Like i said 6years.Most times we fight,he doesn't understand me one bit he thinks am to white,he can get violent.Sex has become so crapy.It was like this from the begining, got a bit better i can say and now it's just something esle.When we have good times it's really cool but those times are so few.He is so impatient not just with me but everyone around me and to make it worse he sleepes around with different women.Look i know i can mess up sometimes too but am so scared of him now that i just try too bee prefect.Am just an expensive funiture, go out with, smile in public he treats me like a queen but when we get bck he jjust diffenet.It's been 6 long years and i alwaays felt he will change, bt it's just gotten worse and we live toghter so sometimes i just break down that i can't get myself to work and i don't want to got home after work.Should i leave i have made up my mind.The beating which he gives me sometimes scares me a lot too for just stupid reasons like i left him hungry
2006-07-11 06:54:26 · 20 answers · asked by shiva 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i was married to my ex for 26 years and they never change just leave i did i know wot you mean good luck
2006-07-11 07:08:05 · answer #1 · answered by carolyn m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it from me. I was in a 13 year relationship. During that time, I did meet a guy that I fell in love with and wanted to be my husband, but because I held on to the original guy for 13 years, I missed out on the guy I really liked. He called me a few years ago to tell me that he got tired of waiting on me, and that he had gotten married and moved away. My advice to you is if you are unhappy, leave. You are not married to this man and you can move on with your life. It's like he is already settled in and used to the fact that you will always be there. This will be one of the biggest things you do for yourself, but you deserve completely happiness. It is really sad when you work all day and can't or don't want to go home because of you situation. You must work on yourself and know that YOU WILL BE FINE when he leaves. You don't know what man is out there waiting on you or already is admiring you in silence, but will not say anything because he knows that you re with this loser. I don't like the fact that he treats you nice in public and not at home in private. That should let you know that he doesn't deserve you. It is up to you to make the decision to leave and the only good thing about it is that the two of you aren't married. Do your life a favor, kick him out of it!
2006-07-11 14:35:18 · answer #2 · answered by AMAZON 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave.
You are not happy. So leave.
Don't try to make it work. Some things just don't work.
If after so long (6 years is quite a while) you are still wondering, you aren't really wondering about the relatioinship, you are wondering how long you can PUT UP with the relationship. Save your self some heartache, pain, grief...
Leave, NOW.
2006-07-11 14:00:49 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow i think you should leave this guy... what is there holding you back from breaking up with him except for the fact that you two have been together for six years... also no women deserves to be abused. What do you see in this guy? There are plenty of better guys out there who will treat you like a queen and respect you.
2006-07-11 14:00:01 · answer #4 · answered by Sabrina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out of there now girl and dont look back.....6 years is 6 years too long.....he isnt going to change and you know it.
i've had 2 violent relationships,the first lasted 2 years....that was 2 years that changed my life for ever...it made me into a different person.
the second lasted 6 years,like you....luckily the second was more mental than physical,if you can say it was luckily,altho violence did come into it.
you dont say if you have kids or not....it doesnt matter either way....the point is you must go as soon as it is possible for you to....
the next attack could be the one that kills you
you deserve better and believe me there is better out there.
i wish you well in your future.....stay safe
2006-07-11 14:20:44 · answer #5 · answered by julie w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out ASAP. There is no excuse for a man to get violent with a woman and he will never change. My youngest sister was involved with a guy like that for too long. Move on with your life and find happiness. Best of luck
2006-07-11 13:58:20 · answer #6 · answered by Phillip B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, it's not worth your pain and heartache. You can find a guy that will treat you like a queen all the time, not just out in public because he doesn't want people to know what he's really like. YOU DESERVE/CAN GET BETTER!! Stop doing this to yourself and move on.
2006-07-11 14:01:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is time to leave. He does not treat you with respect. You do not have to put up with that find someone who cares about you.
2006-07-11 14:02:56 · answer #8 · answered by scorpio11120 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get out because if he is beating you now he will keep doing it and it may get worse. Leave him
2006-07-11 14:33:41 · answer #9 · answered by mylove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive been in a relationship for fourteen years..married ten of those...two children...my life shattered when my wife told me she no longer loves me and wants to try new things.except i was not violent ,just a loving family man..thing is i still love her anyway,but youve got to let people move on ...So move on.....
2006-07-11 14:05:08 · answer #10 · answered by davidc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋