Is it right to spank your kids?

Answer 1

Depends on the situation. Are you spanking while you are angry, then No, it's not right!!
Did the child run out into the street in front of a car, than yes... I'd spank!! But my child would also get a hug shortly there after.
But never yell and spank, this does nothing but scare the child, and that's not the point. They need to understand why they are being punished....and yes a 1 or 2 year old can understand if you get down at their level and speak in terms that they comprehend.

Answer 2

I think spanking is OK. Beating is something different and we seem to mix the two up sometimes. Spanking is a form of discipline used as a teaching tool, beating is done if a "spank:" is given in anger or leaves marks or worse... Some kids do better with other forms of discipline so it really needs to be a judgment call by the parents. If the "crime" would cause pain (i.e. the child runs into the street) then spanking them may help them understand that "when I do *this* I get hurt" and can be a learning tool. There are some kids that don't learn from spanking, it makes them mad, and for them time outs, taking some freedoms or possessions... may work better. IT TOTALLY DEPENDS ON THE CHILD. Making the discipline match the "crime" is also key, spanking may be something that you want to use when they are in BIG trouble, vs using time out for little trouble; again it depends on the kid maybe time out doesn't work so you use one spanking is for li'l trouble and one for each year old that they are is for BIG trouble. No anger , No marks, No abuse.

Answer 3

It is okay to spank your kids, but you should be mindful of the situation for which your kids are getting spanked. I remember only getting spanked a couple of times (my mother reserved it for when I was especially bad). More often than not, there are other ways to be effective in disciplining your children than spanking. Also, you should be careful when you threaten spanking, because if you threaten them all the time, and don't follow through, then your kids won't listen to you.

Answer 4

No, Not all kids are brats. The ones that are brats are the ones that have parents that let them do whatever they want a\with little or no discipline. No one can tell you whether spanking is right or wrong. Not all kids respond the same to time-outs, spanking, grounding, etc. It is what you find that works best for your child. Don't let people tell that you are a bad parent if you decide to give your kid a swat on the butt once in a while.

Answer 5

First answer:
+ What do you want to teach your children?
+ What type of correction does each child need?

A few things my wife and I wanted our children to learn
+ respect for authority
+ act responsibly even when it is hard
+ do not lie
+ obey your parents
+ act lovingly toward others
+ etc.

All children require some discipline if they are to develop into responsible adults. In my experience, the type of discliple depends on the child. I have one child that needed spanking. I have another child that responded better to disappointment. Yet another child responded best to losing privileges.

You know your own child better than any responders.

Spanking is OK if:
+ your child's behaviour changes.
+ you can spank your child without being angry
+ you can love your child after spanking without also feeling guilty
+ your child knows ahead of time the type of behaviour that merits a spanking (this point is critical!)

I encourage you to provide consistent and loving discipline to your children. Start when they are young and the teen years will be easier. In their twenties you will find that you haves some really nice adults.

Answer 6

That question depends entirely on the parents involved. Someone earlier today said "When you spank your kids you are teaching them to handle their frustrations with violence. " They are correct ONLY if you spank your child with anger or when you are frustrated.

My father made a big point in discussing what we'd done wrong so we'd understand why we should be punished. By the time he bent us over his knee, it wasn't necessary to spank us any harder that a hard pat. It did not cause any pain, but we cried our eyes out because we had just been punished. It wasn't that PAIN that was the deterrent, it was the PUNISHMENT.

Answer 7

I think that tapping a small child on its hands to let it know that its doing something it shouldn't is okay and I think swatting a child on the butt (nothing hard and no beating) when nothing else is working with the child. I do not think beating a child or even hitting a child so that it hurts is a good idea. That becomes abuse. I also don't think hitting a child over the age of 7-8 does any good whatsoever.

Answer 8

When you spank your kids you are teaching them to handle their frustrations with violence.

Would you want to be spanked as a punishment say as opposed to jail time or fines.

Answer 9

Yes, as long as you don't abuse it, don't use objects and don't do it for small things.

More people today need to spank their kids because kids today are so messed up, they know they can get away with anything. You have to control your children and timeouts and talking doesn't work.

Answer 10

I think it is and dont care what anyone has to say about it. If u want your kids to embarass u in the mall or any public place and to grow up with no fear in their hearts (yes I said FEAR) then go ahead and not spank them, see what happends.