My boyfriend and i had a big arguement a few weeks ago all because i confided in her and she opened her mouth to him. She ALWAYS tells my bf what i say or what i do regardless if it involves him or not. The past week , i patched things up with my bf . I told him that I'd won't cut her off, but im not gonna hang out with her or talk as much to her as i used to. In fact, when we had the arguement, not once did she call me. Anyway, she found out that me and my bf are back together . I called her . I KNOW she spoke with my bf about this already and she "pretended" and asked me on phone "so what happened with with u and him?" I only said that we were back together and i told her that when it comes to communication, Im only going to speak with my bf and not confide with any of the friends that he is also friends with. Well i know she is gonna call him later and tell him that i called and what i said, but do u think im safe? i don't think i said anything that she can distort and make up..
2006-07-11 08:17:22 · 12 answers · asked by hersheybar99 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
"A true friend will stab you from the front."
~Oscar Wilder
2006-07-11 08:21:47 · answer #1 · answered by rogue chedder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This person is NOT a true friend. Trust me, I had a best friend for 21 years and have had this issue, to the extreme of her making a comment here and there right in front of me, not to mention behind my back. It took me this long to figure out the lack of value of this friendship and I have now not spoken to her in almost 2 years. Unfortunately, Everyone I know is like that and I have learned the hard way that if you do not want something revealed then don't YOU reveal it, TO ANYONE!!!! No matter who you tell, it will come back to haunt you! Example>>> My own MOTHER has done this to me on numerous occasions. The bottom line is that you can not trust anyone but you with information you do not want certain others to get wind of. Learn to confide in yourself and avoid all this stuff. That's the best advice I can give!
2006-07-11 15:25:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk move with you bf. there is only 24 hours in a day and you friend can only go into your life so much. But the true is, knowing that she is a back-stabber, the best way to end the problem is to get her out of your life. I did that, lost one good friend and 20 more that is in the group. With just me and my girlfriend, i am happy, i don't need people that stab me. So maybe you can just cut your friend list from 50 people to 5
2006-07-11 15:22:48 · answer #3 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't have given her the heads up. If she is your girlfriend ad he is your boyfriend, what does he care if you cut her off. Does he depend on what she tells him? I have had a boyfriend who was like your friend, and if I told him in confidence some-thing about someone, he would bust me out in front of them. It didn't take long to feed him something to take back to the right person and it fixed that person and him. I killed two birds with one stone.
Personally, I wouldn't have told her that I refuse to tell anyone anything that will get back. I would have held my own counsel. When I wanted things to get back all I'd have to do is confide to her and it would get back. If you know that's how it is, why do you tell her anything? Get a diary and don't let anyone know you have it and then you can rest assured no one will know how you feel. Do an encrypted computer diary, without anyone else knowing the password.
2006-07-11 15:28:17 · answer #4 · answered by gravelgertiesgems 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically it's dangerous any which way you cut it. But I think you're barking up the wrong tree. I think he's making the wrong decision to stay friends with this woman who persistently stabs you in the back. If he's your BF, he needs to be loyal to YOU and you should be the main woman in his life.
Pointing at this other woman isn't helping anything. It makes you look petty to you BF and gives her more ammunition to use against you. Because, yes, whether you know it or not, she is trying to steal the guy for herself.
I think the BF needs to take responsibility for HIS actions too and neither of you should allow this troublemaker around.
Also watch out with telling too much about yourself to everyone, BF and friends. It dissolves mystery and you open yourself up to abuse like this.
Good luck.
2006-07-11 15:28:14 · answer #5 · answered by Polly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True friends don't do this to each other so I really would suggestthat you keep this person (not friend) at a distance.
Also you need to find out if she is purposely trying to break the relationship betwwen your boyfriend and you!!!
She does seem to be communicating a lot more with him than with you. Ensure that your boyfriend keeps his distance as well. Be honest with him and tell him why.
2006-07-11 15:23:14 · answer #6 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i guess both you and your b/f need to look back at what you guys have been doing.a relationship between two people is a v personal thing,you just cant go around sharing your stuff with these so call "friends"...you guys need to confide in each other more than anyone else........
the more you allow people to interfere in your relationship the worse it'll get and spoil things for you!!
2006-07-11 15:22:36 · answer #7 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me your friend is jealous as hell of your relationship and will do what it takes to break it up. If you love your man then you need to ditch her *** and not have anything else to do with her. She isnt trustworthy and if a you cant trust a friend then you dont need them
2006-07-11 15:24:18 · answer #8 · answered by Texas_at_its_best 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you need to cut that girl off F-A-S-T! it is sooooo obvious she wants your boyfriend and you are to blind or stupid to see it (and I mean that sincerely). You have what she wants and your friendship is the bridge to make that happen for her. Keep far away from her and keep her far away from you man or she might get her claws into him, sooner or later!!
2006-07-11 15:23:03 · answer #9 · answered by Brina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she might like him for herself or she is just a playerhater. Watch Out!!
2006-07-11 15:20:25 · answer #10 · answered by anosey1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋