Last night she told my 7 year old son that I had a baby girl who died before he was born. I did, but I was going to tell him myself when he was a little older. He has so many questions and he is very sad because "his sister died". I don't know if I'll ever be able to speak to the witch again. When I tried to talk to my husband about it he told me to chill and stop being such a smart-a**. I'm really hurt. More for my son then for me of course. Advice?
2006-07-11 07:55:39 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
sorry to hear that. but 7 years old, he understands alot u know. you have to answer his questions to the best of ur ability. I'm a 29 yr old cancer patient with 2 sons age 9 & 11 and they have been full of questions from day1. You have to be strong and tell the truth to them. I understand you wanted to wait, but now he knows you just break it down to him.
2006-07-11 08:03:05 · answer #1 · answered by cilstubbs2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be letting her know as maturely as possible that springing anything like that again on your son without your permission or knowledge first may lead to her being banned from your son's life until he is old enough to understand these things. She had absolutely NO RIGHT to tell a 7 year old anything like that! As for your husband, he had better start thinking more of his son and his wife, before he allows his mother to plant a wall firmly between all of you!
2006-07-11 15:00:50 · answer #2 · answered by babydoll121070 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First - you're mother-in-law overstepped her boundaries. It was not her place to tell your son that.
Second - your husband sounds like an asshole (no offense). He should have gotten after his mother as soon as he found out she opened her big, fat mouth.
It sounds like they are cut from the same cloth. I think you need to have a very serious talk with each of them or you will never be happy.
My ex-mother-in-law tried to tell me what colour my wedding party should be and what I was to have at my wedding dinner. I told her if she got married again she could do it her way, until then, it was MY wedding and it would be done my way.
After we were married she always insisted if we had children we had to name them after her deceased husband and herself. Eventually I just told her if she wanted children by those names, she damn well better get busy and have more kids because there was no way in hell I was naming my kids those names! Thankfully my husband backed me up.
After those two blow ups we became incredibly close and we respected each other. We never had another argument again.
2006-07-11 15:04:30 · answer #3 · answered by I love my husband 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is obvious where your husband stands. He should stand with his wife, instead of being a momma's boy.Talk to your husband and tell him in no uncertain terms that this is betrayel. Mother in laws do not have the right to cause friction in their son/daughter's marriage relationship.
2006-07-11 15:03:13 · answer #4 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, I think you actually mean "clueless" instead of despicable. I bet she was just trying to have something really interesting to say, like people who always have to share the juiciest gossip no matter how much it hurts people.
My MIL is a little like that, too. She used to tell her friends, when she didn't want to do something with them socially, that I was making her iron my husband's shirts or I'd be mad at her, blah blah. Just because she didn't want to sound like she didn't like them or whatever!
2006-07-11 15:01:24 · answer #5 · answered by oldsoul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh that was sooo wrong! and your husband as well! the only person that should have told him was you and your husband! the only thing left at this point is to talk to him and let him grieve in the way that he will. and i would totally talk to M-I-L. what a heifer! mine is a WITCH as well! so don't feel bad... just do what you have to do to help your son!
2006-07-11 15:00:00 · answer #6 · answered by Luvbuz01 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a talk with that woman now! and your husband needs to stick up for you, is he a mama's boy or something, that was none of her business to talk to your son about death, what a horrible woman! i'm not fond of my mother in law but she would never do something like that
2006-07-11 14:59:59 · answer #7 · answered by AFwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats horrible for you and your son. I'm sorry
2006-07-11 14:59:14 · answer #8 · answered by Arthur Margarine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my son does, want her
2006-07-11 14:58:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋