How do I ask a girl out?

Question

I know that there are plenty of other questions out there, but I would like to know what I should do. Let me set the scene:
I'm very shy: I've never told a girl that I like her, let alone love (or have a crush on) her.
I'm intelligent (look at some of my answers [no boasting there]).
I am currently at a well-known science laboratory for my year 10 work experience.
I met her a couple of days ago, and absolutely adore her personality, looks, politeness et cetera. We talked for, like, two minutes. (I know her name!)
We talk once a day, about general science stuff in the laboratory. (Chances are, I won't ask her out like this: she's always with another girl, and so I would kill myself of the embarrassment if she said no).
We may speak at lunch in the cafeteria, if I see her.
She's not in the same school as me and I have until next Thursday to ask her out.
This may be a bit listy, but I typed as I thought.
I never thought that I'd be posting this question, so SENSIBLE ANSWERS ONLY, PLEASE.

PS. By the way, year 10 is ages 15-16.
I don't know what it is in American grades, so I didn't state it.

Today I saw her in the cafeteria, again with her friend. I didn't approach, not even to ask how she was, because she was with someone who I think is her supervisor. Throughout lunch, I kept glancing at her (well, she's beautiful, obviously), to see if she'd leave her friend, in which case I'd "swoop in" and speak to her. The second time I looked, her friend was looking at me and instantly looked away, and whispered something into her ear. I continued talking to my friend, who probably thought I was an idiot, looking at people, and looked at her again. This time, she was looking at me and immediately looked away, to make it seem as though she wasn't looking at me. Later on, she whispered to her friend, who followed, and walked past me to the coffee machine. I turned around to speak to her but she had already started to walk past me. Does this mean anything; I'm an idiot when it comes to this. Thanks; please reply, I want to know if she likes me! This is like a blog, an entry every day!

Hello, again!
I saw her in the cafeteria again today. Both she and her friend knew I was there; I was right next to them at one point, however, the same thing happened as yesterday. After eating she and her friend walked into the room in which I was eating, drunk a glass of water and left. They seem to act suspisiously around me, and I'm pretty sure she likes me. I think she's playing hard to get. I plan to arrive a little later tomorrow, so that I can speak to her. I may ask her if she'll go out with me, although I may leave it until next week, so that I can speak to her casually first, to see how she speaks. That is, if she is nervous, nice or a bit flattered.
"thebestnamesarealreadytaken0909", do you think that I should maybe wait to see if her friend asks me, or if I should ask her friend. (This doesn't mean that I'm going to, I want suggestions).

Answer 1

that is so cute! when you see her and she's with a friend, just sweetly touch her elbow and say, "Can i talk to you for a second in private?" then when you're alone, let her know how hard it is for you to come out and ask this. say something like, "I think you're a really great girl. this is so hard for me to say because i like you so much, but i was wondering if you would like to go out with me sometime." say it as more of a statement than a question. this lets her know that you are serious, but not desperate. (it's better than, "Will you please go out with me?!") good luck! basing on what you've written, you're a really sweet guy and she would be crazy not to say yes. but just in case she says no, make sure you know there are plenty more people out there. :)

Answer 2

"personality, looks, politeness et cetera." Well what are the qualities you don't like about her? Once you know her good and bad qualities and still like her you will find it easier to talk to her and ask her out because you know exactly what you like about her. You're relationship will also be much deeper later on because you actually put some thought into the matter. Nothing more annoying then a relationsip built on some random encounter at bar or coffee ship. As for the asking out part you just got to close you're eyes and hope for the best, no way around that.

Answer 3

look next time you see her just ask her if she'd like to meet you at a local cafe for example to talk some more.
if she agrees then you're in with a good chance of making this work. just make this more friendship first. at the end of the cafe day/date you ask her if she would like to may be done the cafe date again and may be would she consider going out with you somewhere (pick a place in your local area).
see if your friendship blossoms into a romance over a period of time.
the cafeteria is great as a start. she will be flattered you asked and beleive it or not you can ask her friend to ask her for a DATE date if your to shy to do it yourself, girls help out girls like that from what i've read on answers in recent weeks.

just try and take it slow, if you want a long term relationship with the girl in question start with friendship and build slowly towards romance, as oneday when you are both ready and old enough romance will blossom hopefully.

you can only talk to her you have nothing to lose except maybe a little emabarasment and maybe the love of your life to gain.

year ten that's 14 if memory serves me. so your both under the legal age of consent anyway, so friends is the best way to be for now.
remeber under the legal age of consent, you and her can not legally consent to sex. so if you love her wait till 18 minimum preferably age 21 when your hormones have started to settle down from puberty. (speaking as a shy single guy age 32 here).
don't end up like me. i was too shy to ask girls out and still am. so what if you get a rejection or two if you don't ask you will never know what might have been. so take a chance on a great friendship and hope it blossoms to romance one day like i have already said.

Answer 4

Does she have an email, or did you get her phone number? You seem really thoughtful and considerate about not asking her when she's around her friend, and I totally agree with you on that. Well, here's an idea for you from a girl's perspective, lol. First off, I would ask her number- not just outright ask if she'll go out with you. Then if that doesn't seem to bother her, be brave and call her up. While you're on the phone, somehow casually bring it up, or you could just say something about her and how you think that you would work good together. Something like that. Hope this helps!

Answer 5

My suggestion is to just be yourself. Tell her that you'd like to get to know her better, and invite her out to get an ice cream or something. That way if there are a lot of strange moments you don't have to hang out for a long time, but if you hit it off, you can always take a walk or go see a movie or something. If you are over 20, you can approach her in a crowd, her female friends won't make fun of you, and she sounds like she would be good enough to turn you down gently if she really isn't interested.

Answer 6

got any idea what she is into? could see if she wants to go to the cinema. start off by chatting about a film you watched recently that you thought was good, ask her what films she likes, talk about some films that you like in that genre then mention that ------film is at the cinema at the moment does she want to go? if she seams that she is a bit uncomfortable coz she doesn't want to date tell her to come with some mates or something. this way you will get to know her better out of the work scene, next time she maybe more comfortable going out just the two of you. good luck.

Answer 7

ok, sound good so far, i think your looking for a dead answer, what i mean by that is that you might only be looking for that connection, that next steop, then what? were do you go from there? hmm? dont worry, being there, done that.
its early days, so take your time, yes you do like this girl but dont be blinded by your own needs and emotions. you need to find open ground, (and i dont mean a empty carpark) find some common intrest, but try to stay away form work, its nice to meet people at work but never good to only have it. see what you both can enjoy, go for a drink, but just a after work thing, like you were going anyway but asked her if she wanted to go, also, never plan what you might get out of a relationship like this. you never know what might happen, thats the fun part!

Answer 8

There is only one way to deal with this my friend.
Be straight to the point.
Ask her if she would like to go for a meal or a drink, and if she accepts, take it easy. tell her how you feel when you feel the timing is right, & if its ment to be all will work out.
If not, then it was not ment to be.
If thats the case all you can do is try and close this chapter of your life & move on !!.

If you get lucky and need a little help, my e-mail address is : [e-mail] e-mail me any time

Good luck my friend

Steirvine

Answer 9

awww bless
right, you need to find out her interests first.
then, when you see her in the cafeteria next, say,' can i have a word with you?' either next lesson/week/outside (delete as applicable)
when she turns up, say you like her etc.
just like that, get it out in the open. you'll feel better, and you'll make her day.
the worst she can do is say no, but i guarantee she will be really flattered regardless.
take the chance! live a little!
it could be the start of a beautiful thing.
the best of luck! :D

Answer 10

Look if she say's no who gives a crap... the damn bank says no to me all the time when I go in looking to buy a new boat.

Check your shame at the door walk up to her like your the King of the Jungle and tell her since you might not see her again you want to ask her for her email or # or whatever.

If it works and she has a boat find me :)