2006-07-11 05:56:03 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You don't need to make her understand. You are the parent and what you say should go regardless of your reasoning. If you try to reason with an 11 year old they will never have respect for authority. They will continuously try to argue or reason with their elders. You should never have to explain yourself to your child they should respect you and accept either yes or no.
2006-07-11 06:01:52 · answer #1 · answered by Knock Knock 4 · 3⤊ 4⤋
what is the problem? As long as it is a good monitored camp like the one the Girl Scouts run an 11yr old should be fine and placed with their own peers. She will probably grow alot over the summer or 2 weeks or whatever the course of the camp. My daughter went to gs camp over a few summers sure she got homesick but now she is 17 and just came back from 2 weeks in Japan as an ambassador with the People to People Program I doubt she would have ever had the courage to have gone halfway around the world on a once in a lifeline trip without the camp experience. Parents please do not hold your children back protect them yes but encourage them as well! Look into the camp and if it is correctly monitored please do her a favor and let her go!
2006-07-11 06:10:05 · answer #2 · answered by flchell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are the reasons you won't let her go to camp?
Next year I am going to send my daughter who will be 7 off to camp. As a kid I never got to go to camp, because my parents couldn't afford it. Depending on the camp, it might be a good experience for her. She will get a chance to experience new things and make new friends. If the reason you won't let her go, is because you don't trust her, then I understand your reason. But if you give her a little freedom now and let her know that you trust her, you will have a better relationship with her in the end.
2006-07-11 07:43:34 · answer #3 · answered by sunflowerlizard 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a Mother myself my daughter has been going to "Day Camp" for5 years . She started going when she was 6. However sleepaway camp is non-negotiable at this time and camping with friends is out. If she wants to go camping "roughin it" than absolutely she should go with you. If it is sleepaway camp well it can be considered but if it is for Day camp than yes you should give her that bit of freedom its only during the day, just find a reputable camp for her to attend. Tour the facilities meet the counselors. Sooner or later you will have to give her some freedoms. Good Luck.
2006-07-11 09:29:06 · answer #4 · answered by ead824 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't! I am a mother of four- 3 boys (16, 13 & 5) and one daughter (18). You have to decide if she is mature enough and stick to your guns. If you are comparing yourself to her at 11, wrong answer.
You actually need to consider letting her go to camp. Check out the camp thoroughly...go visit and then make a decision.
Start letting her go now...before she starts pulling away. Children are like springs--if you hold to tightly, and let go all at once, they will spring and bounce about wildly. If you let go gradually they will stand up, balanced and knowing they are supported by you .
2006-07-11 06:06:31 · answer #5 · answered by crystal J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mom, I understand how you feel I have an 11 year old boy, and it's difficult to loosen the umbilical cord (I know from experience) but I had realize that I have to loosen the string a little b/c he is getting older and I want him to learn to be independent as he matures and not depend on me so much when he becomes an adult. I know that she's only eleven but in 2 years she'll be a teenager. I'm not saying let her go, but if she wants to go to camp and meet new friends, I am sure that she is smart enough to handle herself properly, and I am certain that they are going to have adult supervisors to make sure that the kids are doing what they are suppose to do. It's important for them to know that mom/ dad will always be there for them even when they are adults, but they also need to realize that with adulthood comes responsibilities. And we as parents try to always protect our kids (even when adults) but sometimes mistakes can teach wonderful lessons in life. So try to ease up on her a little, let her grow up. Good luck!
2006-07-11 06:17:48 · answer #6 · answered by Ms. Hot Chocolate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think an 11 year old is capable of going to camp by themself.
2006-07-11 05:59:22 · answer #7 · answered by Kryzchek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
~the thing i am wondering is why you feel the need to go to camp with your daughter. my daughter is 9 & went by herself for 2 years. i think you need to trust & respect your daughter & understand that she is getting older. i sympathize with you that your baby is growing up, i wish i could keep my daughter a little girl forever, but time is cruel; it keeps going on whether you want it to or not. good luck!~
2006-07-11 06:09:25 · answer #8 · answered by hlpz76 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just tell her. You are the grown up. When you tell her no camp, that's enough. You don't owe her an explanation. You set the boundaries for her and that is one. She needs to learn that when you say no, it's final and you do not have to answer to her. If she doesn't learn boundaries now,you are headed for teen trouble. BIG time.
2006-07-11 06:01:21 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is old enough to go away to camp WITHOUT YOU. She will be fine you need to find something else to occupy your time while she is enjoying camp, swimming, boating, crafting, making life long friends. GET OVER IT.
2006-07-11 06:02:57 · answer #10 · answered by sinneragain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not comfortable sending her to camp without you then don't send her. Until she moves out, she goes by your rules. I don't see any reason why you wouldn't send her to camp alone if it's strictly a girls camp or a church function.
2006-07-11 06:02:27 · answer #11 · answered by Mommymonster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋