Do you think its horrible that I only want one child. Is she going to be lonely growing up?

Answer 1

As an only child myself, it was hard for me to decide whether or not to have more children. Growing up, I was kind of lonely, but I get the impression that all teenagers are. Almost like a rite of passage!

The up-side to me being an only child: First of all, I didn't get everything I wanted (thank you very much!). My parents worked hard to make sure that I knew the value of a dollar. However, they were able to provide well for me, and I was able to do things that I may not have been able to do if that dollar had been split. I could be very involved in several activities, because they only had one child to cart around, ond one set of fees to surrender.

The down-side: Now that I am an adult, I realize the long-term ramifications of being an only child. My husband and I have already had the conversation--> his sisters will have to care for his parents when they are elderly, because I am the only one to care for mine. When they finally die, I will be the sole person there to make all the arrangements and deal with all the legal stuff. In the short-term, their only grandchild is mine, so I am conscious of how far away I can live. It feels like a huge responsibility, but only because I love my parents so dearly.

Long story short, this only child prefers to split the dollar between children, so that their adult lives can be a bit less daunting.

As for you, though, the decision has to be yours. And don't let anyone tell you that you are a bad person if you decide to stop at one. Just raise that one in such a way that no one will be able to look at him/her in college and say "You must be an only child."

Answer 2

I grew up as an only child, and I was rarely lonely. I am very close to my parents. I always had friends in my neighborhood to play with. People worry too much about children. They Will be what they turn out to be. I have two of my own now. I don't think they will be lonely, but I bet so where along the way they will each wish that they were only children.

Answer 3

No; I'm an only child. I wasn't lonely because I had plenty of adults to play with, but I don't suggest this, because I was one of those "sassy," grown children. If you make sure your child has regular play dates and that they have a very amiable and jovial childhood, they wont be lonely. At least this way, when your child gets fed up with other children, they can leave and go home to peace and quiet.

Answer 4

If you only want one child that's fine... more attention, time & money for her/him. At some point your child will probably ask for a little brother or sister... that's normal. My children do, and I have three! I don't think it will be too tramitzing on your little one to be an only child though. That's was cousins, friends and playgroups are for. Just be sure your child gets playtime with other children her/his age. Kids need that social interaction, and they learn & develop from watching other children. My children are 3, 4 & 5... they love to play together, but they also have seperate friends that they spend time with.

Answer 5

No it isn't horrible at all. I was an only child until I was a teenager. I got bored some times, but my mom always had time to play with me b/c she didn't have any other kids to take care of. I always had what I needed and had lots of attention and love! I have two children, but I don't think it is bad just to have one!

Answer 6

I have a neice who was an only child growing up. She's an adult now, and doing fine!

By the way, I grew up in a large family, and there were many times I felt lonely anyway.

Answer 7

I think it's a little selfish. You have to think about her..does she want a playmate? Does she want a sibling to run around the house with? Does she want to be the only one or do you want her to be the only one? It's really kind of selfish, maybe you should ask her if she wants a sibling. If she says no, then you're off the hook I guess. Just don't let her grow up to be a spoiled brat like you..she'll think the world revolves around her, which will be extremely shocking to her when she finds out that it doesn't and she'll blame you for letting her believe it does.

Answer 8

no, she won't be lonely. just make sure she's around other kids a lot. also, you. only children can be sassy, but i'm sure you can take hold of that if you see it coming. don't treat her like an only child. of course take her places to spend time with you, but also let her go with other parents to the park or whatever and you can sometimes invite another child to join you and your daughter to the park or whatever. my husband was an only child and i've noticed that he has a hard time dealing with our 2 children, disciplin and such. also when holidays role around it's hard to get him into tradition because as an only child his mom and step dad didn't do much because there were only the three of them. my husband doesn't understand equals and sometimes overdoes or underdoes things.

Answer 9

It is up to you how many children you have, not anyone else. Only you know how many you can handle. As far as the child being lonely, as long as you take her to play groups and she has interaction with other children, she will not get lonely.

Answer 10

No. If you want one child that is fine. Just make sure you help your child to be social. I would make sure your child had plenty of other children to play with and not adults.