Some say for convienience, but personally, I find that trifiling.
2006-07-11 07:53:48 · 26 answers · asked by Mary C 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because guys will lie.
Sometimes guys will be tell them that their relationship is on the rocks and they are on the outs. So the girl thinks that he will eventually leave his wife or g/f for her. It's bull and the delude themselves into thinking it's okay.
If he doesn't then she's probably just enjoying the idea of taking someone else's guy, to prove she can do it. It's stupid but that's the way it is.
Ultimately if your guy has another woman it's probably time to kick him to the curb.
2006-07-11 08:09:42 · answer #1 · answered by anku7448 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think most of us are just desperate. We can't find a man of our own, and the world is telling us we are nothing if some man doesn't proclaim us to be worthy of a relationship or marriage. So we "settle" in many ways than just being the "other woman".
Trifling? Perhaps. But we are all hurting. You shouldn't judge someone for doing something you wouldn't do. Perhaps there are things you do that another woman (even the "other woman") would consider trifling. We all have our own crosses to bare. People in glass houses shouldn't throw stones.
2006-07-11 14:59:59 · answer #2 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why does everyone critize woman. It takes two people to be involed. has anyone ever asked why do men cheat and why are they okay being the other person in a relationship. It really upset they always critize woman but no one ever it there to say the men did anything wrong.
I have and am the other woman and people should not judge based on what they think they know. Irroncally I hear all the negativity but no one should critize until they know all the facts. i do not have low self esteem-I am confident in who I am --and do not appreciate people who judge
2006-07-11 15:34:43 · answer #3 · answered by dolphin29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont mean to sound weird or anything... honestly, im the kind of person who would want things for myself... however, when you fall in love, it is really hard to predict what you will do. if by any chance you become the other woman, look at the facts. maybe the guy just cant get out of his past relationship even if both party know that it's over between them. in that case i think im okay with being the third party although i do have to eat all of my pride up. if you cant stand it then try not to be in any situation like that
2006-07-11 15:04:26 · answer #4 · answered by lonely girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey... I take offense to that!
I'm not saying its OK to be "the other woman" - it sucks for us too you know!
They might say its for convenience, but we really end up having strong feelings towards the man. We hope in the back of our minds that he'll come to his senses and leave whoever their with. That's how women are - we never lose that hope.
I was with my co-worker for a while at my previous place of employment and I knew he had a serious girlfriend, but he insisted that he wasn't happy with her anymore. I just wanted to have fun, in all seriousness. So it started out purely physical, but after a while, I realized that I didn't want to share him anymore. I let him know and gave him some time to think about it. If after the time I gave him, he still wasn't sure, I was going to leave him. But it turns out he had the same feelings for me and left his girlfriend. We are now married with a beautiful daughter and things have never been better.
I would suggest women not get themselves into the situation I was in. Alot of people get hurt and they never forget it!
2006-07-11 15:05:15 · answer #5 · answered by Kathy S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, guys look at dating in a different manner than women. Women look at every guy that they date as that potential "one". Every guy that they date is supposed to be "the one", even if she has to try to change him to make him fit the mold. Guys look at dating like they look at cars. You may or may not be "the one", but we won't know that until we've tested enough of you to know. Why put all of your eggs in one basket? It is better to test drive a group of women and pick the best one out of the group.
Also, until you've had that monogamy conversation, he's a free agent. I don't understand women who think that their vagina is magical and that it will automatically keep other men from seeking other vaginas. Yours is no better than the next woman's. If that makes men sluts, so be it. But that is the difference between men and women. We would rather pick the best woman available to us than to have to try to change an ugly duckling into a swan.
2006-07-11 15:00:17 · answer #6 · answered by Justin B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think some women are needy -- any port in the storm. I think some women are thrill seekers -- the forbidden. I think some women are dumb as rocks -- he will leave me for her, he loves me. I think some women are evil -- how many marriages can I break up, I'll call the wife and tell her.
But for the most part, I think people are good and kind. Married men (and women) are taboo and most know that and stay away.
2006-07-11 14:57:44 · answer #7 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loneliness
2006-07-11 14:55:58 · answer #8 · answered by G h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all people like who they like. If a man a woman desires wants to be with them intimately, then maybe they will thinking that it may end up where they're not the OTHER woman but rather THE woman...or alternatively maybe they derive satisfaction out of messing with someone that's taken...I think we can all agree that people that are in relationships are appealing.
2006-07-11 15:00:42 · answer #9 · answered by DooDooBrown 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my state, it's not so easy to be the other woman or other man for that fact. In NC a spouse who has been cheated on can sue the "other" person for alienation of affection and can cost them alot of money.
2006-07-11 14:57:08 · answer #10 · answered by miss_chrissy_dawn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋