He's been going for a week and starts screaming histerically when entering the school and and refuses to let you go. Even when i pick him up in the afternoon- he will be busy with something and when he sees me will drop everything and cry/ scream What must i do ? HELP!! i feel terrible...
2006-07-11 06:27:21 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
This is very natural. Ask your child's teacher or preschool director for some help with drop-off. It sounds like your son simply has trouble with transitions and some separation anxiety. Here is what I would try:
1. In the car on the way to school, do not ask him if he will be ok. This sends the message that you do not trust the school.
2. Leave the school as soon as you can. He will stop screaming once you are out of sight.
3. Come up with a goodbye routine, i.e. 2 kisses and one hug, and then leave.
4. Ask his teachers to give him a reminder before school ends that you will soon pick him up and he has 5 minutes to finish what he is doing
It sounds like he is putting on a show for you. Many children do this. It is totally normal and natural and WILL get better!
Hope this is helpfiul!
2006-07-17 12:27:09 · answer #1 · answered by kwinkle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change Schools!!!! My daughter had the same problem. I know that for the first few weeks it is hard ona child to be left, but it should get better over time. My daughter sreamed blue murder for over a month. I did the " drop in and have a look" and she would come running. The next school we tried she was fine after three days............ thats the truth! At her new school the teachers, and director asked her questions, her likes, dislikes, and made her a big part of the choice.
2006-07-12 22:42:40 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know he's acting this way because of something that has happened there. You need to drop in without notice and surprise the staff and see what's going on. You may be surprised. Even if you don't find something wrong you need to take him out of that day care facility. Children when in my care cry when they have to go home with their parents because I make their time with me so much fun. Something is really wrong if he is screaming like this when you go to drop him off. Look into it before something irreversible happens.
2006-07-11 13:34:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay some people just don't know what they are talking about BUT MOST of the people who have answered already do. Sorry, but lady, 9 out of 10 nothing has happened at the daycare that has caused him to act like this. Do you actually have kids and do you actually take them to daycare if you did you would know better than to say that. yeah it has happened that some times kids are mistreated BUT it is more than likely anxiety disorder. It is nothing to worry about...I dealt with it with my son and even my girls, hell my girls from time to time STILL have days they just wanna be with me and not at day care. What kid doesn't! Hel what mother doesn't wanna just spend a day with their child, what makes kids different, nothing!
So don't worry mom, I am more than sure that your son is fine once your gone. The workers in daycares see this EVERYDAY at least 100 times a day, they know what to do and say to help the child calm down and have a good day. WHen he sees you in the afternoons and starts crying its because he is happy to see you and all the emotions from the moring comes back. Its not bad, and it will get easier for him once he gets used to it. I am a FULL supporter of day care even if you are a stay home mom. Maybe daycare isn't right for some moms, BUT at least setting up play dates with other children is. Children need that interaction with others their own age, it helps them to identify with others easier as adults and with themselves when they realise, "WHoa he shits in his pants sometimes too!" lol okay maybe nto that but you get what I mean.
Good luck to you hun....I know its hard, I cried for WEEKS when I first started putting my son in daycare, then when it came for my daughters it wasn't easier and I would sit in my car while still in the parking lot and cry and I mean CRY. But, I had to work, I had no choice...I am just thankful I have a great daycare provider.
2006-07-11 15:49:03 · answer #4 · answered by Brians Texan Princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try reassuring your child that you will be back to get them that afternoon. My child cried and cried when I left him at preschool but he evenutally got better and would ask if I was coming to get him. I always assured him that I would pick him up or that his dad was if I couldn't. I also spoke with his teacher and she assured me that he was only crying for the first few minutes after I left.
2006-07-11 14:10:34 · answer #5 · answered by cht 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has to get used to being away from you. Don't feel bad, it will pass. If you pacify him too much, he'll always be afraid. I was shy when I went the kindergarden, and would be sick to my stomach if my best friend wasn't there and mommy would take me home. That means I was shy up until I turned 20 (pregnancy). My point is, if you interfere now he will always be that way.
2006-07-11 13:33:23 · answer #6 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he's ready to there. Is there anyway you can stay home with him? If not, can a grandparent watch him? Maybe you could get a babysitter. If it's that awful on him I would find another solution. Best of luck.
2006-07-16 14:17:15 · answer #7 · answered by Sugar Dumplin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry its natural....i'll bet two seconds after you are out of eyesight he is running around and playing. ask the caregivers how he does after you leave....eventually he will grow out of it as he will mature and realize you are not leaving him permanently and will come back.
2006-07-11 13:31:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its normal its seperation anxeity. it will pass in a few weeks .
2006-07-11 13:31:12 · answer #9 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋