In today's world it is expensive raising a family and later on in life when i'm ready to start one the cost of living might be higher i'm very ambitious and would like the person i'm with to have goals is it wrong to not settle for less? help me cause i might be losing a nice guy who does not meet my standards and my family thinks he's perfect for me
2006-07-11 08:43:22 · 6 answers · asked by playful 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, not materialistic...
Sounds like you're being sensible about the fact that the cost of living is outrageous, but also worrying too much... borrowing trouble from the future.
If you set your standards too high, you could end up being alone/without a man.
2006-07-11 08:54:25 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong to set goals but don't set them so high that you can't achieve them.
The nice guy may not live up to your standards right now, but who knows, by being with him, you may rub off on him.
Just remember, the best things in life are never free and can be taken away at any time.
2006-07-11 15:48:40 · answer #2 · answered by I love my husband 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't meet your standards, then what is the problem? Last time I checked, you are free to choose who you date and marry, not your family. If you are not happy with the direction he is heading, you won't be happy and he won't be happy. Thinking he will someday change is the biggest mistake alot of women make. If you don't like who he is now, you won't like him later when the infatuation wears off.
Now, if you don't know him and are refusing to meet him because he doesn't have alot of money, then, yes, you are materialistic, and he probably deserves better than you.
2006-07-11 15:54:26 · answer #3 · answered by e_imommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...all I can say to that is to never settle for less of what you expect in someone that you want to spend the REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH! you will never be happy and the person who cares for you may get hurt in the long run. There is nothing wrong with wanting the best for yourself financially but look for other qualities in a person, also. Good Luck!
2006-07-11 15:47:40 · answer #4 · answered by SweetCoco 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because everyone else thinks someone is good for you doesn't mean everyone else is right. YOU have to live with this person. Make sure he's someone YOU want to live with. Just be sure that as you make your decision, you are making them for the right reasons.
Also be aware that as you get older, the things you look for in a mate will change as well. So it's best to be honest and true to yourself when making these types of decisions. You will be so glad you did...
Good Luck!
2006-07-11 15:47:54 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you Indian? Email me and let me know. Then I'll answer -- it just sounds like you're Asian Indian, very common in that culture. My response would be slightly different for an Indian than someone else, due to cultural pressures, family expectations, etc.
2006-07-11 15:46:37 · answer #6 · answered by kevrob8008 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋