I have a ummm friend whose been dating this guy for quite a few years now. They are both 21. They really love each other but started dating when they were only 17. Anyways, is it alright for the girlfriend to let her boyfriend see another chick for sexual purposes only? I mean if the girlfriend knows the other chick and the other chick knew the whole situation and everybody was alright with it, is it ok? The reason I ask is because the girlfriend likes to have sex about 5-6 times a week but the boyfriends sex drive is way higher and would rather him just be with one more chick that the girlfriend knows is clean and taking birth control than have him eventually go out and cheat with random chicks. Has anybody ever done this before and if so has it worked out? The girlfriend never suggested it to the boyfriend yet but is concerned because she always see's guys going out and cheating on their girlfriends because they don't get enough sex back home among other reasons.
2006-07-11 04:34:20 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
toooooooooooooooo long question
2006-07-11 04:39:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
bad bad idea, high sex drive or not, any guy can learn to control his......... temptations. If they have sex 5-6 times a week, that should be enough, and if it's not then he can wait for a few hours. but that's quite possibly the worst idea I've ever heard, and it will most certainly lead to the destruction of the relationship. Think of all the things that could go wrong: STDs from the new partner? then all 3 of them could get infected. Less feelings for the girlfriend and spending less time with her? Thinking of both girls as sexual objects when you're doing it that much? Jealousy between the girls? Eventual feelings for the partner instead of the girlfiend. Tell her it's a crap idea and that if her boyfriend can't control his sexual desires for her then he can go elsewhere
2006-07-11 04:41:33 · answer #2 · answered by pieninja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this has happen and most guy has neither done this or has thought of it. so here is the problem. You need a guy that can control his sex drive. it is hard, but hey, if a guy can't control, the relationship wrong last even if you two date for 3 years and marry for 10 and has 5 kids. right? So talk to the guy. but here is a good trick.
sex 5-6 time a week,
find him a job
and make him do some of your homework
go out every other weekeen
With this life, no guy has energy to cheat.
2006-07-11 04:39:55 · answer #3 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what the heck???????????
this has got to be the dumbest thing iv ever heard or read. i cant believe these three people.
and i dont want you to get all mad at me, but by the way you started to type..." i have a ummm friend.." it seems to me that you are the girlfriend who is letting her boyfriend have sex with that other girl???? if not then im sorry i said it.
but its not a good thing here. birth control is not all that great and they could have a kid together. what will you do then? give him over to her?
gosh this so stupid i cant even think what to write here.
this "friend" of yours should really wake up. she should have trust in her man. and her man should know how to control his penis during the day. gosh you people make me sick. i cant continue this.
all i have to say, then ill finish, is that its stupid what these three people are doing. there is no relationship between none of them. there is no love. there is no trust. there is no communication. there is NOTHING THERE.
i cant take this anymore. im getting so mad at this situation. how could anyone allow this to happen??????????
2006-07-11 04:42:40 · answer #4 · answered by All4Christ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her intentions are so good in this situation. She wants to ensure that her man isn't unsatisfied so she is trying to set up a way for him to gain satisfaction without having to sneak around to do it. Though her intentions are good, I don't think that this is the best solution. If she allows him this freedom, his mind may start to wander and more liberties can be taken in the relationship. This could also develop an unhealthy attraction to this other girl ruining what they already have. Part of the problem can be fixed from her end and part of it from his. For him, he must learn to practice self control. Having sex only once a day can make the actual experience itself better. Controlling his mind to know that in order to be satisfied, he needs to focus a lot of energy in that one encounter each day will make it more satisfying for both him and her. As she becomes more satisfied, her sex drive will increase. Although once a day may seem like too much for her, if she focuses on doing what it takes to satisfy him, she herself will be more satisfied and will want it more often as a result. I would just encourage your friend to work hard to strengthen their sex instead of relying on a third party to meet his need.
2006-07-11 04:47:43 · answer #5 · answered by kristinaalspaw 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it would not be a good idea because eventually there will be resentment issues on your part. You are both 21 and he is peaking sexually and will start to drop off in a few years. if he loves you and is any kind of man he will curve his sexual appetite with self control. You on the other hand will not peak untill you are further into your 20's early 30's so be paitent things will change.
2006-07-11 04:44:12 · answer #6 · answered by "THE BEAST" 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really loves her and wants to remain with her, he'll accept that he isn't going to get sex all the time. By bringing another woman into the picture, it is putting a lot of risk on the relationship. Can you really trust a guy who willingly tells you "Yea, ok, I'll go and have sex with her." It may seem like a good idea, but someone is going to get hurt in the end.....
2006-07-11 04:42:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure it's okay... if she wants to destroy her relationship with him.
You should never bring somebody else into a relationship for any reason. what if he likes her sex better than your friend's and leaves her? If he really loves your friend he will satisfy his own needs on those times that she is not interested. 5 or six times a week is a lot. He's getting it almost every day! If he needs it more than that, maybe he should get a job or a hobby.
2006-07-11 04:56:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Almost sounds like a trap for the guy... I see how she views this, and I'm having trouble understanding why she would allow it. Sure, he won't cheat on her as much, but he's still cheating if he's banging other girls! That just shouldn't be allowed. I guess its up to her though, if she's alright with it... But what happens when he gets tired of the friend? Hmm...
2006-07-11 04:41:17 · answer #9 · answered by John McGrawl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, sweetie! You're very young and your heart certainly has you a bit confused right now. It sounds like you're almost desperate to keep this guy as long as he doesn't leave you! With raging hormones, this "arrangement" is something your guy would probably love. Hon, you might as well be begging him on your hands and knees to do anything but leave you! I hope over time that you'll gain more self-respect and self-esteem, cause if this guy's apparent "sex-drive" and sexual compatibility with yours is taking precedence, it's time to start really looking at how much you value yourself. This idea you're proposing just stinks of all sorts of trouble brewing. Please take a look at your personal values and remember to love yourself!
2006-07-12 07:51:06 · answer #10 · answered by Littlefox 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really think this is ok? Cmon people, this is horrible, how are they gonna deal with this down the road? Are they gonna get married and have this happen? He has his cake and is eating it too. He is taking too much advantage of this situation. Maybe he could become polygamous, that way he could have more than one, all the time. She needs to give him the ultimatum, Me or her, not both, he doesnt need sex so bad that often that he cannot live. Its his decision.
2006-07-11 04:41:53 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋