I have this raging desire for a girl I know. We get along great and there's deffinatly an attraction between us. However I'm married and she's about to be. We both kinda know its not but i think we both wish it could be.
2006-07-11 05:33:25 · 21 answers · asked by Nobigdeal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, well, what do you know? My dear, it is too plain to see that you are in a jam; however, i know it is all in your mind. Why? because she had never told you that she is in love with you neither have you told her that you are in love with her. Reason may be because contiously or subcontiously you both know that any feelings that you have for each other are not ment to be explored as you my dear is very much "married" and she is about to be married. Now why the phantacy or the fear that you may not have another chance to hold her close to you? is because she is about to be married that alone might have brought in some kind of fear within you which you may not have noticed and this fear could have generated into jealousy for the man that she is about being hooked to. this of cause may not be known to you as you so mistake it for attraction. Who knows: that could be the reason why this "raging desire" for her is growing out of control. may be if she is not about getting married you may still be able to control your desire for her because you have no body to compete with, have you asked yourself if that is not what makes you to have it out with her? whether you will feel the same if she is not about getting married? One could think that you want to eat your cake and have it as well. could that be the reason for your raging desire??
nevertheless, i do know and both of your inner mind must have testify it that having a carnal knowledge of each other at this time in your lives is not right and, i promise you that, what you think you have between you does not worth the disappointment(s) and hurt that will arise as a result of puting into practice what you think you felt for each other and that of your two partners. Think of your children if you had any: How will they feel?
Please think carefully, before you do what you will regret for the rest of your life. Permit me to tell you what the Christian Bible said about such things as this. that sin start by thinking about things and it germinate by doing it and when it's full-grown it leads to destruction or death. You may not be a Christian but you might agree with me that it is a wise saying and a logical fact.
thank you and may you find a perfect peace as you do the right thing since it's before you. Cheers!
2006-07-11 06:48:08 · answer #1 · answered by Lovely 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are able to entertain these desires, you shouldn't have got married in the first place. Sorry this isn't what you want to hear but when you make a life long commitment to someone, that's exactly what it is, a life-long promise. If you want to pursue this, then you're no longer able to meet your obligations as a husband and should admit that to your wife. Be a Man about it not a coward.
2006-07-11 05:42:58 · answer #2 · answered by ʎǝ1ʇʇnɯ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its men like you that cause a high divorce status. Why didn't you think about it before you go getting married. As for her she better do what you didn't do and think about is the man she thinks she's in love with is the one. Don't even go there because you caused this you better go look at your wedding pictures or go f*ck your wife 5 times to get the other chick out your system.Think about the vowels you said
2006-07-11 05:40:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both know this is wrong. If you even think about acting out your desires ... you could easily end up damaging FOUR lives.
If you're not ready to make the commitment to your wife ... get out of the marriage until you grow up.
If she's not ready to make the commitment to her fiance, she needs to break it off.
Deal with ONE relationship at a time, sir. If neither of you is mature enough to deal with commitment ... get single and stay that way until you are.
Good luck, dude ... you're headed for a world of hurt.
2006-07-11 05:39:41 · answer #4 · answered by Rob R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a mate of mines brother got married last year and left his wife 5 months later for the girl he truly loved if u honestly think this girl is "THE ONE" yes people will get hurt but you have 2 think of yourself as selfish as that sounds its true, its a life of thinking what if f u stay with your wife, that alone could ruin your marriage.hope Ive help,xx
2006-07-11 06:07:01 · answer #5 · answered by tasha_curry163 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop fantasising, you've made a choice. Stick with it. What do you expect us to do, Agree with cheating on your wife. No it's not good. If you really want this girl then get a devorce. But cheating is not an option. Marriage is sacred. If your wife could only see this now.
2006-07-11 05:38:06 · answer #6 · answered by Yves L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both have a choice. Turn around and walk and away. Or go for it after you left whom your with. Don't do anything while your both with others. But I would take the time to really think through.
2006-07-11 05:38:58 · answer #7 · answered by B D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it be just a wish. Fantasy is always better than reality. No need to mess up your marriage and hurt your wife just for a fancy crazy imagination.
2006-07-11 05:59:09 · answer #8 · answered by teaser79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a man and I know exactly what you mean, I am in the same boat. You can either risk your marrage and see what happens or you can do whatever it takes to stay away from her as much as possible. It is totally one of the hardest decision to make as a man, don't you think
2006-07-11 05:43:00 · answer #9 · answered by mesoho 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Throughout the course of your life you will ALWAYS meet people with whom you share an attraction. If you can't deal with that without acting upon it, then you're not suited for marriage.
2006-07-11 05:37:58 · answer #10 · answered by Mr J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋