how do you hit on women with out being turn down?

Question

just wanting to know how to hit on women the right way that will get me places, not just in bed.

Answer 1

Hit on the really ugly ones.

Answer 2

Life doesn't work like that. It's the same with women who will make the first move. They don't know if they will be turned down or not. You take your chances! Being turned down always seems to be looked at as a bad thing, it's not! There is a reason for everything. Instead of looking at it like it's a bad thing, try looking at it as there is a reason for it. Maybe something like she's a ***** or she has different interests than you do.

Answer 3

Ok, assuming you mean "hit on" in a dating sense and not anything violent, *lol*...

I don't think it is possible. I think the studies have been done, and that with men looking for women friends, platonic or otherwise, the success rate gets stuck at around 20% (lions hunting prey in Africa have about the same success rate, and they aren't extinct--yet). Meaning. You will be rejected 4 out of 5 times, all other things being equal (assuming you aren't a millionaire, or some genetic freak-o-nature like your average Boy Band singer).

And I dunno what to tell you. I don't. I am really just painfully shy and plain looking in real life....and rejection really hurts. I've had to deal with it from my own family since I could walk practically. And the one thing I have learned is:

It's biology. The female of the species always does the choosing, and they are *wired* at the DNA level to reject, reject, reject. It isn't you, ok? The overwhelming majority of the time, you can *have* the perfect hygiene, perfect job, perfect look going, you can have your life and reality going 120% your way....and *still* get rejected.

It isn't you. Women are wired to look for *perfect* mates, not just good ones. They want it all, the good DNA, cheap thrills *and* the good provider....and this goes the other way for men, who instinctively seek out *perfect* signs of female fertility, that hips-to-waist ratio, clear skin, shiny hair, etc...and who would just as soon *have* the harem as not. ;)

Being turned down is just plain biology. It is also just plain mean and cruel in a modern civilized society where truthfully, there are *only* so many Donald Trumps around flexing their bling and their biceps....but the truth is, most folks aren't *used* to thinking of it in terms of instinct, in terms of animal desire, because most folks are terrified of that idea, that they might be *gasps* animals!

**snorts** Like being a vegetable or a mineral is any better, duh.

But yeah. Unless you just crawled out of the open sewer, it isn't you. It isn't even me with me and *my issues*. It's just instincts screwing us over because most folks don't even know *what* to fight against, never mind *how to*.

Just saying....I don't have an answer except to cut yourself some slack, and to remember, if you get lucky one out of five times, you really are doing about average, really.

Answer 4

If you keep hitting you are bound to get a turn down once in a while. It is inevitable. But you also get better as you get to know what works for you.

Answer 5

The only way to be truly happy hitting on girls is to be willing to risk total annihilation... it'll drop the inhibitions and you can be yourself. The only downside is that, on occasion, you will be annihilated. In my experience, girls just want you to be yourself from the start... your true self will show up sooner or later anyway.

Answer 6

It is hit and miss and you will have to accept the downs with the ups

Answer 7

the best way to hit on a gurl is to ask her ,her name then ask her if u can sit next to her and just talk about the event that yall is doin so yall will have sumthin to talk about once that convo builds u should ask the gurl what she does or wut skool she go to or wuteva u knojust the regular stuff and then ask her if yall can meet somewhere again just to get to kno each otha and be urself but not imature

Answer 8

Drop any corny lines you know, be yourself of coarse, and try not to be too nervous. Confidence is a must!

Answer 9

What the hxll is wrong w/ you boy. For bloody sakes, what other "places" would you want to go...

Answer 10

well, don't use cheesy pickup lines, for one. just talk to them and get to know them a little bit and if she seems interested, ask her to dinner.