I'm in a pretty bad situation right now. Won't go in to many details, though. The point is, I know my ex didn't treat me very good, and I wasn't happy a lot of the time. I am pregnant with his baby. He was causing me a lot of stress by his actions, and I was always doubting him (because he was always lying, and i'd find out later on). I'm real depressed now because we are ignoring eachother. Like we never had a real relationship or something, and I feel like a complete idiot for falling for him, and still loving him. I know it's the best thing that we are apart right now, and I probably won't want him back, but it's hard. Any uplifting advice?
2006-07-11 06:08:36 · 11 answers · asked by Littlemissy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There's an egyptian proverb that says: go for the one who loves u, not the one U love. Thats becuz u guarantee they would always treat u good, cherish and respect u. I know its not easy 2 be with some1 else now becuz of ur pregnancy and so on but the world is full of good men and im sure u r one hell of a great person who deserves to be with some1 who gives u all the respect u need. Stay away from that jerk and the love u deserve will find its way 2 u in the time its meant to be.
2006-07-11 06:16:01 · answer #1 · answered by F15 2 · 6⤊ 2⤋
Don't give up on love. He may not love you but you will find someone who will. Right now you have a baby to worry about, and you need to be on your best. Focus on the child. I had a woman who I loved hurt me in a similar way (lying and Cheating) but don't give up, stay happy and let him go. Perhaps some day he just might come back to you!
2006-07-11 13:15:23 · answer #2 · answered by bigmonky2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just relax for your sake and your baby's sake, take care of yourself. being apart is a positive thing.. after u have been apart for some time, just evaluate your feelings. if you feel you are better off without him or that you don't love him any more, then just stay away. if u feel u still love him and want him back, then try to bring him back.. don't be depressed though. u wil find real love soon... Good luck
2006-07-11 13:23:51 · answer #3 · answered by messy_missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey this is Mason and I read what you had to say about your relationship and coming from a guys prepective youre in a hard situation right now. One thing is you say he lies alot the way i feal about that is (from experience) when they lie they usually dont stop because its kinda like an adict they start believing them self sooner or later anyhow just follow your heart and keep your faith in God and I think things will turn out just fine for ya! I'll remember you in my prayers also. And remember the hormones jumping around in there tricking u i some ways so like i said follow your heart it never lies!
your friend,
Mason
2006-07-11 15:45:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see:
1. Take care of yourself.
2. Take care of the baby.
3. Consider separation/divorce if your are married.
You don't want to subject your child to an ****** dad. Remember this, anyone can be a father, it takes a real man to be a DADDY.
2006-07-11 13:13:47 · answer #5 · answered by ntoriano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing for you to do right now is evaluate you & your child's future. I don't think you want your child in an environment were you and your ex are fighting all of the time. But if I was in your shoes I would put my child first in my life.
2006-07-11 13:15:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have made several mistakes up to this point, but do not continue to make them. Yes, you're pregnant, but you need to have this baby and raise it without him. He will not be there for you, and the baby. Count your losses, and move on. You CAN do this, but it will not be easy....however, better in the long run. Good Luck!
2006-07-11 13:18:07 · answer #7 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorta in that same situtation but my man juz has a really bad temper nd it scars me at times but ne ways trust me i kno the love is so strong but sometimes u HAVE 2 let go 4 ur oun good i do belive u should tell him bout the baby nd let him b appart of the babies life b-cuz thats juz the right thing 2 do but u DESERVE someone you can trust everyone does i belive u can work with this sitution but if he lies 2 much nd treats u bad find someone who will treat u right wat do u think u deserve?
2006-07-11 13:20:26 · answer #8 · answered by sexy 916 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is about compromise and giving of yourself. Try to hang in and relax for the baby's sake...
2006-07-11 13:12:40 · answer #9 · answered by lambgroni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there for over 15 years. Please trust your instincts. I can never get back all the time I lost, don't find yourself in my shoes.
2006-07-11 13:15:20 · answer #10 · answered by lia w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋