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My dad withdrew $600 from my savings account while I was stationed overseas, without asking me. He told me about it when I got back and mentioned that account. He was able to do this because this was an account that was opened when I was 15 and he had to be on the account as I was not 18. My mother doesn't know about this money and he said he would pay me back for it but I haven't heard a word back. I think he blew it gambling, because if he had used it for anything sensible, like bills or gifts, my mother would have noticed and wondered where the money came from. I could really use $600 to catch up on some stuff and lower out money output each month, but I don't know how to ask for it back. He asked me not to tell my mother, and if I did, I would get it back right away, but he would never forgive me because he would be in a world of crap because she would think he blew it as well. I don't need it badly enough to get him mad at me for who knows how long. What should I do?

2006-07-11 10:20:45 · 22 answers · asked by mama of 2 2 in Family & Relationships Family

I closed that account that same week, so no worries about that. I don't know that I can get it back without my mother finding out because she keeps track of the finances and will miss anything that isn't in her checkbook.

2006-07-11 10:26:21 · update #1

I think I worded that wrong. He did ask me not to tell my mother, but he didn't say that he would get mad if I did, I was just saying that if I did, I would get it back for sure, but he would be mad at me.

2006-07-11 10:33:05 · update #2

To the person who says I owe on a credit card, you are wrong, I am not stupid enough to get caught up in all that. I am trying to lower money output because we have another child on the way and that means more expenses.

2006-07-11 10:44:41 · update #3

22 answers

Take his name off the account and NEVER have his name on another account.

Take him aside and ask for the 600 back. BUT don't count on it.

2006-07-11 10:25:57 · answer #1 · answered by redchili68 4 · 0 0

You and he both can't spend within your means. You say it would help you lower out money output each month which tells me that you owe on a credit card. If you owe on a credit card you're spending money you don't have. Then the fact that a father doesn't have a measley $600 saved says volumes about him. He'll never change, but maybe you can. Stop spending money, start earning money. If you don't at least spend no more than you bring in, you will have a miserable, poor life, with many problems. I'd give him about one more week to pay in full, then announce it to the world. I'd let him get mad at me all he wants, add that to the picture. He stole from you. Why are you covering for him?

2006-07-11 17:36:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Well first of all I would sit down with your father and say you were very upset that he took money from your account without your approval. Even if he is on the account you need to know everything. If he blew it gambeling you need to tell him use your own cash. Then you need to go to the bank and tell them what your father did to remove his name from the account. Your father owes you $600 no matter what. You should have reported it to the bank as a fraud since you did not know he took it. You see even he is the co-signer both people on the account need to know. Tell the bank your dad used the money for gambeling. If he is addicted call the Gambelers Anonymous hotline so he can stop his disease. Casinos won't let him gamble. It seems like you are in a tough finacial situation and you don't have cash to burn.

My father would never do something as stupid as what your father did. Your mom didn't know about it which is bad communication. Even if your father said don' t tell your mother talk with your mother and tell her how you feel about being deprived $600 dollars. Especially you were overseas.

I hate to be rude but you need to take action your 18 and thats the legal age to be the sole owner of the account . You can file with the bank that $600 and they will refund it since your father took it from you at your age. Go to the bank and talk with the manager. They may be able to write your father a lettter that you are contesting the charge and he will pay it. If not his credit will go bad. I know it's your dad and you love him but this is a criminal offense.

Good luck.

2006-07-13 02:43:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Hey Sparkle. First and most relationship saving is to approach your dad and tell him that you would like to be reimbursed now for the money he borrowed. Think for a minute, how is he going to pay it back without your mom finding out? He needs to come clean about it. It was not your mistake, it was his. He has no right to be mad at you for his taking the money. You said you closed that account, good job! Give your dad a reasonable amount of time to pay you back, that would be up to you and him...if he does not pay up, then go to your mother. You are the child not him. He is the one at fault. I keep stressing that because he is your dad and you will be making excuses for him otherwise! LOL It is important that he keep his word. I imagine you are right about where the money went. I am sorry for the place he put you in, but you have to be strong and assertive and just do it. He is your dad. He is not going to stop loving you. Good Luck. Nana

2006-07-11 17:31:38 · answer #4 · answered by nanawnuts 5 · 0 0

this is what i would do. ask him for $5o a week.if he can't do this count your loss but be thankful that ,that was all you lost.just don't give him nothing anymore and forgive him for doing this. i know it's hard to forgive when someone does you wrong but i wouldn't like to see you wasting your life with this problem eating away at you like cancer. don't tell your mum as she will feel guily about it, & yes more then likely it would start mood swinging in the family. i know i like living in a peaceful enviroment so i wouldn't make waves.i'm sorry this happened to you but put it down to a learning experience & in future if anyone wants money make up a contract, doesn't matter who it is, make it a contract & make them sign it. the positive of this happening to you again IT WON'T. good luck.move on dear.

2006-07-11 17:33:04 · answer #5 · answered by 4leafclover 2 · 0 0

Try asking Dad for it again, and perhaps asking if he can pay you back in increments. Hopefully that will get your money back to you, or at least some of it. Now that you're an adult, I suggest you take his name off of your account immediately so that you don't wind up in this situation again.

2006-07-11 17:23:26 · answer #6 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0 0

That was a horrible thing to do. You should keep reminding him he owes you money. Maybe you should get some bank records to prove it if he denies it. You may need to bring your mother into the situation.

2006-07-11 17:25:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Call his *** out. What type of father black mails his child emotionally. Whatever he did is not your problem. The best thing to do is call him on it and then say that you don't need it you just don't want to hear about any other crap again. He's still your dad but you know he would want you to fezz up to what you've done.

2006-07-11 17:29:48 · answer #8 · answered by Bill F 2 · 0 0

my father owe me 75,000 dollars and he said he will pay me back but guess what he died feb 2006 and all of his junk not worth maybe 20 bucks. and I know that Father like that would never repay you back ... but taking him to court let the court know that you didn't give pression for him to take out that money since your money not his.

2006-07-11 17:25:08 · answer #9 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0 0

Offer that you will beat him unmercifully with a wet noodle until he does. When the drool starts rolling, really lay it on. He'll probably give you the car keys as well!

2006-07-11 17:24:32 · answer #10 · answered by vanamont7 7 · 0 0

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