In the beginning of our relationship my boyfriend wanted to spend lots of time together. We have been having arguments the last few weeks because he is going through financial difficulties. He said he needed some "space" which I have given him but I just feel like we are drifting apart. We use to see each other 5 times a week, now it is down to 3 times, and I am very unhappy. Part of me wants to break up and part of me wants to work it out. Any suggestions?
2006-07-11 07:36:44 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hell yes
2006-07-11 07:39:41 · answer #1 · answered by Erica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The difference between love and infatuation is the ability to handle tough times. People must find their place in the others life and if that is not what they want then give up. Knowing He is under pressure makes His withdrawal understandable. He needs time to work things out. During the life ahead there will be times when you see less of Him than you might feel but it is not always the frequency of being with someone but the depth of the time yo have together that should decide if the relationship is worth it.
2006-07-11 07:42:44 · answer #2 · answered by old codger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One- Try to find out if his needing 'space' is connected to his financial difficulties. It can be that he does not have the usual amout of money to spend on you as he used to and feels bad about it. To solve this, you can take him out!! and pay!!
Two- If his needing space is not related to his present situation, then he may be trying to let you down easily. Just plain out ask, the most he can say is it's over and no matter how hard it seems at first- life does go on!!!
I won't suggest that you just break up with him though because it seems as though he is having a hard time already.
Be patient with him.
2006-07-11 07:55:54 · answer #3 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to be together constantly for things to work. As long as you guys have good communication everything should work out just fine. You should probably sit down and talk to him about what he wants. If he says he still wants to be with you but just needs his space, then leave him be. There's nothing wrong with needing space, especially when you're having financial problems. It's a stressful problem and having to deal with a boyfriend/girlfriend added on to that isn't going to help things. Give him time, and things should straighten out. BE PATIENT!
2006-07-11 07:40:07 · answer #4 · answered by youdontknowme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't stress it. You have to work at relationships. If you gave up everytime someone was going through a hard time, you wouldn't know what love will end up being like. He needs space because he's stressing. Ditching him now won't help, he still needs your support even if you're not around eachother. If he wanted to break up with you he would. Give it time and if he still seems distant, talk to him. Follow your heart. If you don't like the way things are then break it off.
2006-07-11 07:48:52 · answer #5 · answered by meghanw1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you deserve to be happy and if he is not doing this then you need to move on. I don't understand why you feel like 3 times a week isn't enough??? Try to be more independent or you will seem needy to guys...and you should rethink the 5 times a week...you need a life of your own! Well does this help??
2006-07-11 07:40:54 · answer #6 · answered by Texas318-222 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to him about how you feel? One of the cornerstones of any good relationship, aside from trust, is communication. You have to be able to talk to each other, even if the subject matter isn't pleasant. Not every conversation you have will be sunshine and rainbows you know. Tell him how you feel without being accusatory and tell him what you need, and also ask him how he feels and what he needs. Only then can you determine your next step. I hope everything works out ok. Good luck!
2006-07-11 07:43:06 · answer #7 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it was like that me and my girl and trust me being clingy dont help, being patience, collective, did, and so what if you see him, 10 to 5 or three times a week, (im in school ful time and my girl works, i only see her five to three time or less aweek, and it makes no difference cuz we are together and we love each other, what if i have to go to war what she loves me less? nope she misses me cuz she loves me)make you relationship with him strong. seeing someone will not make it strong no matter what some one wants to think. if he isnt a jerk listen to him, does he want it to work, is he willing, the relationship does not need to be put on holds for it to work. if you like him enough to be there for him, and help him though this(no dont loan him money, mabe one dollar, if he stuburn to ask, i was.) but be there like a friend, remember the next word in boy friend is "friend" being boy or girl should not make a difference how much respect or how well you treat the person.
2006-07-11 07:47:15 · answer #8 · answered by maticulously_happy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been going out? Sometimes they need space because they aren't ready for a commitment, but sometimes, they are cheating. You have to figure out why he needs his space. He needs to talk to you about it - communication is the #1 thing in a relationship.
2006-07-11 07:41:02 · answer #9 · answered by sundragonjess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he may be using his fiancial problem as a excuse. He may be involve with someone. Yall really need to talk. Express youself to him how you feel about whats going on. Communication is the word right now. If he not feeling you on that than move on. It hurts, but there are always healing for it.
2006-07-11 07:42:56 · answer #10 · answered by cilstubbs2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when they say they need a break it means their just not that into you. Why r u holding on to him if your relationship is all full on arguments?? do u feel like he is all you can get? how old are you? please dont stay with him out of obligation,fear or habit. maybe u need to check yourself and let him know that he's no longer good enough for you if he only wants u p/t
2006-07-11 07:44:09 · answer #11 · answered by natty b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋