Obviously, guys don't want to pay for the girl all the time. However, if a guy insists on paying and I still refuse, is this an insult to him? Just curious
2006-07-11 10:16:55 · 13 answers · asked by someone in the world 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
while it is true that guys don't always want to pay for the girl, these situations always come up. if he insists that he wants to pay for you let him! as a guy with my gf she knows that if i insist it means a lot to me. just like a grandparent giving you money, you don't say no, no matter how much or how little you need it. turning something down like this is a little bit of an insult. even though it doesn't seem like much the guy is offering you something, so take it! it is perfectly normal for guys to offer; the idea that the man should pay is inborn and perfectly acceptable. if you really feel like you are taking from the guy, return the favor in another way or tell him thank you, or even offer to buy dinner down the road. just when he offers and insists on paying for dinner, just say thank you!
2006-07-11 10:23:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not if he is mentally sound. Think of it this way. Maybe he wants to spoil the girl all the time. Be honest with the guy and let him know why you feel it isn't important to you to pay your own way. It may strengthen the relationship.
2006-07-11 10:22:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't call it an insult but its preventing him to feel completely comfortable in that situation..his willingness to pay should be out of appreciation for your company, not allowing him to show his appreciation may leave the relationship at a stand still but by allowing him to pay ( doesn't have to be all the time)..makes him feel his appreciation is acknowledged...and at least allow him to feel his company is welcomed...nothing wrong in allowing us to be gentlemen.
2006-07-11 10:26:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not an insult, it makes a woman seem more independent and that is cool, but I wouldn't let you pay anyway!
2006-07-11 10:19:49 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes - you are hurting his pride and ego. Let him pay. Fighting just isn't worth it.
Later, ask him out on a date and then you pay for it.
Many people I know consider whoever does the asking, should pay for the date.
2006-07-11 10:48:15 · answer #5 · answered by Wolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it always depends on the situation.
if he asked you out, and he wants to pay, then I wouldn't say that it is an insult, but it can be perceived as rude.
sometimes you should just let people be nice when they are trying to be nice to you
2006-07-11 10:22:08 · answer #6 · answered by g-man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you will stand in the way of his pride, in the fact that you need him (not that you really do), let him spend his money, it will go over easier. I doesn't batehr me though, me and my woman usually go half and half anyway.
2006-07-11 10:20:14 · answer #7 · answered by Paktown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he wants to pay, let him pay...but, if you really want to treat him, then you plan the date and take him out and tell him before hand that you are taking care of it...
2006-07-11 10:20:13 · answer #8 · answered by twentythree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not its just shows that you are an independent woman and not a gold digger
2006-07-11 10:20:04 · answer #9 · answered by kitysunshine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no but all he wants to do is show you that to him nothing is to much for you...enjoy it while you can cause we all have a stopping point he just hasn't reached his yet...
2006-07-11 10:21:46 · answer #10 · answered by bravo95165 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋