Ok, i've been dating my guy friend for only about two weeks. The thing is we went out before this but it was too awkward and we broke up. I was worried that it would ruin our friendship. It damaged it a bit but me and him and our friends went out and we talked a lot more so i was really happy that we could be friends again. The only thing is he took it the wrong way and thought i liked him and he asked me out again and i thought we should give it a try (which was a HUGE mistake) and now i am here. So anyway getting to the point, i want to break up with him but i dont know how to do it. He's a really great guy and I want to be friends with him but i dont know what to say to him. Any advice on this would be truly helpful. Thank you so much for taking the time to read this.
2006-07-11 08:11:47 · 16 answers · asked by chels♥ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the awkwardness is still there and i dont feel comfortable with him in that way...i dont have any of those feeling towards him and i dont want to lead him on or anything like that.
2006-07-11 08:18:05 · update #1
I'm no proffesional, but I've been in the same position , and more than one time. This is one of those: if he doesn't take it right, he wasn't meant to be you're friend, kind of things.
Being honest about not having any romantic feelings is the best thing you can do. Not for him or the hopes of keeping him as a friend, but for yourself. No matter how it turns out, at least you were honest with yourself and you can go on with you're life, guilt free. If you know that you did what you could to be honest and not hurt his feelings and things still didn't turn out as you had hoped, then it won't be you who feels uneasy about running into eachother, because you know that you said everything that was on you're heart.
You'll never be able to make everyone you run across happy, but as long as you know that you did you're part, it makes it easier to go on.
I've made some very close, male friends this way, and the ones who couldn't understand where I was coming from?, Well, just like me, they went on with thier lives.
You will meet countless people in you're life, and make other friendships. Don't sweat the small stuff.
I hope I have helped, if only a little.
Trish
2006-07-11 09:04:32 · answer #1 · answered by Trish 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
As hard as it is the sooner you break up with him the better because it's not going to do you or him any good to carry on any longer than necessary. All doing that will do is give him more false hopes and more false security that everything is fine in the relationship. The problem is now how to break up with him and stay friends still. It's probably best to use honesty here and tell him that you really want to be friends with him and you're sorry but you're just not feeling like you want to be or are able to be the best girlfriend to him and you hope he understands. You can tell him that you think he's a great guy and that there is a girl out there who will be right and have those feelings for him that a girlfriends should have for the guy they want to be with. Good luck on this.
2006-07-11 08:19:07 · answer #2 · answered by jljdc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's so awesome that you gave it a try though. I would just say what you said basically. Tell him that he's really great guy, but you like being his friend more. It's going to be really hard, but that's all you can do. For all you know he may feel the same way and doesn't know how to deal with either. But if it happened once and things went ok then they should be ok again. Good luck! True friendships can always be repaired.
2006-07-11 08:20:25 · answer #3 · answered by meghanw1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's early in the relationship and should be relatively easy to admit to him that you like him so you decided to give it another try. However, you really do not think that you two are destined to be more than friends.
Do not under any circumstaces stay in a relationship just because you don't want to hurt the person because in the long run you end up hurting them and yourself a whole lot more as well as rubbing both of you of the time to find the right person.
So if you do lose his friendship, so be it- tough love.
2006-07-11 08:19:03 · answer #4 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should tell him that you are going through alot of things right now and the last thing you want to do is sacrifice your friendship and if he wouldnt mind you guys being just friends again because you dont want a boyfriend at this time
2006-07-11 08:16:22 · answer #5 · answered by sweetjrluve19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, so he isnt the love of your life...
Break up and let him deal with it. Dont let him hang on, as it will do neither of you any good.
Dont string him along, as he will always have "hope" that it will "work out" between you two and you know its a dead end.
Women who date, are always looking for the "potential mate" that will be with them for life. This man isnt the one for you and you know it.
Come clean and tell him that you can still be friends. He will be hurt, but the rejection wont kill him, but if he is any type of person, he will be stronger for it. But, tell him why it didnt work, so he can make himself a better person for the next girl...
I wish you well..
Jesse
2006-07-11 08:17:29 · answer #6 · answered by x 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Chels,
Can you add additional details about why you want to break up with him? Is the awkwardness still there? And why is it there?
--j.
On your details - Chels, I know it's difficult, but the only way to do it is sit down and break it to him. Tell him that you wanted to like him in that way, but it isn't going to happen. Tell him you know it's hard, but you'd still like to be friends, even if it takes time to heal and be friends.
Good luck!
-j.
2006-07-11 08:15:01 · answer #7 · answered by classical123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The damage is done.... he obviously wants to be more than friends, and you don't. That isn't going to change. Unfortunately, you probably won't be able to remain friends, without having that "uncomfortable" feeling between you. Stop breaking his heart and move on.
2006-07-11 08:28:43 · answer #8 · answered by .·:*RENE*:·. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you didn't want to be his girlfriend you should have told him that from the jump...now you are going to confuse things even more and he might not be so understanding this time...you may have to just let the friendship and the relationship go...
2006-07-11 08:15:54 · answer #9 · answered by j_nelle_03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess he acts differently or you aren't attracted to him while you're dating, so tell him and if he's your friend he'll be ok with it for your sake, if not he was trying to f you anyway and the friend thing was a misguided attempt to do so.
2006-07-11 08:16:05 · answer #10 · answered by rugmasterstill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋