We went grocery shopping together and he forgot and left his check book at the counter, so I picked it up to look at it to make sure it was his. I was behind him at the counter.
Her name was right there under his. They have been divorced over 2 yrs.. Whats with him? He says he just was too busy to remove her name from his checking. I told him you don't remove a name, you simply close the acct and open a new one with your name only on it. He took her off after I told him off. I certainly would not want my ex on my checking account. I have moved on.
I feel like I am being stupid to stay with him. His x is re married. I am sure her husband would be wondering what the **** that is all about.
2006-07-11 04:49:39 · 6 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well let's cut him a little bit of slack. Her name being on there, and her actually writing checks on the account are two different things. After you expressed your feelings he removed the name, so obviously he wants to make you happy. Guys just don't think about things the way women do. I wouldn't have liked it either. But I wouldn't be thinking of leaving him over it, unless there were other issue's as well.
2006-07-11 04:56:02 · answer #1 · answered by sparkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't write checks very often - it is possible that he just didn't get around to ordering new ones, changing the account etc. It can get expensive to order new checks plus the hassle of the trip to the bank etc.. Most important would be if she was still using it. That doesn't sound like the case. The fact that he was so quick to change it once you pointed it out says a lot. Men are just bad about tending to details like this. Don't sweat the small stuff if you want this relationship to last.
2006-07-11 11:56:19 · answer #2 · answered by arkiemom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can agree with everyone else here.... you brought it to his attention and he delt with it. Now if he didnt get it removed then that would have been another story, but the point is he did it whe you asked. guys dont thik the way we do, they have to be told what to do and when to do it sometimes. If they are no longer together and she has since been married then honey dont worry about it. Like the other person said, if she was still writing check to that account, then that's another thing. But he handled it and I think that alone proves that he was willing to do that for you. it just sounds like an honets mistake on his part. let it go now and move on!
2006-07-11 12:15:40 · answer #3 · answered by shawny2623 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel stupid --- some men don't see the importance in removing the ex's name from accounts --- while you are at it ---make sure his life insurance policy doesn't list her as beneficiary...
2006-07-11 12:00:31 · answer #4 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not cool. I would be asking the spouse to close it or take their name off of it. Not Good.
2006-07-11 11:51:36 · answer #5 · answered by Beth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's to lazy to get a new checking account
2006-07-11 11:52:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋