My serious bf and I broke up about 2 mo. ago. We stayed in contact as friends. Now he wants to get back together. He wants me to move in and in 3 mo. get married. I still love him very much. We are very diffrernt people which is why we broke up in the first place. We never really fought or argued, it just seemed we were heading in different directions. Should I or shouldn't I. He is 32 and I'm 25.
2006-07-11 07:14:24 · 12 answers · asked by j_t3006 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I appreciate the position you are in, but the decision is going to be up to you. There is no right or wrong answer.
Why did you break up? After how long? Getting married and moving in together will NOT make your relationship stronger -- it will test it, especially in the first year.
There are lots of people in the world with whom you can build a meaningful, lasting relationship -- and each one will involve a different set of compromises and sacrifices. If you are very different people you are going to need good communications, a strong committment to the other's happiness, and a willingness by both of you to sacrifice to meet the other's needs. You have to decide if the sacrifices required by this particular relationship are something that you and he can and will both accept.
If you don't think you can go the distance, or doubt that he will meet you halfway, this probably isn't the one for you.
In the end, it's your call.
2006-07-11 07:22:25 · answer #1 · answered by kevinngunn 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well he may be more pushy as far as getting back in there and continuing the relationship. You on the other hand are at a turning point in your life. In my observation a female reaches these turning points at 14, 16, 18, 21, 25, 30, and 35. He may seem more pushy if you stayed "friends" meaning you still tipped over to his place for a little loving. As long as he hasnt been physically abusing you I think you should have a serious talk about where your going in your respective lives and see if you can fit each other into those plans. If not cut you ties and count your losses.
But dont let him get away if you know you really love him. Females fail to remember time is not your friend.
Now take 2 ov deez and call me in the morning
2006-07-11 07:25:38 · answer #2 · answered by Dr. Love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You stated you felt like you were moving in two different directions, do you still feel like that? You are the only person who you can determine what you should do. If you love him similar what you did before. If you broke up because you are different people, something like that doesn't just change. Don't get married just because he wants to in 3 months. If you are still undecided you could move in together but not promise him you'll marry him yet, you can always move out, a divorce is much harder. Good luck
2006-07-11 07:21:14 · answer #3 · answered by sweetpeaberry42 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend is 32, he is old enough to understand that if he really loves you, he would marry you first, instead of living together. See, if you live together, he has everything he wants or needs, shared responsibilities, sex and he is still very single. I know you might still love him, but he needs to feel the same for you. Tell him , "If you love me, then lets get married! I assure you he will find an excuse! (I hope I am wrong) I have been married for 27 yrs. My husband had asked me to live together, but I said no. We got married) Good Luck, God Bless!!
2006-07-11 07:22:57 · answer #4 · answered by 0000lost 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You alredy know the answer to this question, do what your heart tells you to do! Age is of no importance, but if you broke up due to underlying circumstances, those circumstances have not changed since you have been apart have they? Make a compromise if you love him. If you truly love him and he truly loves you, the little things will not matter and you will find a way to work through them, have a longer engagement and see where that takes you, dont rush into it. Good luck!
2006-07-11 07:20:33 · answer #5 · answered by slf620 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being different is not alwayes a bad thing but if it broke you up the first time then it will probley break you up again.sometimes two people are just not meant to be together even though you love each other .my advice try staying just friends for know.
2006-07-11 07:25:25 · answer #6 · answered by dede2772 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I made the mistake of marrying someone who who was 12 years my senior when I knew before we married that we had different takes on life and I am still paying for it... marriage is a big step... think long and hard and ask yourself is this person someone that can handle us moving in two different directions or will it tear us apart... please think before you accept.
2006-07-11 07:18:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a list of the pros and cons. what will you gain or lose if you stay with him.
You do not have to be alike with someone in order to have a good relationship. differences add taste and will enforce you to accept one another as they are...no more and no less.
If you feel that he loves you and holds you a priority in his life, that he respects you, your choices, your ideals and feelings, tries to MAKE YOU HAPPY most of all, then he is the right guy...
2006-07-11 07:22:38 · answer #8 · answered by Incognito 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pay very close attention to your heart. It sounds like your questions are perfectly normal and relevant. If you choose to continue with him insist that you both join some counseling to discover what underlying issues are present.
2006-07-11 07:18:51 · answer #9 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haven't you heard opposites attract? Marriage is supposed to be a life long commitment...unless you are certain, just get back with him and see where it goes. No need to rush into things.
2006-07-11 07:19:29 · answer #10 · answered by sweetestthing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋