my dad hates me he loves only my brother, when he is nervous he shouts on me and beats me and my mum doesnt love me because i dont have her character and loves only my brother
2006-07-11 09:07:45 · 25 answers · asked by ♥Stephany♥ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sounds like you are growing up just like I did. The black sheep of the family? Now that I'm grown and married and have children of my own, I have realized that I'm the only one in the world like me. I should be proud of that.
I know it's hard, I know that you just want to run away and find someone who can love you for just who you are...you.
I know you think it's never going to end, but I'm here to prove that it does. Only you can decide you're future even though it seems as if everyone else is deciding it for you at the moment, or just totally ignoring you. If you're in physical danger, you need to be able to talk to someone about it. Find an adult other than you're parents and fill them in on what's going on. Just like you're asking for help via computer, you need someone who will stand up for you're right as a human being.
Talking to someone you trust is the key to staying sane right now. When you finish school then you're life is in you're hands. No matter what the people you love say, believe in yourself and don't give up on you're life. In a few years, you will have an entirely different view of yourself.
Then you will be like me.... we're not hopeless, we're survivers.
And just to let you know, my parents and I have an O.K. relationship now. It will never be as I wished it would, but it's my job to make the best out of everything in my life just as it is youre's. Don't give up on the love in you're heart and especially, don't give up on yourself. Just be the best person you can be. Be someone you can be proud of and don't worry yourself with the things that you can't control. I wouldn't tell you these things if they hadn't worked for me.
2006-07-11 09:35:36 · answer #1 · answered by Trish 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we are born into an unlucky situation. I had a rough childhood as well. How old are you?? I am 24, if you want to talk more about what going on I will be your ear. I can probably give you encouraging advice and strength. I've been through hell, not only from family but life hasn't always been good to me. If you wanna talk I'm here.
2006-07-11 09:13:02 · answer #2 · answered by UlickNme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a dysfunctional family, I guess. Or maybe they just show their love in another way? I'm sorry for your situation, and I hope you meet a lot a friends. Talk to them and don't be too down on your family. If your father beats you, you need to get help right away and put him in jail, because that is no way to treat someone.
2006-07-11 09:10:59 · answer #3 · answered by someone in the world 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are getting beaten that is physical abuse and is punishable be law. The emotional abuse you are also receiving should not be ignored. Talk to a counselor then decide if maybe you should be in foster care. Even a foster home is better than an abusive family. There are alot of free counselors out there, look for one in your area in the phone book.
2006-07-11 09:17:45 · answer #4 · answered by x_chelsea_marie_x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry that no one seems to understand you. While it is not uncommon for parents to rant and rave at their kids, it is wrong for any parent to "beat" their child. This is serious...if you truly think that you are being abused or that your life in anyway is threatened, please seek help from a responsible adult outside your home...a grandparent, teacher, police officer, even a neighbor. Sometimes biological parents aren't the best people to raise children. How does your brother feel?
2006-07-11 09:13:37 · answer #5 · answered by Chainsawmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not unlucky, that's terrible! Get out of there! If your parents are abusing you like that, can you move in with a friend or family member? Try talking to social services or a battered women's shelter. (depending on how old you are) You have to get out of there! That's not only hurting you physically, it's tearing you down emotionally. It's not your fault that your parents are sicko! You deserve to be able to live in peace -- get out of there!
2006-07-11 09:13:14 · answer #6 · answered by Dave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with your mum & dad about your feelings. Find out what's really happening. If you're still certain about these things, then talk to a trusted adult outside of your family, your school counselor or someone in your church. Call the family & children's service in your locale.
2006-07-11 09:12:51 · answer #7 · answered by Bluealt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think they do not love you. They love you, but want you to be more responsible, may be like your brother. And that is why it is happening.
If they really hurting you phisically, that is not what should be happening and you should ask your parents not to do that. Otherwise you should talk to some other older family members and tell them what is going on. It should not stay hidden.
2006-07-11 09:11:45 · answer #8 · answered by Belarus94 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This situation sounds very serious. You need to contact children's services, or your local department of Job and Family Services. What you are describing sounds to me like abuse. You obviously have made it a point to say something here. It is going to be up to you to contact local authorities in order to make this abuse stop. Be strong, and don't hesitate to take a stand for yourself by contacting someone who can really help you.
2006-07-11 09:12:41 · answer #9 · answered by sykosymmetry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are u well try to not say nothing to them .and when u get older he will miss u ,and can u live with ur grandmother and and i no u love them and if he love him more he will love u the most girl don't worry about it ok because u can do so much better
2006-07-11 09:32:09 · answer #10 · answered by careinge 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋