Is it right not to tell anyone about having an abortion forever.?

Answer 1

Well if you have children in the future, you really need to disclose that with your ob/gyn they need to know your entire history. And thanks to the new HIPA laws no one would ever know except your doctor, as for boyfriends or husband I would say no I wouldn't tell them, that's your past and as far as I'm concerned none of any ones business...
Let me stress that i am not pro-abortion here at all, but I believe that the only person who should or can judge you is GOD, he is the one you'll answer to in the end

Answer 2

I would have to say that it depends on the situation and who your talking to. I think good portion of the population are against abortions. Do you know a person that you can absolutely trust? Be very careful if you decide to tell someone, it is something you can not step back from. I would recommend that if you do have some emotional pain that you can always speak with a therapist that specializes in this general area.

As for being right or wrong in not telling anyone of having an abortion, its completely all right in not telling anyone as long as you do not have any problems with this situation. This would include emotional and physical problems. Just remember that not telling anyone is only bad if you have any pain that you can not deal with. Again see a therapist if you can.

Most people that ask this question have some residual guilt which is common with abortions. There is a nice resource on-line that talks about these issues. You can even speak to other people about it.

http://groups.msn.com/ForgivingAbortion/

Answer 3

This really is down to personal choice and how you feel about having the abortion. Keeping it secret from a partner then telling them years down the line is prob not a good plan as they will prob feel betrayed but then if you have an excellent relationship and you had a good reason for having the abortion perhaps it would be fine. Regards friends and family I do believe you should comfide in at least one person - an abortion is a very hard thing to go through and noone should live with that on there own. Please find someone to talk to - email me if you want to chat!!! xx

Answer 4

You have to know that when you decided to have an abortion it was the right thing for you to do at this time in your life.
If you are worried about being judged by other people who may not ever have to make a decision like this - then don't tell them.
All of us will do something throughout our lives that others will not agree with, this does not mean we were wrong. It is only an indication that we are all different and have different views and opinions. Best of luck with the future.

Answer 5

Its not about having to tell anyone. It the way you feel about yourself, and the decision you made.
If you need support in going through this it is always helpful to have someone there. But at the same time you are not obligated to tell them. Its maybe the best not to let certain people know anyway. Especially if they hold particular beliefs.

There were alot of negative and unhelpful 'answers' to your last question. I suggest you dont listen.

*May not apply to you but - In the UK unless you have an abortion privatly you have to get someone to collect you, who agrees to look after you for the next few hours. So in that instance someone has to know.

Again contact me if you want to chat. I know this is hard.

Peace

Answer 6

Yeah your body and your life stuff everyone else...

Only where a doctor is concerned and medical concerns.

Depends who you are with... ie the relgious nuts here who woulsd not have a problem with someone raped as that was putting her undercontrol and making babies...


Those who are anti abortion aften care little about abuse of said kid or the mother who they often mistreat.


Me Id just hug you if I heard about it as you got hurt...


Its the girl that matters, your friend, sister, or girlfriend, not the growth inside her that will wreck her life like the chest bursters from alien

Answer 7

Its up to you but I suggest that if you do, be ready to feel guilty for the rest of your life, on the other hand, be very careful about who you tell, if there is noone you can trust at this point in your life, I would not tell anyone. Keep in mind though, you can always talk to God, and he WILL forgive you regardless of what other more judging christians may say.
Good luck and God bless

Answer 8

im not saying its right but u have the right to keep it to yourself but why -are you ashamed ,what do you possibly have to hide it happens all the time aborions happen everyday by young and older women im not saying it okay to have one and abortions are nothing its just everyone has there own reasons my opion for ur case is go with your instint but obviously you must feel threatened about telling like as if people will judge you for your desicion i mean come on everyones gonna have there own opionion about it but you know why u did it everything happens for a reason for the better or worst.

Answer 9

I have had one, and I don't care. I advocate to the hilt on having them. I don't although thinks its ok to have non protective sex over and over and then use abortion as a thing to get rid of an unwanted child. But, if you are raped then yes. Have the abortion.

Answer 10

Yes! Please know the choice is a personal one and don't tell anyone unless you want to do so. Some things are best left unsaid and untold. Humans have a need to unburden themselves but often at the cost of hurting those they love the most. Thoughtfully, L