I dated someone like 10 years ago and after we broke up I found out that he cheated and our paths have crossed again....should I give him another chance???
2006-07-11 08:09:56 · 35 answers · asked by girliegirl26 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Usualy a good rule of thumb is if they did it once they will again.I think it depends on the person and situation etc though. The prob is most people dont know how to build a lasting relationship these days. This is where these kinds of questions arise. There is a way to build trust and mutual respect in a relationship so you can proceed. That is what you should concentrate on and then you will have your answer.
2006-07-11 08:15:17 · answer #1 · answered by tfh777 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how old you both were when you dated. 10 years is a long time and people can mature alot in 10 years. Like if you dated when you both were in your teens, he would now be a man and am sure has experienced alot in life. Some people can learn alot in 10 years through life experiences and hardships. Start off as friends don't go diving into a relationship with him. Get to know him all over again and for who he is now, NOT who he was in that past or you will never have any sort of future together. Hope this helps!
2006-07-11 08:14:49 · answer #2 · answered by Brina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't date him right away - find out what he's been up to in the meantime. If you like him that much, you'll need to see what he is like now. As I mentioned to someone the other day, I think true change takes work, and cheating can be a habit as much as anything else that must be overcome.
Since when you last dated him, has he become more mature, hard-working, dated many women, or 1-2, does he party hard if he used to or has that changed as well? Was it a one-time thing when he cheated, or was it with many other woman, or one woman many times?
These are a few of the questions you might ask, and to which you might legitimately demand answers before dating someone like this.
--j.
2006-07-11 08:13:50 · answer #3 · answered by classical123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally I would say once it's done its done. Although, you might want to give it a chance if it's 10 years. I mean people do change after years. Only you can make that judgement but one thing is for sure you really have to be over it. You can't ever throw that in his face again. If you feel you can't then I suggest you don't go back there.
2006-07-11 08:16:16 · answer #4 · answered by Irene A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, give him another chance and take things slow. It's been 10 years and just think about how much you've matured and changed. He's had plenty of time to turn his ways around. But...don't focus all of your time on this one guy. Realize that there are 3 billion other men out there and he's not the only one.
2006-07-11 08:12:23 · answer #5 · answered by TonyDrummond 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have (I wish I hadn't) but I eventually learned that when a person cheats they lack maturity, and respect for their partner.
There are rare occassions that a person is sincere and actually regrets that they have done wrong. I wouldn't know for sure because I no longer stick around long enough to find out.
I think there are too many other great people out here to keep giving chances to one person to keep hurting me.
2006-07-11 08:18:45 · answer #6 · answered by anosey1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess it all depends on how much trust you have, and how much the person treated. as in, if he/she was just...with another person on a date, it is different than if he/she had sex with another person...both are cheating, but the degrees are different. to me, i believe in giving people a second chance if i see that they are worthy of it...and if i thought my girlfriend was worth a second chance, i would date her again...but if she made the same mistake again, then it would end forever.
i think, for a second chance, it has to be someone who you may be able to see a future with, a deep future with. if you can't see urself with him for many years to come, then it is not worth the effort. if you can, and you trust that he won't do it again, then go for it all you can.
2006-07-11 08:39:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats your call, but take this into consideration.......Some people do change, and some people dont change in 10 yrs. I hope in your case this guy has gotten his morals together and realizes that he is granted another chance with a great person, he should make it work this time. Good Luck! Keep us posted.
2006-07-11 08:19:16 · answer #8 · answered by ME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am dating my ex again from three years ago who cheated on me. So give him a chance maybe he changed
2006-07-11 08:12:34 · answer #9 · answered by movu101779 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you have forgiven him for his cheating. But if you do give him another chance be careful and keep an eye out. He may have changed, realised how stupid he was. Now that he may get this second chance he may decide to be faithful.
2006-07-11 08:13:53 · answer #10 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋