Did anyone else not let their fiance see their dress?

Question

I haven't yet and won't until I walk down the aisle. It isn't for some superstitious reason. I just want to see his face when he sees me in the most gorgeous thing I've ever owned for the first time. And I want that memory he holds to be special.

It's driving him nuts. He could care less about fashion and style. Most of the time he doesn't care what I wear. He just isn't into that stuff and that's fine. But he keeps asking questions about it. And trying to lure me in to giving him more details about it. (He gets eerily close to succeeding sometimes too.) I'm finding it harder and harder to not tell him, because of course I want to spill my guts about it. I'm super excited about my dress and I want him to share in that. Any suggestions on how to help keep my mouth shut when my fiance restarts the Spanish Inquistion about my dress?

Answer 1

I also kept my dress from my husband until the ceremony, and for the same reasons you are. Stick to your guns! You will be glad you did. Tell him it is the last secret you will ever have from him. I told my husband the basics-long sleeves, not low cut, ect. It's only natural to want to share this with the person who means more to you than anyone, but the wait is worth it. Good luck!

Answer 2

Just tell him that he got the satisfaction of surprising you with the proposal (I am assuming he proposed to you?) so therefore, you should have the satisfaction of surprising him with your gown. Tell him that this is just something that women have dreamed about their whole lives, and you simply wouldn't want it any other way. He's probably just really excited about it, more than he's letting off. My fiance isn't much into fashion either, and even though he tries to hide it (because let's face it, they are guys) I know deep down he's pretty pumped. It's cute that he's asking you all sorts of questions!
Another way to meet in the middle with this one, as this is what my fiance and I are doing - we are having a "first meeting" set-up with the photographer about 3 hours before the wedding. It will be just the two of us in a room with his back turned away, and I am going to walk in and hopefully blow his mind. This to me is really intimate and one of those special moments you and your fiance can have - and the photographer will capture that very first response from him too! Just a suggestion...but I can totally understand you wanting to wait until you walk down the aisle too! Have fun girl!

Answer 3

I didn't either. For the same reasons actually. It was priceless. My husband doesn't cry but even from the end of the aisle I could see him tearing up. I wouldn't have traded that for anything.

As far as keeping your mouth shut, listen carefully. Maybe even tell him the complete opposite. If your dress is white tell him its tye dye. If your dress is a two piece tell him it looks a lot like a bathing suit. Make up a total bogus dress that is so unbelievable he'll drop the subject. That's what I did. He thought it was hilarious.

Answer 4

It's just superstition! I showed my husband the dresses I liked and gave him an idea of what the dress would look like...but he never saw me in the dress.
Two reasons: 1) I wanted to see his raw reaction when he saw me walk down the isle for the first time.
2) Superstition or not, I did not want to chance any bad luck on my marriage! I can safely say we've had nothing but good luck!!!!

Answer 5

I don't think that it's superstitious, but I waited a whole YEAR! My husband had no idea. And that moment is sooooo special. I loved that he wanted to be surprised by it. (He didn't want to see the dress!) He started to cry, then his mom, then his sister, then my mom, then my sister.....It's just so much more climactic when they don't know what the dress looks like. I think that he will probably remember that moment for the rest of his life, and so will I.

If the dress is in your house, put it somewhere else (A friend's house, your parents house).

Tell him how you feel about his constant inquisition about your dress. About how you want it to be special. Ask him to respect your wishes and stop asking about it.

All the excitement is probably making it hard on him too. He wants to share in your excitement by seeing the dress, and taking some pressure (surprise) out of it.

Just remember, HOLD YOUR GROUND!!

Good luck!

Answer 6

I did not let my fiance see my dress at all before the wedding. The first time he saw it was when I was walking down the aisle on my dad's arm. I will never forget the look on his face as I was walking to him. It is priceless! The best memory of our wedding day for both of us! I think letting him see it before hand would detract from that, just my opinion.

Answer 7

My husband knew he wouldn't get to see my dress until that day, and I told him not to ever ask me about it! Tell your fiance that you want it to be a surprise and that you really wish he would stop asking you about it. Tell him that he might be happy to know what your dress looks like but in the long run it will hurt your feelings and it might make that first look at you less special. Good luck.

Answer 8

tell him how many people think it means bad luck for the marriage . Just like if it rains on your wedding day you are going to have many tears in your marriage.And honey make sure this isn't the first and last time you dazzle him with your beauty ,men need reminders every once in awhile . like looking real sexy but classy when you meet his co-workers or friends,and really show him a lot of attention ,not kissing ,but getting him his drink or food. He will feel and look like a King before his friends and he will be proud. and you will be happy too.

Answer 9

I didn't let my husband see or know anything about my dress. Heck our wedding day was the first time he had ever even saw me in a dress, and we had been together for 3 years. That is the fun about it new life and new dress and tux for your new beginning. Don't ruin it let it be a surprise.

Answer 10

My fiance has seen pictures of my dress, but, of course, hasn't seen ME in it. Only my mother, father, and family friend, have seen me wear it.
But then again, my dress wasn't some expensive wedding gown. It's just a sleek off-white dress that costed me $20, but it suits me just fine. I've never been into the costly things.