i have been goin out with my boyfriend for the last 7months..everythings gr8 and all..even our parents have agreed to us getting married after 3 yrs or so..but something doesn't feel right abt our relationship..i keep thinking dat he loves his ex and dat i'm not good enough for him..he kips telling not to think dat way coz if dat was the case he wud have never told his parents i was the one!!I dnt y but its itiching me inside to wana contact his ex and jst find out everything abt their last relationship...wat do i do??plz help!!
if i do talk to her..wat do i say??
2006-07-11 09:50:25 · 25 answers · asked by pappin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's obviously in love with you and telling his parents that you're "the one."
I think you're afraid that he's still in love with his ex is because you're insecure about yourself. Usually a person who is insecure about themselves don't believe they're worthy of a great relationship and a great boyfriend. You're wondering "what does this guy see in me?" I bet you're thinking "I'm not good enough for him." You know what? You are good enough for him. He chose you.
You can call his ex, but digging in his past isn't going to help. He will believe that you don't trust him. If you don't trust him, your relationship will not be strong. If you do talk to her, will you be able to believe everything she says?
You need to have faith in yourself and your relationship.
2006-07-11 10:02:48 · answer #1 · answered by Susan C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is just an insecurity issue you have with yourself. Love isn't needing someone, or worrying that you guys aren't perfect for each other. Love is having someone who makes your life complete - meaning they fulfill you in every way - meaning having confidence in yourself and not worrying that the other person doesn't love you as much as you love them!
If there really is nothing between your bf and his ex and your bf really does care about you getting over this issue, then he'll let you go talk to her. But really, the way out of this is becoming so comfortable with yourself that you don't care anymore. You are the best thing for him. You are the prize.
2006-07-11 16:57:59 · answer #2 · answered by Fingers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't talk to his ex. Be patient. You will find out long before 3 years are up. You'll find out before 3 months are up. If you go behind his back then you are doing the underhanded relationship things that you suspect him of. Just don't let him know that you're watching.
2006-07-11 16:56:03 · answer #3 · answered by blueguy5us 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let the past be the past. Ask him if he dumped his ex or if she did. If she did, there MIGHT be something. if he wants to marry you, she is out of the pictures. Dont call her!!!! If you do, you are allowing her into your lives.
Dont be insecure. Stop thinking like that. You are the best person for him, he knows it...so should you.
Love him fully. Forget the past.
why do you feel like this? Do you love your ex??? Is you man not good enough for you???
2006-07-11 16:56:44 · answer #4 · answered by ♣ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't talk to her! There's a reason she's his EX! Don't EVER get married, if you have ANY doubts about the person your with, or if you have "Self-Esteem" issues, which it seems like you may have.
Who in the hell wants to get married, after knowing someone for 7 months?? Your "soulmate" at 17, may not be your 'soulmate" at 47!
2006-07-11 16:56:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U really need 2 jus sit n talk 2 ur bf and tell him how u really feel n that he isn't bein real jus pray about it da lord will tell u wuts rite n if he says da same ur bf does then there is nuttin else 2 worry about
2006-07-11 16:56:33 · answer #6 · answered by Caramell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first clue might be that he HAS an ex. Obviously she couldn't trust him either. So why do you question yourself rather than addressing your concerns. Too eager to have someone to validate you that you are willing to accept any emotional turmoil to be with someone? If you can't trust him now why do you want him?
2006-07-11 16:57:01 · answer #7 · answered by RunningUte 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't contact his ex...that's bad news written all over it for many reasons.
to the point---you feel weird about the relationship, then it's not "the one". sorry, but that's how it works.
the only other suggestion would be to trust him and give your relationship your all and forget the ex and see if things start to feel better.
take care.
2006-07-11 16:54:35 · answer #8 · answered by joey322 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you talk to his ex you wont get a truthful answer.she will make all kinds of lies just to hurt your relationship.I know what your going through i went through the same thing with my ex boyfriend. then after he saw that i was getting distant from him he finally told me the truth.
2006-07-11 16:57:20 · answer #9 · answered by brandy625 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If something doesn't feel right don't go along with it. Just listen to your heart and not your boyfriend's ex. take care.
2006-07-11 16:53:54 · answer #10 · answered by kelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋