I know you want both, but which one is priority and which one is your priority? A example of your priority in action would be appreciated, but not required.
2006-07-11 07:49:36 · 13 answers · asked by why 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes MJ...I have 4 kids. 7, 5, 3, 3months
2006-07-11 08:00:07 · update #1
I do think one follows the other as some have said, but which one comes first? ...that is the interesting part. I think we all have differing opinions on this one and that is where examples might bolster one's position.
2006-07-11 09:37:09 · update #2
I would say respect, because if they respect you they will love you. It's also the number one priority from my kids on my part. A prime example of the respect I expect from my kids is not talking back and not calling me names or talking about me behind my back to other people. You got kids?
2006-07-11 07:56:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
This is a mind blowing question. I think I understand where you're coming from and it's a little sad.
My children love me. There is absolutely nothing I can do to change that.
I suppose that is the example of my priority in action: I Ioved my children with my soul and with my intent.
I don't worry about whether they respect me. I respect them.
Add'l Details: Which comes first? Love. Without a doubt.
Respect requires socialization. Also, how it is earned, expressed and recognized varies by culture; and even by indiviuals.
2006-07-11 08:20:14 · answer #2 · answered by limendoz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loving your child does not mean you allow them to do whatever they like. You can have love and respect both.
I guess I am having a hard time with this question. I could understand trying to choose between having the kids respect you or fear you but having to choose between respect and love.... I firmly believe that the kids can love you and respect you both but that love is more important than respect. A child learns how to be with others by their interactions with their parent and would you rather they be respected by their peers and perhaps alone or that they be loved by their peers and feeling secure? I love my children but I am not their friend. I have a very fine but strong line drawn between love and being a buddy that they can walk over. You love your child with discipline and punishment as well as hugs and kisses. And with the discipline and punishment comes respect that you mean what you say and will follow through. When my kids do something really bad I hug them and tell them I love them but.... but that they need to help me decide what punishment suits the act. I guess I feel that my job is to guide them and prepare them for success in their own lives and nothing brings success like happiness and nothing brings happiness like love!
2006-07-11 07:54:52 · answer #3 · answered by Valerie z 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-01 01:58:19 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really think one is possible without the other. Ace's answer says it best with love comes respect. Love doesn't constitute as giving your kids their way all the time or giving them lots of material things. Same goes for respect, it doesn't mean that you have to resort to harsh discipline to 'put them in their place'.
2006-07-11 09:26:19 · answer #5 · answered by hidgoeshollywood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would rather be respected by my children. I want them to know that when I say I am going to do something, that I will in fact do it. I can't stand it when parents promise their kids things and then back out.
My kids always know that I will follow through on anything I say I am going to do. They have always respected me for it.
2006-07-11 07:56:21 · answer #6 · answered by nana4dakids 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think respect is more important. Love comes naturally whereas respect is earned. I know I appreciate something a lot more if I have to earn it rather than have it given to me.
2006-07-11 15:56:03 · answer #7 · answered by Mollywobbles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
both have to be done from the kids our your go throw hell ask me i know i have two step daughters and i of mine own and i am only 26 they won't respect they gave you respact is what i always say to them kids ages 7 11 13
2006-07-11 08:46:24 · answer #8 · answered by shawna m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids will love you if let them stay out whenever, not pry into their lives, and buy them things. They'll respect you for being honest with. Which do you prefer?
2006-07-11 08:10:59 · answer #9 · answered by rogue chedder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't really love someone you don't respect. But we are talking about children. children learn from their parents. they know how to love you, but you must teach them to respect. I have friends who have blown it with their children by trying to maintain friendships with tham, and not a parental relationship. You have a housefull good luck.
2006-07-11 08:05:15 · answer #10 · answered by Doll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋