My fiancé and I were together for about 4 years when all of the sudden- it ended. Basically we just became all about business- not so much fun. We talked about the travl plans, renting a new home, new vehicles- just business ya know.
It’s been a month and we’re trying to work things out- we both know we can’t be without each other- its just not right. We’re still planning our marriage- but more fun too. Problem: He ran into an old friend while were apart. They used to be good friends back in high school- apparently she works at the mall now. So her number is in his phone and they’ve been chit chatting. He checked out my phone and saw a few pictures and numbers and texts, which I’ve cut ties completely with whomever I was talking to while we were apart. I asked to see his phone. He wouldn’t show me. He says there are messages from her- personal ones- she needed his advice on some things. And because that’s his friend- he’s not telling her business. Read the extra details....its juicy
2006-07-11 06:47:07 · 5 answers · asked by Jessica S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
. I found his phone- he deleted messages from her and to her- but forgot one thing. A draft. Saying "You looked cute with the kids my sweet lips." Um…. How personal are we talking here. He's still wanting to get married and make up for the lost time- he swears homegirl is just a friend from school. She works at the build a bear place in the mall so i know the message is for her. Give him a chance and hope he loses the chick, confront him, or move on?
2006-07-11 06:50:29 · update #1
i do not know what to say?????
2006-07-11 06:50:46 · answer #1 · answered by ashleybaby_nguyen94 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think this guy is being 100% honest with you. When you ask to see his text messages and he refuse that to me would raise a red flag make me think he has something to hide since you were without a problem in showing yours. He still wants to play the field. Think if your married he keeps getting text messages and refuses to show you, how long could you stand living like that. Any relationship is 50/50 or there is no relationship. Him not being honest with you will later in the future come back to haunt you...He should share text messages two heads are better then one...Good Luck
2006-07-11 14:05:35 · answer #2 · answered by Zoe 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him- it's her or you.... to bad their friends. It makes you feel uncomfortable and it's not a normally friendship since they use to date. If he won't stop being "friends" with her... that's a bad sign.. just move on.
My FI actually stop being friends with a guy because I comment on how comfortable he made me feel because the way he looked and talked to me. And he stop hanging out with him- he sees him at parties and stuff but he doesn't seek him out. If this guy really wants to be with you- he would understand and he can still be friends with her but not talk and hang out with her as much. He doesn't need to be all up in her personal life and why can't all three of you be friends? Won't he want you to do the same if a guy was calling your all the time?
2006-07-11 13:55:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you wish to pursue a relationship with anyone, you are going to have to learn to trust them. If you want total commitment from them, you gotta do the same. Take care, and good luck in your relationship.
2006-07-11 13:51:13 · answer #4 · answered by Collin R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is just a friend then you should be able to hang out with her to. if you get to know her then you might be more confortable with him talking to her. if he is defensive about you meeting her then there might be something going on.
2006-07-11 15:51:00 · answer #5 · answered by cutelil_bubble21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋