OK I love this guy, and he loves me, but we don't wanna hook up we just wanna be friends. We're both single and everything. Well he says he loves me and all but yet he goes off n flirts with this other girl and is all the time callin her hott n just calling me pretty. Idk what to do. Should I just get over him or get over it? I'm so confused but I just wanna understand, Someone plz help!!!!!!
2006-07-11 05:13:17 · 24 answers · asked by game_freak517 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have to remember that teenagers are in a very volatile situation. Their hormones are raging, they are dating for the first time, they've never had real relationships before, and their likes and dislikes change like the wind.
Nobody is born knowing how to have a relationship. It's something we all have to learn by trial and error. It's frustrating and your feelings get hurt on a regular basis.
This guy is hurting you without even realizing it ... because he doesn't know any better. He hasn't yet learned how to look at things from any way but his own. Empathy is thinking of how the OTHER person feels and views something ... and it can be difficult to learn.
Have faith. Look at how quickly teenagers' minds change about everything! That band that was so hot last week has already been replaced by a new one, right? The clothes that were "in" last year are so not in now, right?
That's the way it is with teenagers and their love life. Give it some time ... and maturity will help offset some of that "instant change" that's happening in your life right now.
Hopefully, this guy will learn quickly not to hurt your feelings and your relationship can mature and develop. Good luck, honey!
2006-07-11 05:21:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Oh jeez. Don't you know repeating what someone else does just hurts more people? Then you're using someone just to get back at the person you really like and that's just cruel. It's doing exactly what he's doing.
Officially? You're not dating. So he doesn't see you as an obligation. That's why you're nothing but friends. Don't get hut by it. Talk to him about how you feel. That you want him to be yours and only yours. If he says no, then you go find someone who can really appreciate your heart, who will make you really happy. Best of luck.
2006-07-11 05:18:49 · answer #2 · answered by iambic_chatterbox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like his primary goal at this point is to hook up with someone - since it's not going to be you, his efforts are going to be spent elsewhere. Doesn't mean you can't be friends, but if it bothers you that much when he's with someone else (he will be soon), my advice is cut yourself off from him for a while and "detox" from him. Also check out a book called "He's Just Not That Into You." A lifesaver. Bottom line: Don't compromise yourself or do something you already decided not to do, just to make him happy or make him like you more.
2006-07-11 05:20:13 · answer #3 · answered by LisaT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like he does not want to put all his eggs into one basket. I sounds a little harse to say but he is probably just trying to save face in case you do not feel the same way. Also just saying someone is hot does not mean he feels the same way about some girl on the street as he feels for you. Let him know how you feel and find out what he says in return so you will quit beating yourself up.
2006-07-11 05:19:05 · answer #4 · answered by 456tbj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on pronto girl. He sounds toxic (someone who isn't building you up). When the right guy comes along it should be fun and flow much more easily. Until then I would focus on YOU! Enjoy being by yourself, with yourself learn all the things you love about yourself. Then you won't worry what he or anyone thinks ;) PS Not that you should care, but you will become more attractive and interesting when you focus on yourself and your desires.
2006-07-11 05:20:06 · answer #5 · answered by h1joy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have already decided to be friends, then what is the issue? Maybe he loves you but just as a friend. It sounds like he is interested in her as something more & if you are not able to accept this as a friend perhaps you should find someone else to hang around.
2006-07-11 05:20:23 · answer #6 · answered by Selkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he likes you as a friend, and not a girlfriend. There's nothing wrong with having friends. I'd say just get over it, and move on. If you dwell on it, then you'll just stay depressed. That makes you unapproachable to other guys. Be fun and happy instead.
2006-07-11 05:19:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anna Belle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart,,,saying I love you is SO easy but really meaning it is very hard...If this guy would really love UUUUUUU and just UUU it would really be just U and not other chicks so Get over him and give yourself some time to meet other guys...I almost forqot if you are young well enjoy life first honey,,,,and be very careful in what guys tell u...listen and read between lines,,,,A person in love respects his partner all the way......
2006-07-11 05:18:39 · answer #8 · answered by maritza m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think you are in love with each other - find your self a better guy as a boyfriend - if you two can stay friends then great if not you'll have to move on - good luck!
2006-07-11 05:20:18 · answer #9 · answered by Heather 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, i replaced into surprised coz u by no skill tried to offer up using ur life's struggles. you need to always have self belief to your self that you're going to discover pride on your life and discover happiness. (dont do drugs inspite of the actuality that) . now to not be so non secular yet have self belief also the fellow who's above us :) and by skill of ways Congratulations on your commencement..proceed what you've all started.
2016-12-10 07:56:09 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋