Long story short. My brother "Mark" lives with his girlfriend "Becky" and HER 4 yr old daughter "Sally". They live in an unacceptle housing condition. (Food everywhere, dirty dishes piled up, dog crap/pee on the floor, leaking roof, ect. ect.... nasty nasty house). Becky doesn't take proper care of her daughter, she'll sleep in til when ever leaving Sally to find food for herself. Becky has laundry piled up that would take at least 20-25 loads to do. Sally wears dirty, raggy cloths that Becky gets from yard sales. WITHOUT washing them first. Pants, shirts, panties....whatever. She just does't wash them first. I contacted SRS and they gave them notice of when they would be there. That gave Mark and Becky plenty of time to 'clean up' and act like nothing was wrong. What can I do to protect this innocent 4 yr old? I can't confront my brother about it. He has a short temper and can't handle anyone telling him Becky is a lousy mother. Please help me help a 4 yr old. HELP!
2006-07-11 05:15:27 · 2 answers · asked by TJ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I might add too that Becky doesn't have a job. She is too lazy to keep one for more than 3 days. My brother has a good job. I don't see why it's so hard for HER to keep up the house. She is home 24-7. She is just to dang lazy to keep house and to take good care of her daughter.
2006-07-11 05:17:03 · update #1
Oh, yeah. Forgot to mention that Becky lives off the state. The state bought her a car 5 months ago (Suposably for her to get a job) She gets financial help from the state. Well, that should sum it all up.
2006-07-11 05:18:38 · update #2
Call back and explain what happened. Tell them that it needs to be a random unannounced visit. By the way, what's SRS? Shouldn't you be calling CPS?
2006-07-11 05:19:18 · answer #1 · answered by caitlinerika 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is easy to judge someone situation by looks. I have been thru this with my sister, I have worked in the social service field for years and SRS will not likely catch them. It sucks, ut, it is the truth. You need to pull either your brother aside or have someone who can talk to him with out going off. Or you need to talk to becky or have someone talk to her about it. And share your concerns, don't be rude or demeaning, just let her know you truly care and have concerns. Offer to help clean or maybe take her to the DAV or garage sales and show her how to buy appropriate clothing. Offer to help her with the laundry and show her how to do it properly. She may have grown up in a poor environment. She may be battling things emotionally that you can't understand and she may just be doing what she is doing because she can't handle anything else, she may be in an abusive relationship and may have low self esteem and just not care. Try to reach out and see if she needs your help you may be the person that gets her thru this.
2006-07-11 12:25:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋