It's the strangest thing! This was never a problem on the other two deployments, but when he calls my mind goes blank. In letters i can ramble on about all sorts of things but when he calls it's just silence! Any advice on how to snap out of this would be helpful.
2006-07-11 09:48:49 · 16 answers · asked by jenn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Get a note pad. Write down things to say to him. Start by telling him you love him and miss him. Also end with this.
Tell him you are proud of him.
Try to be upbeat and don't tell him sad tales, unless you really have to.
Keep the note pad by the phone so you can remember what to say.
You can always say, "I'm so happy and excited to hear your voice that I can't think of a thing to say. Just talk to me sweetheart so I can listen to your voice." Good luck to the both of you.
2006-07-11 09:56:42 · answer #1 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like the daily notebook and letter ideas. That will give you something to say. I also recomend you rehearse, just a little. You especially want to do this for the polite, "throwaway" greetings. They are still important, so practice the "Hello, sweetie! It's so good to hear from you. How are you?" It gets the ball rolling, and make the rest of the conversation easier. Also, don't be afraid of telling him about the problem you were having just talking to him. Be honest and then tell him what you are going do. Tell him about the notes or the letter. Then say, "Here goes ..." and begin.
He will appreciate the effort, and he will especiall understand how someone can get the "willies" and how preparation help him and his buddies get through their difficult times.
2006-07-11 10:01:38 · answer #2 · answered by Vince M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is too undesirable that Bush hadn't discovered the teachings of heritage. What he's premiere us into is an identical mistake because the Vietnam warfare, a warfare ad infinitum, a warfare whose end is in basic terms in sight after the most suitable American soldier pulled out. The sectarian conflict and civil warfare is a hopeless case. there is no longer something the U.S. can do about it. We invaded Iraq and we received't assume the Iraqis to experience grateful to the invaders. Had the U.S. no longer invaded, there does no longer be any sectarian conflict. Bush went to warfare in Iraq supposedly to make it a great party of what a democratic u . s . a . should be, a rustic with freedom and democracy something else of the middle-East can emulate. Will something else of the theocratic countries in the middle-East help one in all those freedom and democracy Iraq is in now?. i'm certain that with the activities they're witnessing now, that they had particularly stay theocratic than be democratic. in this purpose, Bush had miserably failed.
2016-10-14 09:02:32 · answer #3 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write down some things that you have had happen and keep it by the phone. That way when he calls you can bring those things to memory. My husband has been in the military for 26 years and served five 1 year unaccompanied tours in Korea and one 6 month unaccompanied tour in Albania as well as many 6 week school etc. I use to write him daily but things that I wanted to talk about on the phone I would jot down on a seperate page and leave it by the phone.
2006-07-11 09:55:18 · answer #4 · answered by rltouhe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about the little things that you think matters.... he most likely is just pleased to hear the sound of your voice, so make sure you are not silent! I would tell him about my day, ask about his, update him on anything of importance, tell him how much you miss him and all he does, just let him know you care and appreciate him, etc. I am sure he will not complain and you try not to stress about it so much. It is a transition for the both of you, so try to make it as easy as possible for both parties.
2006-07-11 09:55:47 · answer #5 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
act from the heart, you will never go wrong...think of the first impression you impacted on each other....remembering purpose why he is deployed....it takes a lot of self character to stand the line for other peoples freedom, beliefs, or opportunites when you dont even know them at all...think of the first time things, how he made the butterflies go to ur stomach when u first met...remember ur first urgument then it lead to the make up sex....think of ur children..it does take 2 to tango....
2006-07-11 09:56:29 · answer #6 · answered by itilian_2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't put so much info in a letter and more in the phone conversation. and then tell him how much you love him and miss him and that your proud of what he is doing for you and the family and our country, and that God that he can call you.
2006-07-11 09:55:39 · answer #7 · answered by angel_64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first tell him that I said thank you for serving our country! let him know that you love him and tell him how much the kids if you have any are growing, share what you did that day or week. he wants to hear your voice. DONT tell him you miss him all the time because it only makes it harder for him! yes its okay to let him know you miss him but dont repeat that to him over the phone. remind him of what he is doing is great and you pray for him and his group daily. god bless.
2006-07-11 09:59:33 · answer #8 · answered by funandfaithful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep a notebook with you and write down things that you want to tell him about. So, when he calls you can pull out that notebook and it will help you.
2006-07-11 09:52:05 · answer #9 · answered by pulchritudinous 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him about the affairs you've had while he was deployed. Trust me. You'll have a lot to talk about.
mike
2006-07-11 10:01:10 · answer #10 · answered by miketyson26 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋