How do I train my 3 1/2 yr old son to use the bathroom at night and not wet the bed?

Question

He's potty trained during the day, I cut off all liquids at 7:30 (for a 10:00 bed time), he goes before bed and I wake him up a few hours later to go, but he still pees the bed. He just won't wake up on his own to go!

Answer 1

I have a 4.5 year old boy who still doesn't wake up to pee. The Dr. said it's normal. Not to stress out about it. We just put pull ups on him before he goes to bed and thats that. You don't want to force the issue or make a big deal of it. There aren't many adults with this problem so almost everyone eventually grows out of it.
If you son is anything like mine, he can sleep through anything. A 10 piece band could go through the room and nothing. So kids (boys especially) who are deep sleepers sometimes delay nighttime potty training.
I wouldn't worry about it. It will eventually happen.

Good luck!

Answer 2

What causes bed-wetting?
Some of the causes of bed-wetting include the following:

Genetic factors (it tends to run in families)
Difficulties waking up from sleep
Slower than normal development of the central nervous system--this reduces the child's ability to stop the bladder from emptying at night
Hormonal factors (not enough antidiuretic hormone--this hormone reduces the amount of urine made by the kidneys)
Urinary tract infections
Abnormalities in the urethral valves in boys or in the ureter in girls or boys
Abnormalities in the spinal cord
Inability to hold urine for a long time because of small bladder
Bed-wetting isn't caused by drinking too much before bedtime. It's not a mental or behavior problem. It doesn't happen because the child is too lazy to get out of bed to go to the bathroom. And children do not wet the bed on purpose or to irritate their parents.

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Answer 3

it's normal to wet the bed until about 5 years of age after that there is a posibility of a medical problem. put him in pull-ups over night and don't get him up to go to the bathroom, you don't need to. every morning when you change him out of the pull-up mark the calender for wet or dry, for example i used a blue marker for wet and a red marker for dry. it could take another year or so to get him dry over night. when you put him to bed tell him that it's ok to get up in the night to go potty, or wheatever your word for using the bathroom is. do this everynight and make sure, if dad is around, that dad tells him too. my oldest (youngest is just starting potty training) was night potty trained by just over 4 1/2 years. i started to notice that his pull-ups were dry about 2 times a week then he started staying dry more and more and finally when i noticed he had been dry every night for a week i let him wear real underwear to bed and he hasn't wet the bed since then. just in case, though, i put a waterproof mattress on his bed. he just turned 5.

Answer 4

Your question is not unique and has plagued moms and doctors for generations. I recommend that you talk with the pediatrician for advice. Regardless of what people say, there is no normal age for children to be potty trained. Some kids take longer than others. Your doctor knows your child better than we will and can let you know some tricks that will help. Right now, this is a completely frustrating situation, so I hope you find the solution.

Answer 5

I did this with my son. Whenever you have to get up at night or if you don't normally get up make yourself get up and make him go to the bathroom maybe even a couple of times at night. I never thought it was always necessary to completely wake my son up; just enough to get him in there and tell him to go. It took awhile to where he eventually got up on his own to go. I think the Doc's recommend not to panic over wet beds until they are past the age of 6, I think, but my son quit way before then. I hope it works...it did with my son.

Answer 6

sometimes this age can become scared of the night. if you do not have nightlights leading to the bathroom this could be why.

also look for signs of sexual abuse - hiding under the bed and or closet spitting biting where he or she once hasn't behaviour changes. Although we feel we watch them and protect them sometimes thise we trust mess with kids. it is always a good idea to keep an eye on this. bedwetting can be a sign.

also keep in mind that some kids just do not wake up and are bed wetters in which case a doctor can give you better suggestions.

Answer 7

Set an alarm for yourself and wake him up to take him. After his body gets use to waking up at a certain time everynight to use the bathroom, he will do it on his own. Or he might just be a bedwetter. There are some children who just wet the bed. It could go on for a while. If it goes on too much longer, you might want to consider what phsychological things might be affecting him.

Answer 8

My son slept right on through wetting the bed, we just put pullups on him and he outgrew it by the time he was about 4 1/2 or so.

Answer 9

i think for a lot of children its just something that they have to grow into. i know my sister still wet the bed until she was like 8 and that was because she was such a deep sleeper that she never felt while she was asleep that she had to go to the bathroom.

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Answer 10

i reccomend letting him grow out of it.....let him sleep through the night, use good-nights or a mattress cover (or both) and take him to the potty before bed and first thing in the morning.