all the girls out there. come and lend some advise to me..?

Question

I've been friends with this girl for a number of years. And she has a boyfriend too.. the thing is i in love with her. We were considered as best frens cause sometimes i date her for movie or dinner and only we 2 go out all the time. If i would tell her I love her.. How should I start with? Or is it better be friends with her and dun let her know that i'm really deeply in love with her? What should I do?

well well.. actually I knew that she and her bf are quarelling all the time but she didn't tell me. She will only tell her friends which are my other girl friends. Some of them will let me know how they goin. And indeed I will be better in taking care of her than her bf but 1 thing is i'm not as rich as her bf.

Answer 1

you already wasted your precious time by not expressing your love towards her. you tell her without any hesitation that you are loving her and tell her that even if she does not like your proposal, you will be a good friend. if you can not talk to her about your love directly, approach a person who is close to both of you. but do not keep your feelings of love in your heart only. she may also be thinking like the same way unless he says i love you why should i express i am loving him. nothing will happen if you express your love. all the best.

Answer 2

Not to be rude but start by reading a spelling book. quit shortening your words i think i dropped in IQ level just reading your paragraph. You should tell her because maybe the feelings are mutual. You never know unless you ask. I had a friend just like that now were happily engaged. We had been best friends since high school, we went to same college and about two years ago, he took me to dinner and confessed how much he loved me and the thing was i loved him too. So it worked out becuase i thought things would never happen. Although i was the one with the boyfriend and him doing that even though i was committed to someone else was a very courageous act. Sit her down privately. Hope everything goes well.

Answer 3

You should take her out, just the 2 of you as normal, but at her door give her something nice, like a first date would, but not too overwhelming that she'll be nervous the rest of the night. Then, somewhere during the middle of the night, over ice cream, or "Whataburger" or whatever, you just need to tell her, "I know that you like ______, and you know that I think he has great qualities, but I'm really into you and I'd like to pursue our relationship as a more romantic one." Don't fidget b/c that'll make her nervous you're about to say something really bad (like somebody died or something). Then say, "I'm not apologizing for telling you, because I'll never be sorry I did that, but I know you probably want to get back home and sleep on this so if you want to go, I'll take you." This will put the ball in her court and make her much more comfortable. Good luck and I hope this helps!

Answer 4

Life is way too short not to tell her!
My husband did the same thing, and now I realize that marrying this man is the best thing I have ever done.
You will never be able to live with yourself if you don't say something. You don't want to be 80 yrs old, thinking to yourself, "I wish I would have said something".
Besides, if she is not the right girl for you, you won't even worry about this heartache when the right girl actually does come along.
Good Luck!!!!

Answer 5

Good21friend,

I believe you need to evaluate what you are willing to accept. Can you go on acting as though you just want to be a 'friend' to her, knowing that she is with another when she is not with you, and thinking of him even when she is with you. On the other hand, could you live without her? Are you willing to take the chance? Telling her how you feel could end in an awkward friendship, or no friendship. Make your decision soon, though, and then stick to it! Good Luck, from Topaz

Answer 6

DON"T DO IT!!!!!!!!!!!!! I had a "best" friend for 13 years and he stayed after me to date him but I didn't want to ruin the friendship, even though I knew (thought) he loved me and that he probably would be my best choice. Well after many years, I gave him, it lasted about a year, and then he became the same person to me that he was to all of his flings. NOW, we are nothing to one another. When we see each other we don't even talk. Think about what you're doing. It may or may not work for you, just take a bit of advice. Good Luck!!!!

Answer 7

That's really sweet. But she has a boyfriend?? Don't mess with her relationship. But maybe if you sent little message that you like her, she may turn her attention from her bf and think about you. Don't say you love her right away. No matter what. Girls don't want to hear that there best guy friend is in love with them.

Answer 8

That's very sweet. Well, first of all, we don't know this girl, so we can't tell you how to react or act towards her. Second of all, we don't know you. What your style is, what your personality is like. So all I can tell you is that you shouldn't ruin the relationship as friends. If you're already dating (going out to movies, just the two of you) what more could you gain from being her boyfriend? Best of luck.

Answer 9

You should tell her, maybe she feels the same way. Maybe you two could be an item, but tred carefully so you don't ruin the friendship. Actually, you may want to consider if it doesn't turn out that she is in love with you too, would telling her be worth the risk. Good luck.

Answer 10

I think you should let her know. She may feel the same way, but didn't think you felt that way. Take her out to eat, bring her flowers and chocolate and take her to a movie or something. Tell her how you feel. Or go for a romantic walk on the beach and tell her. Good luck.