for anything in someone else's possession. Keys (which he's not allowed to have anyway), food (even when he has the same in front of him), toys... even things IN picture books! What's the best response and discipline that has worked for your child when he says "mine" and then takes?
2006-07-11 08:44:02 · 17 answers · asked by adrienne 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
i'm not concerned as much about him using his new word and expressing himself as much as i am concerned about him taking things he KNOWS isn't his.
and no, kris. definitely not spanking grounds.
2006-07-11 09:04:36 · update #1
The best thing I've seen work is to just not let him have it. He needs to learn eventually that he can't have everyone else's stuff and it's best to teach him as early as possible instead of letting him think he can and then having to make him "unlearn" that behavior. If he actually takes the object from a person, it needs to be taken back from him, let him see that it's being given to who it belongs to, and tell him no, he has to share. That's the best I've seen and done that works.
2006-07-11 08:49:11 · answer #1 · answered by Cassie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is a phase! Don't you know anything about child development? Are you going to argue with a 21 month old? If its your car keys, just take them away and hide them, then distract the kid with some toys.
Discipline? Get over it! Don't you remember when you were 21 months old? Of course not. What harm is being done here? If the child was 6 years old and doing this, I would say, start the discipline process. So glad you weren't my mother.
2006-07-11 15:53:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I condone spanking as punishment (not out of anger of course). This helps keep the child in line and under your control. It must start early in life simply because the child will develop the understanding that he/she needs to obey the parent.
If you don't use the forceful hand, you'll have problems with the child when he's a teenager. Just look at the American kids today - do I need to say more.
2006-07-11 16:34:42 · answer #3 · answered by Jerry H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your child takes a toy from another child then, yes you should gently take it from your son and return it to the other child and tell your child that it is the other child's but if he's patient, "I'm sure they will share with you" then that may help for him to learn how to share. But I also agree with some of the other answers, this is completely normal, so just bear with it and look forward to the terrible two's (because they seem to last until they are at least 4). Have fun and enjoy your son, you will learn along the way. (Don't forget they don't come with manuals, we all have to learn as we go!!)
2006-07-11 15:56:05 · answer #4 · answered by millertime2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds very normal. He will get over it. Keep things he's not allowed to have out of his reach. Like the keys. Don't worry about him saying "mine" that just means he wants it to be his. When he takes things from other kids, just take them away from him or remove him from the situation if someone is getting hurt.
2006-07-11 15:48:37 · answer #5 · answered by BonesofaTeacher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beat the evil little ****, actually I don't support beating your child, but I would suggest telling him in a stern voice that thats not ok, and if you need to, give him a spanking, but NOT OUT OF ANGER. There is also the alternative of waiting it out, it may just be a phase, and if you decide to beat your child, I do not condone that kind of behavior
2006-07-11 16:02:08 · answer #6 · answered by Kris H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time babies start to do that around that age..but it is like a stage they most likely will grow out of it ...just say no and gently take the item away if they start crying just explain why they should not take it ...you migh think they don't understand, but after a while they will stop.
2006-07-11 15:54:11 · answer #7 · answered by Secret Admirer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him not to say it because it might sound mean to other kids around such as playing toys with other kids and he'll say "mine" and then take it and the other child will cry.Teach him other words such as "nice","eat","share","love" and maybe that'll help but it'll take weeks.
2006-07-11 15:52:06 · answer #8 · answered by Cute lookin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have a perfectly normal almost 2 year old boy. He's just repeating what he's heard from you and everyone else. Teach him to say ours instead and encourage sharing.
2006-07-11 15:50:19 · answer #9 · answered by eehco 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax...my 22 months old...uses no. and mine as well. You just need to try and teach them otherwise...they are only young. Everything will be 'mine "for a while
2006-07-11 16:59:52 · answer #10 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋