how do you love and care and all that other fuzzy stuff? christans, jwes, buddists, pagans answer give me info

Question

i do you love life when all you can see is evil (yes thats all i see, i go to a high school and all i see are gangbangers and whores), how do you live your family?(i have no intrest in my family, i love them but i can do fine with out them and i have no idea why that is) how do you open up to be able to make some friends and get a partnet?(i hAV a grand total of 3 friend and only sort of had 2 girl friends [i am more concerned with the friends that partners]) how do you become more human?


yeah sorry for the bad grammer, pissed and not in the mood to use spell check

Answer 1

You sound like a younger guy, younger than me, so take a little advice from an old guy if you don't mind.

Life can be a real b**ch, a struggle to fit in, to find answers, friends, love. Just be realistic, don't expect miracles and don't expect huge steps.

Just be yourself, be honest with who you really are and do the things you like to do. If you do you will find others who like the same things and friendship will take care of itself.

Life's not always easy, you have to accept that. When you do have good moments, enjoy them.

Answer 2

The Bible says that Christians love because He first loved us. To be quite honest, I probably wouldn't care either man. If this whole world means nothing, then why should we bother putting our effort into it. But if there is a God who has given the human race meaning, then maybe it's worth our time. The fact that evil exists and is quite blatant in no way contradicts what the Bible says. It's not all about love and nice fuzzy feelings. Anyone who says it is is not living in the real world. Life sucks sometimes. But i know that I was created in the image of the Creator. I know that I deserve to burn in hell for eternity because i've sinned against him. But i also know that I'm saved from that fate by the blood of His Son. He has given me life. He makes it worth living even though i'm in and of myself just as bad as those gangbangers and whores. He's shown me mercy and i can never repay Him for it, and He never asks me to. Life isn't easy. It never will be. It's harder for some than others, and that's just the hand that God has dealt us. But we can't really complain because we deserve much worse than what we've gotten. If any questions, let me know.

Answer 3

This will be only partly on-target for now; I'll try to come back later after I get this off my chest.

Your story illustrates a fascinating little point that was made to me once by my spiritual mentor:

Jesus said that the 2nd greatest commandment was, 'Love your neighbor as yourself.' But what if you don't love yourself?? (I'm not trying to put words in your mouth here, BTW. When I look back on my HS days, I think I had it a little worse even than you, as I only had one girl who was at all interested in me, & the feeling was not reciprocal at the time.) But I digress:

The point is, His commandment to love your neighbor PRESUMES a healthy love of yourself. Why is that so hard? Because you see the deepest, darkest corners of your own soul; the places that you can hide from all but the closest confidants. If you can love yourself in spite of those things, it becomes a lot easier to accept that others aren't perfect, either.

So, my first reaction to your message is that your difficulty loving others may stem from a questioning of your own value. Don't know how others come upon it; but in Genesis, the recurring theme in the entire (7-day) story of creation is that what God created is GOOD. That, I think, is one of the major points of the story; and something different from many of the creation myths of ancient pagan religions, in which mankind is more of a random accident, with no inherent value.

Good question! I'll need to meditate on it more. I hope you find something in my answer worth pondering, as well.

Answer 4

I for one have no dillusions that Love is warm and fuzzy, caring always happy-happy-joy-joy. Love is not about how you feel, but about what you do. Love is an action. Loving people like gangbangers and whores is very difficult becuase they are not thought of as deserving...which brings me to the next point that I've made before...Christians are commanded to love, forbidden to judge. Both of these are highly difficult.

Loving your family? Sometimes it's better to love others from afar.

Making a friend is actually easy. It's the being a friend that's complicated. Many people, for whatever reason, are very self-involved and are unaware that this is not the right way to live.

When it comes to friendship and love, I find that focusing on myself and my own needs makes these things very difficult; focusing on others--my friends, lover, family--and their needs makes it easy. The less I worry about what's in it for me, the better my friendships seem to be. It's all about the giving.

Answer 5

The Golden Rule is a good place to start; treat others as you want to be treated yourself.

But real love goes farther than that; love (not the romantic kind) means to forgive people even if they don't deserve it; to give without any thought of benefitng from it. That doesn't mean you have to be an idiot who everybody uses; you don't have to be an idiot to love. If you want to make friends, you'll just have to show that you're willing o be their friend rather than their enemy. But, in highschool, this doesn't work a lot of the time; tha doesn't mean the idea is wrong, it means that people in highschool aren't reasonable.

That's all I know to say; I'll pray you find what you're lookin for. Remember, the Bible says

Seek, and ye shall find; knock, and the doo will be opened unto you. If you're really looking for these aswers, you WILL find them.

Answer 6

You have to let yourself love......

Try this..........(and yes I know it will feel kind of awkward)

Go give one of your parents a hug and tell them (honestly) that you care about them. Thier first reaction may be to ask if you are on drugs, but that's only because they aren't used to hearing that from you. Talk to them and listen to what they have to say. Even if you don't agree. When they come to a point that you don't agree on, ask them to explain that point of view. There is no need to argue, just talk.

Have a real conversation with them.

Repeat this throughout your family for a couple of weeks to start. If you give it an honest effort you will start to feel alot better inside. The better you feel on the inside the better you will look on the outside. No I'm not talking about the movie star body and a million dollar smile. I mean you will look like you are happy with yourself. And that makes you more approachable. People see a nicer person and will want to talk to you. Talk to them. Listen to them. Try to get an insight to thier lives. You may hear something about them that changes your opinion of them. Maybe you could even learn to like a few of them.

All it takes on your part is an honest effort. Start at home.........

Good luck............

Answer 7

It is really hard to be a teen today. You have to live up to expectations from family, friends, and others. To love life is to find true faith. Do not be judgmental of others. You are seeking the infinite independence from your family and growing. Try a smile, it works. Pick your friends like you pick your nose carefully. Try asking the Lord Jesus to come into your heart and help you. Ask for wisdom, peace and love.

Answer 8

There is bad in good and good in bad. You have to train yourself to see and recognize both.

Answer 9

The person above me is weird!

Answer 10

LOVE ALL!


LOVE ALL!


LOVE!


YESHUA!