What can i do to stop being a shy person and carry on conversations?

Question

Im not good at keeping a good conversation what can I do? and what can I do not to be shy around people I dont really know?

Answer 1

forget about yourself and concentrate on the other
person. it takes practice, but it helps. i am still shy
but can override the feeling and get to know the other
person.

Answer 2

Consider joining group activities, such as a sports club, a dance class, or becoming active in your community center.

Whatever you do, don't give up. You don't have to be a professional conversationalist to carry on a conversation. Perhaps you need to spend more time with people with whom you have more things in common - and thus more to talk about.

In situations when you meet people for the first time, they are likely to be just as shy as you are, so don't worry too much and opt not to speak. Start to talk, or talk when you're talked to, and a conversation will start without you even realizing it happened.

It doesn't need effort, it needs good will.

Good luck ;)

Answer 3

You control what kind of person you want to be. Im a shy person and i always have been. Im fine like that,i will talk to anyone though. If i feel comfortable talking to them,im not shy. Im more of a listener,so when i talk to people, i listen and if i have something to say,i say it. Express your self. Now,im not the outgoing type,i don't go up to people and start talking to then unless i think i will be comfortable talking to them. Just talk more. There isn't anything wrong with being shy! So talk more,express your opinions,be yourself. I only talk when i need and/or want to. Mainly expressing your opinions usually spark any conversation.

Answer 4

there are many skills you can learn and exercises you can do. I teach Public Speaking and encounter shyness all the time. First, begin with your self-talk. What do you tell yourself . "I will look dumb" "They wont like me" "I wont know what to say" Begin by changing your self talk. Tell yourself positive things!!!!!!!!! "I am an interesting person" "I have something to say"


Second face your fear. Walk toward your fears and see them evaporate. Make a goal to introduce yourself to one person a week, then make it a day.

Make a list of all things that interest you. A recent TV show, movie etc. Places you want to go. You can enlarge this list over time and have a whole bunch of things to talk about.

Imagine yourself going up to people and conversing. See their interest in you and hear all their questions.

Be interested in others, be curious about them, how they feel about things, what they have been up to etc

Finally, fear and excitement share the same feelings, but out brain interprets them differently.

Heart pappitations, increased breathing are shared by both

good luck

Answer 5

I am also shy but have never been able to "stop." I don't know that you necessarily can, but try joining groups or doing things like theater that require you to be more vocal. Only through strenuous practice of it can you eventually become more social. By continously surrounding yourself with strangers and having to be vocal in front of them, you will slowly become more comfortable with them. This way you arent forcing your mind to believe one way or the other, you are easing yourself into it. Theater really is the best way. Try joining several orginizations though. Maybe girlscouts? I'm unsure of your age but I know you can think of a few that could be fun

Answer 6

Some times you need to just jump right in there and get your feet wet. If you have a hobby or something that you really enjoy doing find some other people with the same interests, and talk with them about it.

Answer 7

Practice. Try small conversations first. Like, "Don't you hate waiting in lines?" or "I like your shoes, where did you get them?"
Ask any question you can think of just to get the person talking and then you can have your start.

Answer 8

Start with having a conversation with yourself, looking in the mirror - eye to eye.