My son Girlfriend has a 5 yr old son.He is mean and wants to hit her and push her to the limit.any suggestions

Question

She has tried time out taking stuff from him and even spanking but nothing works.Does anyone have a solution to this.

Answer 1

Consistency. I bet sometimes when he throw a fit she gives in? Sit back and see. He has to know everytime A happens, B will result. She can also try positive reinforcement.

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Answer 2

i no what u mean. my son is 7 years old he brakes stuff hits his sisters even hits my infant of 2 months i didnt no what to do it took me 4 years to get help one min he would be happy 2 minutes later he is going crazy. finally his doc. listen to me for onces the school thought i was crazy cuz they never saw that side of him. his doc and family service finally listen to me when he gave my 4 year old a mark on her back the size of a baseball. he sees a counsler now he is being tested for bi-poler and adhd. he is haveing 5 more test done after these 2. he is doing a little better. his doctor told me that he could be suffering from sezers. and that it might have something to do with his brain. so far hes had counsling and that is working a little. so try that to start with. ask your doctor about some of the stuff i said cuz i had no idea my son had all this. i missed it and so did everyone else. i just thought i had a mean son. but i dont he is getting the help he needs now. i did everything time out, takeing toys away, spanking doesnt help i did that and it made him worse.

Answer 3

She needs to spend some extra time with him and have a little heart to heart talk. He is still a toddler so she has time to do something about it by setting down some rules about it being completely unacceptable to hit mom. She could try a time out on a corner mat somewhere under a watchful eye as he is still very young indeed. Maybe you could have an award chart for him - everytime he does well with anything. This will encourage him to behave in the right way.

Answer 4

A firm, consistent, loving response is the only way to deal with this. You (as a good male role model) can be a really important resource. If he sees that two adults can calmly react to his negative behavior - and be in agreement that it's not okay - the behavior will stop.

It might help to figure out why he's doing it. Is he sad? Frustrated? Bored? Does he need attention? If he's feeling like he's loved and has his needs met, he'll be less likely to behave this way.

Really - hitting him so he'll stop hitting? What a strange and illogical solution.

Answer 5

she's let him get away with too much for too long would be my guess. buy her a supernanny book and have her try some of that.

she must be extremely consistant and get right down on his level when she talks to him so that she commands his attention.

at this point she can't give in to him at all. what she says needs to be law and that's end of discussion.

all actions need a consequence that happens every time. He's old enough to understand "if you do ___ then ___ will happen" for example if he hits her he goes in the corner. No warnings or anything. And he stays in the corner for at least 5 minutes (because of his age)

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Does he have a man in his life to show him how he is supposed to treat his mother? I know it's not your place to but this little boy really needs a father figure in his life so he can learn that he is not to hit and push his mom. Maybe you should ask your girlfriend if you can start showing him what it means to respect his mother. And yes sometimes that may mean you have to take her role and put him in time out or even spanking him. But ask her first! If you feel this relationship is going somewhere then step up and be a man and show this little boy how he is suppose to treat his mom.

Answer 8

There is a book by Cesar Milan - called the Dog Wisperer. Seriously - chidren need to be raised in the same fashion.

Ignore the little shyt. He is obviously doing it for attention. If that doesnt work, my momma used to give me four across the eyes...yup, you guessed it - a backhand to the dome. Little shyt will straighten right up. And if he doesnt hit him harder.

Ever since the 1980s, its been "bad" to hit your kids. They NEED IT, damn it!

Answer 9

Number one, tell him never to hit his kids- why does everything in this world has to result in violence?
Number two, you have to be firm and persistant. Giving-up on your line of action just reinforces that he has the power to do what he's doing and get away with it. Make sure that he gets it drilled into his head that you are the parent not him.

Answer 10

Tell her to call Nanny 911 or Supernanny