my father just quit his job, my mother doesn't work, and the two has a household to run. when i got upset about the whole situation my dad said that it is none of my business what they do. how is it none of my business if i live in the house and i am the one that has to suffer due to lack of money. i really got upset because i start my freshman year of college in the fall and am afriad that i wont be able to afford it even if i do work. not everyone is blessed with a scholarship. i cant wait to leave this hell hole.
2006-07-11 06:38:37 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
maybe i am wrong to get upset about the situation.i was only thinking about myself. but im tired of always going through my dad quiting his jobs just because he doesn't like working.
2006-07-11 07:02:25 · update #1
What is really being said is, "I cannot cope with this situation right now". Your dad has the weight of his family on his shoulders and he has probably reached his breaking point. Although it is a blessing when we have fathers who can provide material stuff for us and education, well, not all men are capable of doing so. Personality, upbringings, economies, and other stuff have beat your dad down. Your attitude is "Kicking him when he's down". Sometimes, our loved ones need a good kick (yes, even the parents), but you have to find out if this is right or not.
Try communicating with your dad without a motivation for yourself. Try talking to your mom. School councilors, friends, etc-etc-etc. First, you need to find out how to get yourself to college, then you need to decide how much you want to help your family. Just because you leave and grow up does not take you out of your family. Someday, you may need to drop your ambitions to help those in your family.
2006-07-11 07:25:41 · answer #1 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are about to start your journey into adulthood. Learning to cut the family ties and survive on your own may be accelerated by the family situation but live with it. Look into all the grants and support the college is offering and also the thousands of scholarships around. As an independent student You can get more from the government and school. Let your parents deal with their problems and concentrate on how you can get by without them. At least that will be something positive. Bugging them about things will only create hard feelings.
2006-07-11 07:26:23 · answer #2 · answered by old codger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I started off feeling sorry thinking you were a scared little girl wondering what would become of her mommy and daddy and their home and then I got to the part where you explain how you are in college and worried about your tuition?!?!?! OMG you selfish spoiled little brat! (popped out w/o thinking) I think it was appropriate for your dad to say that. If you are so worried about the finances of the household, why don't you do something to contribute. It's possible to go to school and work at the same time.
2006-07-11 06:51:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are an adult now and you need to start acting like one and take control of your life. Get a job and apply for student loans and grants. Now that you have to do it on your own you might ease up on your parents a bit and realize that parents are not required or obligated to pay for their child's college education.
2006-07-11 16:08:35 · answer #4 · answered by Mollywobbles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it always irritated me when my parents would say that crap. But you shouldn't give them such a hard time. I know your stressed but image how they must feel. Maybe you will have to work through college. It sucks and it takes longer but if it's the only way then thats what you gotta do.
Get a loan like everyone else.
2006-07-11 06:45:25 · answer #5 · answered by firefly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you are an adult and next time they ask about your buisiness tell them it is not the buisiness of a parent. Looks like you should move and get a job and rely on yourself, a jobless household will be useless for you.
2006-07-11 06:58:56 · answer #6 · answered by badmikey4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off your father is right it is none of your business what your parents do. second you sound just like my kids all you think about is yourself and what your going to have to go with out. third how do you think your parents feel. do you kids ever stop to think about some one else other than yourself. you sound like a spoiled brat and you need to go with out. maybe you should move out of your parents house and try taking care of yourself for a change if your old enough to go to college your old enough to live on your own.
2006-07-11 06:47:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sordid details of adult decisions are not the business of a child. You are a member of the family, but a Junior member. They will tell you what you need to know when they think you need to know it. Enjoy being a kid and butt out.
2006-07-11 06:42:53 · answer #8 · answered by therego2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
concidering your age they should let you in on the deal you should work and so should they if he quit though they may have plans you don't know about like retirement or a better job lined up
2006-07-11 06:43:14 · answer #9 · answered by buzy_bee_21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you mean when they say its nun of your business they say it becauz they have nothin else to say and dont want you to know what theyre doin it makes me mad when they say that because its really stupid!!! ARGHH
2006-07-11 07:08:13 · answer #10 · answered by KEWLKID2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋