.
2006-07-11 17:44:45 · answer #5 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When someone asks you why you aren't married, just reply: "Married? What did I do wrong?" (as if it's a punishment)...or tell them "When I meet someone with whom there is the mutual desire to marry, I shall do so"...or "Why would you ask such a personal question?" ...or "I'm so glad I'm not obligated to respond to personal questions like that" and then change the subject with a smile...
2006-07-11 17:38:26 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
There was a classmate standing with her husband in front of me in the food line. She was very dorky in school and didn't get asked to the prom. So she was especially proud to be married and not at all concerned about the feelings of others. I was clearly standing by myself when she blurted out, "So are you married?" It was not a good beginning to what turned out to be a very boring evening.
2006-07-11 17:43:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that the divorce rate is so high that you want to be sure you found the right person to marry and have kids with or that your life doesn't revolve around marriage and kids and that your secure with being your own person and loving being single.
2006-07-11 17:37:43 · answer #8 · answered by danzahn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you've just been too busy with other things in your life to find the right person, and use that to segue into talking about something else in your life, to change the subject.
2006-07-11 17:37:45 · answer #9 · answered by Torero In Red 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is rude and nosy. You can just say "it's none of your business" if you like - there is no reason to pull punches with rude people. If you want to be nicer than that, then try saying that nothing has worked out to your satisfaction so far.
2006-07-11 17:37:19 · answer #10 · answered by PuterPrsn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋